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Original poster

To think cleaner could have flushed the loo?

207 replies

Furiousaboutinstarubbish · 09/05/2018 18:27

Is this an unreasonable expectation? Ds 7 had done a poo without me realising and not flushed. Isn't that just a given when you're cleaning the bathroom?

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Mousefunky · 09/05/2018 19:52

Wouldn’t it just be a natural reaction for someone in a bathroom to flush the toilet if they saw a shit in it? Who would want to loiter around in a room with a stinking shit in it?

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 09/05/2018 19:58

She clearly didnt bleach it then! No saying it was nice for her to find it but that’s pretty petty.

Rudgie47 · 09/05/2018 20:04

Your son should have flushed the loo, its not the cleaners job to be running after him.
I'd be talking to him about how to use the toilet again. Talk him through it all again from pulling pants down, wiping bottom and pulling the handle etc.

LittleRen · 09/05/2018 20:08

What strange responses. Her job is to clean, it doesn’t take much to shut the lid and flush the toilet to then clean it... I mean surely this is no worse then having to clean the actual toilet anyway, cleaning someone else’s loo is never nice. Surely she isn’t cleaning properly if she didn’t flush the toilet?? And seriously sometimes kids forget - I hope when my kids are older they are as perfect as everyone else’s on here and never ever forget to flush the toilet.

InspMorse · 09/05/2018 20:13

Why doesn't your 7 year old son flush the toilet?

BrutusMcDogface · 09/05/2018 20:20

And seriously sometimes kids forget - I hope when my kids are older they are as perfect as everyone else’s on here and never ever forget to flush the toilet.

LittleRen- exactly. Thank you!

BrutusMcDogface · 09/05/2018 20:21

Why doesn't your 7 year old son flush the toilet?

InspMorse- Hmm🙄

InspMorse · 09/05/2018 20:23

Why doesn't your 7 year old son flush the toilet?I nspMorse- hmm🙄
Do I need to read the whole thread ?
Have I missed that he has additional needs or something?

Smeddum · 09/05/2018 20:25

Because most posters on here see 7 year olds leaving their shit behind for someone else to clear up quite funny and don’t see why the cleaner shouldn’t have to flush the toilet. Which is sad imo. And disrespectful.

InspMorse · 09/05/2018 20:28

Smeddum I agre. A 7 year old is in what... Year 2? I'm pretty sure that children are usually toilet trained by then.

InspMorse · 09/05/2018 20:29

'Agree'!

Smeddum · 09/05/2018 20:31

@InspMorse I think the reason I’m most irritated is OPs assumption that the cleaner should have dealt with it, and a lot of posters dismissal of the cleaner because she’s staff and should just have got on with it. Which is beyond depressing.

(Obviously I’m paraphrasing but the undercurrent of that is definitely present on here)

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 09/05/2018 20:32

It’s a very depressing thread indeed.

dangerrabbit · 09/05/2018 20:32

Maybe your child pooed after the cleaner had been

midnightmisssuki · 09/05/2018 20:35

YABU. Your cleaner is not there to flush the loo if your child doesn’t! And at 7?! Shock the cleaner cleans. She is not the loo-flusher. HTH

Grilledaubergines · 09/05/2018 20:35

Why should the cleaner flush your son’s poo? Her job is to clean and out of respect for her, you need to leave your home in an acceptable state. Poo in the toilet is not leaving it acceptable.

Having a cleaner doesn’t mean you should live in a shit tip and have your standards low.

InspMorse · 09/05/2018 20:35

Smeddum This attitude is everywhere. Leave a mess because someone else will clear it up.

It is a cleaner's job to clean not (literally in this case) clear up another person's crap.

Original poster
Furiousaboutinstarubbish · 09/05/2018 20:37

I meant no disrespect to the cleaner. I tidy before she arrives. I pay her well, and promptly, I never cancel last minute, I make her tea and offer biscuits, I raise no eyebrows about shortened cleans, late arrivals or early exits.

Having read the all the responses, on balance I do think that i am not being unreasonable in expecting the cleaner to close the lid, flush and clean the loo.

Each to their own.

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Smeddum · 09/05/2018 20:37

It is a cleaner's job to clean not (literally in this case) clear up another person's crap

Absolutely agree. Between that kind of attitude and the infantile sniggering about poo from women who see fit to make a cleaner deal with a child’s shit but not do it themselves, I’m pretty scunnered with MN tonight.

FatBallsAndSunflowerSeeds · 09/05/2018 20:38

People are acting like OP expected the cleaner to fish the turd out with her bare hands and take it home in her handbag!

I used to be a cleaner and one time I went to clean the downstairs loo there was an ENORMOUS turd poking up from the water, and there weren't any children in the household- only a doctor and his nurse wife! I just flushed it and carried on cleaning.

Leaving it seems to me like she was making a point.

Original poster
Furiousaboutinstarubbish · 09/05/2018 20:39

It's a poo in a toilet. Not on the kitchen floor. Handing out grips to all and sundry.

OP posts:
Smeddum · 09/05/2018 20:40

Have it back OP, it is you who needs a grip. She’s a cleaner not a fucking nanny.

Fuckitbucket13 · 09/05/2018 20:41

Of course she should! I've been a cleaner for many years & have flushed many left poos & pees, no apology needed.
I'd ground your 7 yrs old forever though, how dare he forget to flush!

Original poster
Furiousaboutinstarubbish · 09/05/2018 20:41

And as such she is unable to clean my house properly with the points she wishes to make

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Fuckitbucket13 · 09/05/2018 20:48

I can't believe some of the replies on here. I've never been offended by an unflushed toilet. I've never thought, the b'starts expect me to flush their shit away now, how dare they! Bloody hell get a grip!