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Doctor accused dd of telling lies despite evidence to the contrary.

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Oliversmumsarmy · 08/05/2018 03:02

Bit of background. We don't drink and dd 18 was with me the whole day.

About 11.30 this evening it was so hot ds said he fancied a cold fizzy drink. So did I. DD said she was going to have a shower and go to bed.

Ds and I nipped to the local garage to buy a drink leaving dd at home.

We had just driven in to the drive when I had a call from dd. She had slipped getting out of the shower and had woken up on the floor.

Very sore lump on her head , her vision was blurred and a cracking headache.

2 hours in A&E and the diagnosis is she has a hangover. The doctor refused to believe that dd didn't drink and was making up the incidence in the shower because in her mind apparently dd as soon as we left necked bottles of alcohol, no idea where said alcohol came from as there is none in the house and now has a hangover.

Oh and dd grazed her hand when she was out on Saturday. So dd is also bulimic.

So now I am left monitoring dd over night because the NHS doctor would rather make up stuff than do her job

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placebobebo · 08/05/2018 14:04

I have encountered this a few times myself with various family members. One situation unfortunately had to get to the point of being resuscitated in A&E before anyone would take it seriously.

I would suggest a mat for the shower though.

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Oliversmumsarmy · 08/05/2018 14:17

Nothing wrong with relative he had a very very fast metabolic rate. Past it on to his DD.

He worked as a builder..

It was only when he hit 40 did he start to put on weight.I remember he was so happy showing us all his little pot belly and being able to pinch an inch.

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HelenaDove · 08/05/2018 14:19

Im a 32 back size but HH cup size So i have no chance of fitting into a smaller top. People are all different shapes and sizes Its called being human.

You sound like youve been through the wars with doctors OP

I hope your daughter is better soon.

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Oliversmumsarmy · 08/05/2018 14:29

Yes got an emergency appointment for later. DD still asleep.

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Tisgrand · 08/05/2018 14:31

I'm 58 now and 5'8" and a size 14-16. However I've worked out that if this was 40 years ago I'd actually be a size 18-20. Its vanity sizing nowadays. When I was a teenager I struggled to put on weight despite having a very healthy appetite. I was a size 8 with measurements of 32x22x32. Nowadays I reckon that would make me about a size 4. And I have seen size 4 clothes in the kind of shops my DD shops in so it can't be that uncommon a size. I do remember some nosy relatives asking my mum if i ate; she got fed up of telling people that there was nothing wrong with my appetite at all. I ate like a horse just burned it all off like plenty of my relations on my dads side.

Hope all is well with your DD OP.

tiredgranny · 08/05/2018 14:42

My son went to hospital in a lot of pain stomach related high temperature and out of it . Told me it was drugs !! I said doesn't do drugs . I really called the nurse out saying shouldn't judge he had shaved head n couple tattoos

It was food poisoning
So they do judge

TinklyLittleLaugh · 08/05/2018 15:19

If she knocked herself unconcious last night OP, shouldn't you be waking her regularly?

crunchymint · 08/05/2018 15:22

No the advice now days is to let someone sleep if they want to.

vampirethriller · 08/05/2018 16:09

I had a cyst the size of a plum on my hairline once, that had grown from nothing in days. Went to the doctor.
"have you ever worn a head band?"
Yes in my teens- but I was 26 by the time the cyst appeared.
"well that's why then. The head band has caused it. Not much I can do."
Off I went to another doctor and had it removed!

whycantIthinkofadecentusername · 08/05/2018 17:13

I hope your daughter is ok OP. It took me three years of convincing the GP that there was something wrong with DS’s ears. He couldn’t hear, poor balance and constant infections and tonsillitis. After three years I lost it and no longer asked her opinion, insisted on a referral to a consultant.

Who promptly lost his shit at the state of DS’s ears. Both perforated with “gunk” from his birth that had solidified destroying his ear drums. His tonsils had virtually closed over his throat, causing air pressure changes in the lungs and a heart murmur. The best bit the GP actually wrote “neurotic first time mother” on his notes, which I saw accidentally.

Emergency surgery later to remove tonsils, adenoids and rebuild his ear drums and we are still fighting the effects of this GP. We’re booked for another huge operation to run tubes from his ear drum, down his neck and into the stomach to drain the constant fluid build up. Plus hearing tests, check ups and regular cleaning/draining appointments.

Safe to say she doesn’t work there anymore. Trust your gut OP. Your know your daughter.

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Oliversmumsarmy · 08/05/2018 18:06

Doctor has prescribed her some anti inflammatories and she has taken first dose and gone to bed.

Still waking her every 30 mins
She was unsteady on her feet and said her hearing was like hearing through water.

The Dr said all normal side effects but to go immediately back to A&E if she sees flashing lights or throws up.

