AIBU to take this back to court?

[Justonedayatatime11]

Exh took me to court a few years back and obtained a CAO for our dd(4). CAO states EOW and 50% of his annual leave. Exh has rarely adhered to the CAO and can get very aggressive if I can’t change plans to accommodate him wanting to swap and change weekends. I’ve received a message from him last night saying that every weekend for the next 4 months is going to have to change, but he doesn’t know how or when.
FWIW, he’s blaming work. Now he could take the CAO to his commanding officer and have it enforced which would mean he would reliably see dd EOW. However, he’s admitted he won’t do this as ‘it will harm his chances of promotion’.
My plans for the summer are now up in the air because I now don’t know when/if he’ll be seeing dd. Not only will that potentially leave me out of pocket, but more importantly dd is getting no consistency. He’ll go for a month without seeing her and then want her for a week at a time.
To be clear, I am not trying to stop contact. Dd adores him and I wouldn’t want to take that away from her. AIBU to take this back to court and look at getting the CAO changed? I just want some consistency for her sake and some reliability for me?

Just rtft you are amazing op. You've got this at then end of it all you have the best interests of your dd. Good luck with today.

Good luck OP.

Try not to worry, you sound like a fab mum and have shown how strong you can be.

You’ve got this!

Cheering you on OP, will be thinking of you today.

Good luck today OP your doing the right thing for your daughter

Good luck today 💐

Best of luck today

Good luck today OP.

Delurking to say good luck today 💐

Good luck OP xxx (I know kisses aren’t a Mum’s net thing but screw it today is a day your doing us all proud)

Good luck today

Good luck today OP x

I have no experience of this but just wanted to say that you sound like an amazing mom who always puts her child first and he sounds like a nasty abusive cunt. I will have my fingers crossed that court see it this way too.

Much love from me 💕

another one rooting for you. Remember to concentrate on your breathing, slow and steady and it will help you to stay calm. It's a great focus under stressful circumstances.
You are not alone in that courtroom. Everyone on this post will have a virtual hand on your shoulder. We stand with you x

Good luck for today and here's hoping you get a judge with some common sense and compassion (one who remembers that your DD's 'd'f doesn't have rights, he has responsibilities!).

Good luck

I've just read your thread and it's utterly heartbreaking. I just wanted to add my good luck wishes and send you a massive hug Op.

I've just read this entire epic thread. You really are amazing OP, and you are putting your DD first, something her father seems incapable of. I hope all goes well for you today.

Thank you all. Now heading in

@Jonbb Stick rigidly to the Order. No variation. If he can't do the days then the ball is in his court to go back to court to seek a variation of the Order. He won't do that because he has you on a string, controlling you. Say no if it is not in the Order to the time and days specified. It'll take a few months but he'll get it after a while. It will be better for your daughter in the long run to have consistency per the Order.

this ^

Good luck Op

Good luck OP

Just read your thread from the beginning! Good luck op!!

Hello I've just caught up with the whole thread now and am rooting for you.

Anytime you notice you are holding your breath, breath out All the very best.

Good luck xxx thinking of you ❤️

Best of luck OP.