AIBU to take this back to court?

[Justonedayatatime11]

Exh took me to court a few years back and obtained a CAO for our dd(4). CAO states EOW and 50% of his annual leave. Exh has rarely adhered to the CAO and can get very aggressive if I can’t change plans to accommodate him wanting to swap and change weekends. I’ve received a message from him last night saying that every weekend for the next 4 months is going to have to change, but he doesn’t know how or when.
FWIW, he’s blaming work. Now he could take the CAO to his commanding officer and have it enforced which would mean he would reliably see dd EOW. However, he’s admitted he won’t do this as ‘it will harm his chances of promotion’.
My plans for the summer are now up in the air because I now don’t know when/if he’ll be seeing dd. Not only will that potentially leave me out of pocket, but more importantly dd is getting no consistency. He’ll go for a month without seeing her and then want her for a week at a time.
To be clear, I am not trying to stop contact. Dd adores him and I wouldn’t want to take that away from her. AIBU to take this back to court and look at getting the CAO changed? I just want some consistency for her sake and some reliability for me?

Rooting for you OP- kick his ass!

Cheering for you tomorrow OP, hang in there. I hope your solicitor kicks his sorry ass.

I sometimes get like you are on this thread, swinging from "Oh my God I am overreacting I need to drop this" to "Oh my God I am under-reacted I need to turn my outrage up to 11". It's fucking horrible and can cripple your decision making.

I think it's fantastic that you have kept your DD at the centre of this and pushed through all your self doubt.

Good luck tomorrow.

When I am feeling really anxious about something I try to imagine myself telling my friends about it afterwards. It works for me during the run up and the event itself.

The inconsistency is tying you in knots; imagine what it's doing to your DD or would do if you weren't fighting this on her behalf. Very best of luck tomorrow.

Wishing you the best of luck

Good luck. You're doing the right thing x

Another one delurking to say: You're fab, stay strong, you're doing the right thing.

Good luck OP, you are amazing and you can do this!

Good luck for tomorrow OP. You are amazing to stand up for your daughter over this

He cannot chop and change, that’s a basic for the sake of your child. It’s unfair to build her u0,only for her to be yet again let down by your idiot ex. Didn’t you speak to his CO at one point? I’d go back to him, tbh.

Good Luck! Every time he tries to bully you just think:
"I'm doing this for DD. I am strong. I have come this far."

Don't Quit
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit-
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

Success is failure turned inside out -
The silver tint in the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It might be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit -
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

I really hope that court did right by you and your daughter.

Good luck today 💐

You’re stronger than you know OP! Just breathe and compose yourself! YOU GOT THIS

Good luck for today OP

Good luck for today. Stay strong

Good luck just xxx

Thinking of you in court today and standing with you supporting you as you come face to face with this selfish bully. Hope he gets his comeuppance. You have been nothing but reasonable x

Good luck today!

Keep it together today OP. GOOD LUCK

Just wanted to wish you and your DD all the very best for today. Stay strong, we are with you.

Good luck today OP, keep it together and keep your daughter at the front of your mind.

Good luck today OP

Good luck today, you're absolutely doing the right thing.