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Slartybartfast · 08/05/2018 18:39

Oh gosh - glad she saw her gp

TatianaLarina · 08/05/2018 18:42

Hmm.. presumably she didn’t get a scan in A&E due to the ‘hangover’ diagnosis?

Did the GP do basic neurological tests? Speech, balance, co-ordination etc?

Why is so sleepy at this time? Does her head still hurt?

Huffinpuff · 08/05/2018 18:44

whycantIthinkofadecentusername I hope you are having this GP investigated for negligence.

whycantIthinkofadecentusername · 08/05/2018 19:05

Absolutely! It’s been two years now. Let’s just say she no longer works there. And neither does the practice manager.

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Oliversmumsarmy · 08/05/2018 19:14

They took her blood pressure and checked her temperature.

The doctor wanted the lump on her head to go down hence the anti inflammatory pills.

whycantithinkofadecentuser name that is truly horrendous.

I tried to sue the orthopaedic hospital but they seem to have miraculously lost my file. Apparently one consultant has a reputation for this. Have spoken to others and they have had the same response

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Caramelapplecake · 08/05/2018 19:46

Agree with OP that those measurements would have been a size 10 years ago. I was another one initially thinking a UK size 2 sounded scarily thin - particularly at 5'9". However those were my measurements in the 1980's and I was exactly a U.K. 10. A few inches shorter than OPs daughter though.

Lizzie48 · 08/05/2018 20:00

Sizes 10 and 12 were definitely much smaller before. I'm supposedly a size 12 now, but I still have sizes 10 and 12 from 15 years ago when I got married. I was 2 stone lighter then, there's no way I could ever wear them now. Including my wedding dress, which my DDs want to see me wearing. I keep fobbing them off!! Grin

scoobyd2 · 08/05/2018 20:52

Out of curiosity, did they give her a CT scan at the hospital? Couple of months ago, I collapsed in the street on my way home from work, with only about 2 minutes warning when I suddenly felt dizzy. I must have looked drunk, trying to walk along the street. Stood at the side of the road, panicking as I could not focus, next thing I knew I was in an ambulance. A CT scan showed I had fractured my skull when I hit the deck. The cause is still under investigation but onset of a migraine is the most likely cause so far. At 47 years old it took a full-on argument with the doctor at A&E to convince him pregnancy was not an option - I had to resort to "Because I left my partner 4 years ago and have not slept with anyone since!!" before he stopped trying to send me off for a urine sample. Its no wonder younger patients can't make themselves believed. But if she continues having headaches, go back to A&E to get a scan - mine has healed on its own but at least I knew what I was dealing with.

Teacuphiccup · 08/05/2018 20:59

My great grandma died because she fell of a chair screwing in a lightbulb and hit her head resulting in her having slurred speech and vision, the hospital sent her home to sleep off her drink and she died in the night.
This was over 30 years ago though.

BigPinkBall · 08/05/2018 21:33

I remember going to A&E one night with a friend, she’d been in the army and could definitely hold her drink, after we’d had probably 2 glasses of wine she collapsed. At A&E they weren’t interested in what had happened or examining her, they wrote her off as a drunk and left her in a corridor to “sober up”. Except the next day she collapsed again and went to her GP, and it turned out she had a problem with her heart and it was nothing to do with her drinking 2 glasses of wine.

stayhomeclub · 08/05/2018 21:55

I have to say I once felt unwell after a few drinks with friends but wasn’t at all drunk. I fainted outside the bar hitting my head. The doormen wouldn’t let me back in to get my bag, thinking I was drunk. I wasn’t, at this point I was just poorly. I went back home and spent the whole night vomiting on the bathroom floor. I had blurred vision and honestly it was horrendous.

I darent go to the hospital as I knew they’d think I was just a drunk and I didn’t think they would pay any attention to what actually might have been wrong with me. Just think I’d had a few too many. In hindsight it was obviously norovirus or food poisoning but it was very scary at the time because I didn’t know what was wrong or if I’d done myself an injury hitting my head.

I really feel for staff as 9/10 they will be right and will be picking up the pieces but it’s assumptions like that that made me scared to seek help.

nocoolnamesleft · 08/05/2018 22:12

On why they wouldn't believe she hadn't been drinking...to the inexperienced nose, ketones smell like alcohol. Induced vomiting/poor calorie intake from eating disorders make your breath smell of ketones...

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Oliversmumsarmy · 09/05/2018 02:47

But her diet isn't poor or messed up nor does she have an eating disorder or ketones. I know all about ketones as dp is type 1 diabetic.

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TheOrigRightsofwomen · 09/05/2018 08:49

So, why do YOU think they suggested bulimia? It just seems like a massive leap. Your DD is slim and healthy, with a slight graze on her hand. It seems completely bizarre that someone would come to a conclusion of bulimia.