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To think cleaner could have flushed the loo?

207 replies

Furiousaboutinstarubbish · 09/05/2018 18:27

Is this an unreasonable expectation? Ds 7 had done a poo without me realising and not flushed. Isn't that just a given when you're cleaning the bathroom?

OP posts:
InspMorse · 10/05/2018 06:17

Maybe in future you could check the toilet/s before she arrives if your family is prone to forgetting?

InspMorse · 10/05/2018 06:18

Why tax free????

Smeddum · 10/05/2018 06:20

No

PunkrockerGirl59 · 10/05/2018 06:28

No I wouldn't, I've more self respect than that.
Teach your 'busy' family to flush the toilet ffs, it takes seconds.

MissReginaPhilange · 10/05/2018 06:31

#1stworldproblems #loggate #turdawareness

If this is the biggest challenge you face during the day....wether or not to reprimand your cleaner for not flushing a floater....then I would certainly say you are a lucky lady. Maybe your son just did in fact do what I like to call a double flusher...they are stubborn little bastards. Or maybe axtually your cleaner has some sort of net...scoops the poop cleans the loo and puts it back where she found it. Who knows. I shall stay tuned for the next episode of "Ubenders" to find out what happens next....true edge of your toilet seat stuff this

Snugglywithmycat17 · 10/05/2018 06:33

Not read the whole post but for goodness sake, u wee not asking in the cleaner to pick the poo out of the toilet. Pushing a button takes moments and I would absolutely expect someone to do that if they were then cleaning the toilet

AjasLipstick · 10/05/2018 06:34

You really, REALLY need to drill it into your child to flush OP.

There's nothing more disgusting to me than a visiting child....friend of my DC. not flushing.

It's very basic manners.

AjasLipstick · 10/05/2018 06:35

would you be happy to accept 30 pounds, tax free, for about 90 minutes work which includes bathroom cleaning in the remit, for a busy household with children who may forget to flush a toilet in an otherwise respectful and tidy house?

Definitely not.

polkadotwellies · 10/05/2018 06:38

I'd be more embarrassed there was a turd in the loo than being angry at her not flushing it.

polkadotwellies · 10/05/2018 06:39

It's very basic manners.

Exactly

harshbuttrue1980 · 10/05/2018 06:39

You should be raising your children to see that having help in the home is a privilege and that a cleaner is someone to be respected, not someone who is below them.i have a cleaner, no kids but a young niece who stays in the holidays, and I teach her to be helpful and kind. And no, I wouldn't flush the loo of an entitled child or adult for 30, it's a matter of respect.no amount of money is worth being treated like a lower being

CalF123 · 10/05/2018 06:40

YABVVVVU

She's employed as a cleaner, not a slave. It's pretty disgusting and cruel tbh to leave human faeces for her to deal with. It really demonstrates a lack of respect for her.

Smeddum · 10/05/2018 06:43

It’s interesting that this thread is divided completely down the middle.

One half think know that it’s disrespectful to the cleaner and that OP is directing her anger in the wrong place.

The other half think it’s funny and have no thought for the cleaner.

Very telling indeed!

WeWere0nABreak · 10/05/2018 06:44

Why is no tax being paid, OP?

Notthatwomanagain · 10/05/2018 06:44

I have never ever asked a cleaner to clean our toilets. Have had several cleaners over the years and whilst they do bathrooms in general they are not expected to clean the toilets (we have four)
It’s a simple but grim job and I always clean the toilets and leave the kids closed the morning before she arrives

Basic manners IMHO.
I get that public toilet cleaners have to deal with it and those loos are generally much worse but for a domestic one house cleaner there is no need.

And public toilet cleaners should be paid huge amounts of money not MW.

Smeddum · 10/05/2018 06:49

And public toilet cleaners should be paid huge amounts of money not MW

I agree with this!

If I had a cleaner I’d clean our loos before they came too, in the same way I’d tidy up so they were able to clean.
My Mum had a cleaner and we always kept the place tidy so that she wasn’t having to wade through mess first to do her job. Mum also cleaned the toilets before she came, because she drew the line at expecting someone else to deal with a mucky loo.

SoupDragon · 10/05/2018 06:55

PMSL. It’s not”clearing up shit” it’s one press of a handle.

“Clearing up shit” is what I do on a dog walk with a bag on my hand. Flushing a toilet on occasion is nothing.

SoupDragon · 10/05/2018 06:56

Why is no tax being paid, OP?

It’s not hard to work out that she assumes there’s no tax being paid as it’s cash in hand.

BrutusMcDogface · 10/05/2018 06:57

I am still agog at the people who think it's disrespectful and "entitled" and shows a lack of concern/appreciation for "help in the home" etc etc etc; the kid is a KID! He forgot! Why is that so hard to understand?

DuchyDuke · 10/05/2018 07:01

The cleaners from the agency I use won’t go near the toilet if it hasn’t been flushed, it’s part of the health and safety clause in their contracts. Same goes for period stains etc.

mathanxiety · 10/05/2018 07:02

Maybe it looked like one that wold block the loo and then she would be expected to get the plunger out and spend time on that too?

Best to check that children don't get into the bad habit of leaving the loo unflushed.

Smeddum · 10/05/2018 07:03

Yes he forgot. And it wouldn’t have been a big deal if OP had thought “oh ok, he forgot I must make sure it doesn’t happen next time the cleaner is here.”

No, instead she decided to start a thread about how she’s too busy to check the toilet and how she feels the cleaner should have just dealt with it. It’s snotty and entitled.

FinallyHere · 10/05/2018 07:05

When our (longstanding) cleaner suggested that she likes coming to our house because the loos are always flushed and clear, I honestly thought she was joking.

the kid is a KID! He forgot! Why is that so hard to understand?

Now I am wondering at what age it ceases to be socially acceptable to forget to flush? It may also explain something about DSS(37) habits, which I currently leave it to his DF to sort out, but do wonder to myself about. Perhaps he, too, still counts as a 'KID'?

SD1978 · 10/05/2018 07:09

I would assume, if you and the child were out, that he’s done it before she arrived. This means she hasn’t cleaned the toilet. If she didn’t want to (understandably) I would expect a “sorry I didn’t clean your toilet, but I’m not dealing with the massive turd left in it, if you want toilets cleaned- can you ensure turdlogs are flushed ore my arrival)? Although I’m sure more professionally put than me. And I’d ensure the toilets didn’t have surprises in them before I left the house.

SoupDragon · 10/05/2018 07:10

Yeah, because 37 is exactly the same as 7 🙄

Nowhere on this thread is there an implication he always forgets, just that he forgot on this occasion. Also it doesn’t say that he wasn’t pulled up for it.

Kids aren’t perfect.