I think my friend should pay, she thinks we should split it?

[Welshgal1]

Driving a friend 4 hours away for an operation (cosmetic) and will use 2 full tanks of fuel in my car, cost of a hotel, food while I'm there and I'm using a days annual leave.
She wants to split all costs down the middle, whereas I think I'm using my holiday entitlement and 2 days of my time (which I am more than happy to give up) but don't think I should be paying for fuel, or for the hotel? I've said I'll pay for all my own food.
Her logic is we're both going so why should only she pay, she's already paying lots for surgery.
My logic is I wouldn't be going if it wasn't to do her a favour so don't see it fair to split costs.
Whats the right thing to do here? Don't want to be mean but trying to be fair...

I've had a google of the company and they have a chaperone policy so she would of been refused surgery if turning up alone, and with the timings she would of lost the full balance according to their cancellation policy so sounds like she has lost the £13k.

Her comments are disgusting indeed but I've only been ttc for a couple of months (with no reason to assume I'm infertile, just extremely long cycles) however, she will be paying off a £13k loan that she gained nothing from for 7 years. It's actually kind of painful to type that because it is an awful situation, but she's bought it on herself.

Never mind, slow connection. It did post.

She really is something else. Someone needs to call her out. I hope your friend says something on there.

If she needs to ask if any of her friends have a legal background, she must have no 'real' friends! Who doesn't know if one of their friends is a lawyer?

You have no reason to feel bad. One of her Facebook / other friends or family can take her. I sincerely doubt she has cancelled the surgery.

As for the "calling a debtor to attend court for questioning" the moron would need a judgment. She sounds like a clown with too much time on her hands.

she could have asked someone else. I'm sure some of the friends would have agreed if she wasn't such a CF and actually paid for their trouble

Please take it to judge Rinder (who almost autocorrected to tinder

Why don't one of her other friends take her then, if they're so sorry for her?

She's one of those with a million Facebook friends.. who she doesn't seem to actually know? Although we were friends on Facebook for years I'd long unfollowed her because she was so annoying on there. She doesn't have many real life friends and lives this whole social media life so struggle to see who else she could ask.. her real life friends and relationships never last long, no surprise there... she's also still commenting heavily implying these are serious medical procedures rather than cosmetic surgery so not sure how she could accept any offer of help without admitting she's lying? Not that I've seen a single offer yet!!

Me and my friend are desperate to comment.. but know she'll be instantly blocked and I'm quite enjoying watching how this all pans out

She's completely insane.

I find it unfathomable that she would actually have cancelled though. When is the surgery? There would be no benefit in her cancelling before she know's 100% she can't get a chaperone.
Surely she would be better off paying a carer at normal rates to chaperone her than losing £13,000?

She's also a nasty piece of work OP. She can't sue you for anything.

I just can't understand how she can be so utterly stupid to be so nasty to you when that means she doesn't have a chaperone and loses her £13k.
Even if she does think you should pay for the pleasure of driving her to London, did it not occur to her to not alienate you until after the surgery?!
I am actually more irritated by her stupidity than her rudeness. I guess she never imagined you would say no to her. Well done op!

Maybe one of her fake Facebook friends can be taken advantage of and take her instead.

Well done you OPxx

What an utter fool! So rather than pay for you to go to London (especially as you would’ve been put out) she’s now 13k down! What an idiot. Stumping up for all expenses for you would’ve been cheaper. She sounds silly, young and stupid.

I doubt she's cancelled. She's hoping to get someone in spot. Or stupid enough to think word will get to you and you'll back down. Actually, it's probably the second one.

Wow.
I think we just found CF of the Year 2018.

Don’t feel guilty. She has brought this entire situation on herself. I don’t reckon she’s cancelled it anyway.

Tell her to bolt. She is taking the piss.

I skim read your OP in the car on Saturday and my DSis just text me about the rest of the thread. Holy shit. This is absolutely crackers, but that reply was GOLD.

She'll get nowhere with this little "claim" of hers- she did this by cheaping out over a few hundred quid for a hotel for a friend doing her a massive favour, not you. Let her crack on and watch it all unfold at a distance and make sure you post plenty of snug photos on your weekend away

Tell her to bolt. She is taking the piss.

I skim read your OP on Saturday and my DSis just text me about the rest of the thread. Holy shit. This is absolutely crackers, but that reply was GOLD.

She'll get nowhere with this little "claim" of hers- she did this by cheaping out over a few hundred quid for a hotel for a friend doing her a massive favour, not you. Let her crack on and watch it all unfold at a distance and make sure you post loads of smug photos on your weekend away.

She's throwing her toys out of the pram for attention, but she won't cancel it. She's just canvassing for a new victim offer.

So...she's claiming to be out 13k. And all because she wouldn't pay your expenses for acting as her medical chaperone, support, and chauffeur? That really is cutting off her nose to spite her face. Which, I guess, is a whole new form of plastic surgery...

Honestly, I almost feel like a troll the way this thread has gone... and I don't know whether it's hilarious or terrifying that this is all true.

I feel like I'm being pranked. She CAN NOT be serious? I always knew she was a bit odd.. but this.... 🤯

Also beyond outed at this point. Don't know why I'm bothering to block out names just trying to keep some dignity here

Well done on standing up to her! She has brought this on herself! You were willing to take holiday and take her but she had to take the piss and demand money from you...then she was unbelievably rude and said she didn’t want to be friends any more but she still expected a lift from you? Then she bemoans to Facebook when you decline. She’ll find someone else. This type always do. She can’t take responsibility for her own actions. My MIL is like this. It’s exhausting to be around.

Have a wonderful trip with your DH and good luck TTC

Wow!

Clearly she hasn’t lost £13K.
Clearly you were not under contract.
Clearly she’s batshit.

Thanks by the way, for the crazy amount of replies. It's much easier to laugh this whole thing off and not get hurt by it when I have so many of you reassuring me that I am not the crazy one here