He didn't want phone sex

[Corkscrewbetty]

So... my partner and I live apart. He comes to see me most weekends. I live with an eldery parent and so it's hard to find a good time to enjoy ourselves sexually. I just don't feel comfortable. We've even resorted to doing it in bushes when we take the dog out for a walk. We used to have quite an active sex life before my father moved in with me. We would "sext" and all the rest of it. Anyway, my dear old father is with a friend today. I'm self-employed and so is my boyfriend. I texted him asking him if he fancied a bit of phone sex... and he's too tired and not in the mood. Now... I know this happens... but seeing as we so rarely get the chance to do anything sexual... I feel a bit put out. And now I'm thinking about it, I don't think he has been as interested in that side of things recently. I'm wondering whether it's a bit of a red flag or if I'm just getting all worried about nothing.

Why would my knickers be large? How odd. Are you assuming i'm overweight?
Of course this is all very common - the man sponges off the government because he feels like it. Jesus Christ. You shouldn't just go on benefits because you don't want to work.

Wow. Wasn't a weight dig at all your a touchy bugger arent you. Actually was just the assumption that knickers are big from.m&s . . Didn't once mention fat or benefits or anything

Seriously try taking the stick from out of your arse once in a while and enjoy a little light hearted humour instead of insinuating people are lower class because they enjoy having sex. Or does one not partake in the no pants dance...but for special occasions

No, somebody is lower class if they sponge off benefits because they fancy it, actually.

And what has that got to do with sex in bushes? Or did I miss something

No Conyo, Viggo Mortensen, however... Only dressed as Aragorn though.

"We've even resorted to doing it in bushes when we take the dog out for a walk."

I DIED. Good on ya hun.

Perfect have you seen Sean Bean as Mellors in the 1993 adaptation of Lady Chatterley's Lover? Woof to you, lady

Fwiw DH has no problems getting me out of my giant M&S belly-warmer pants in the woods!

I don't want this thread to end....cheered me right up!

Chinesechicken I didn't know people called others "common". We're not "common". He works on projects and pays into the system. Then, he gets paid when he's not working. I'm not a big fan of this. I think he should just get a full-time job. I also think the system in this country doesn't encourage this (we're not in the UK). He's currently being paid around 80% of his last salary for doing nothing. He'll get this until December. But, I can't justify what he does. I dont like it. I also don't like that he's tight. He likes saving all his money up. But, it's nothing to do with me. But, if we're going to have any sort of future together, I'd maybe like to see some changes. He has a PhD. I'm not common either. I chose to have a baby on my own. After a decade of heartache. And it was the best decision I ever made. I also have my own business. My sixth translated novel is just about to come out. I don't buy eye soap from Waitrose though. And my flat vowels let me down a bit. And I like bouncing around outdoors now and again. And I'm not very good at judging the best occasions for dirty talk. But, I'm glad I don't have your problems. That's something at least.

MissReginaPhilange - Me too! And I've been feeling a bit better about myself today! There are some kind people on here! :-)

Although she didn't look like she was enjoying it Conyo! She kind of grimaced! Maybe he wasn't very good?

@corkscrewbetty best thing I've read in ages what a legend ! I don't use Waitrose soap either. But if you need to have a giant stick up your arse to use it ill stick to my dove. Sticks up the arse arent fun unless it's a bush nookie incident .... then it's added interest

Touche betty well said

Come on Chicken it was incredibly rude to label someone as chav and needing the help of Jeremy Kyle because their partner isn't the child's father.
As for labeling alfresco sex as repulsive? Don't knock it til you've tried it.

I doubt very much she even enjoys the heinous act let alone has done it outdoors

Well done on the sperm donor baby OP, I know several people who should have had the courage to go down that route. Good call.

Being serious for a minute, the fact that he's tight with money is worrying, if you're planning to move in together at some point. My mum's 2nd husband was like that, and she had to pay for all the furniture and things for the house. He wouldn't pay for anything that wasn't absolutely necessary. She eventually left him.

Financial incompatibility is a big cause of relationships failing.

Motoko Yeah... I get that. It's something for me to think about. I'm lucky that I have everything I could possibly need for the moment. I'm not asking him for anything. But, he's one of those people who wouldn't pay for an ice cream on the beach if there's ice cream in the freezer at home. I'm not putting up with that for my daughter. He tuts at the price of a meal out. Well, I want to go for a meal out at weekends. It's not a big ask. I don't even ask him to pay, I'm quite happy to pay for myself (it tends to be that we take it in turns more or less though). But there's always a big fuss. He makes it quite clear that he'd rather have a picnic than go to a restaurant. There's room in my life for both. It does get on my nerves. He's putting money to one side to buy a house for us in the future. We haven't really talked about this. He rents at the moment. I have three houses. Two of them I rent out and one I live in. I don't want to sell the two I rent out and the one I live in might be hard to sell. It's a big stone house in the middle of nowhere. Oh, I don't know. But, you're right. I think we're not compatible on that front. I think I might have fallen in love with this man's "potential" rather than who he actually is. We'll see!

If things he does get on your nerves now, they'll be much worse when you've been living with it for years. It doesn't really sound feasible.

What are the cohabitation rights where you live? Would he be able to claim some of your assets if you split up after living together?

Whatever the rights are, from what you've said about him, I think you'd be better off living separately.

Read through this thread again and it’s had me laughing out loud! Think I have a bit of a cyber girl crush on OP!🙊 you sound fantastic and there are some right stuck up bores in this world-be glad you’re not one of them! 🥂

Fab! Going round to his place tomorrow! If the baby naps... I might get to do it in a bed. Happy times! Thanks everyone! :-)

Are you sure you wouldn't rather do it in a bush?

I'll take a couple of handfuls of leaves and a bit of soil... so we feel at home.

Sensible. 😂

lots of ways to keep frisky between bush visits

Dying 😂