Tracking DP on phone

[damekindness]

I was talking to some work colleagues today and it came up in conversation that they got their OH to turn on their 'share location' on their mobiles so they could see where they were. Apparently it's useful to know so they can get the dinner on the table ready for them

Aside from the whole being a domestic dinner slave issue, I think asking your OH to share their location so they can be tracked is a massive invasion of privacy. However the counter argument was that if they didn't have anything to hide they shouldn't mind....

Because you can see traffic on your phone

I would not like anyone to know where I am at all times.

I have nothing to hide.

I think it is obvious what ‘knowing when to serve dinner’ really means.

But sometimes traffic is due to an accident, which isn't always reported straight away? I'm afraid I just don't get it, but I accept that's my opinion and other people using it doesn't really affect me.

I do wonder, though - all the people who freely use it with their partners - if they decided tomorrow that they didn't want to use it again because they found it intrusive - would you be accepting or would you be suspicious as they've always used it before?

Then they’d be at the start of the traffic not moving...

If there’s no traffic and not moving for a long time you get the same result.

I use the googlemap stalk function so my mum can track me if I go on a long journey. DSis started it and as you choose how long it's active, I don't find it intrusive at all. I asked DH to do the same one day this week, as he's away working and we have a meeting at DD's new school that he may or may not be back in time for. He doesn't like the idea of it. No drama, but would have been nice to know how he w getting on without him having to stop to call. I certainly wouldn't want it on all the time, I like to go off-radar from time to time, but occasionally, for a defined reason and a defined time, I don't have a problem with it.

Couldn’t your DH just text you to say he is running late or not. I find the need to know where someone else is at all times very controlling and intrusive.

Texting and driving? Great idea 👍🏽

No Bluetooth set either. And then I’d still have to be free to pick it up. It’s far easier an safer to just check the app.

Why not boil water on the hob? You don’t need to use a kettle you know...

Can anyone tell me what the postage stamp emoji means. I can see a thumbs up followed by a postage stamp.

MN doesn’t like it when you use skin tone so it takes it out and puts it separately.

It baffles me how we managed to survive before mobile phones and the constant need to be in touch yet oddly enough we did.

whitesea I think it's a very different time and the way we live our lives is very different. eg My dad left work at 5pm every day, and was home by 6. He worked hard, had a fairly good job etc etc, but there was zero culture that he needed to be flexible or stay late or come in early. It just didn't exist. But when I worked in an office, it just wasn't like that. The culture of staying late, taking on more etc etc is highly prevalent. Of course, in that case, it's always been easy enough to call Dh and tell him I'm running late etc. But my point is that we live very different lives now than our parents and grandparents did and we therefore need different tools to help us manage it.

I think you missed my point. As you said it is easy to pick up the phone to say you will be late. That is what we always did. The need to use surveillance is unnecessary.

I don't understand tracking people at all - it just sits really oddly with me.

If DP is going to be late, he'll text me. But I don't worry if he's late because shit happens - he gets talking or work runs over or he has to sort something with his boss. He doesn't need to give me a running commentary on if he's going to be on time or not. If something happens, I'm his emergency contact so I'll find out regardless. If he was in an accident there'd be nothing I could do about it anyway!

DH prefers me to look on the app to see if he's left work rather than bother him ringing or texting. It's handy to know when he's on his way because if I'm needing to go out and have DS at home I can plan a bit better. Horses for courses I think. Some hate it, some haven't tried it and some, like our family, embrace it. I've just used it to check DS got to after school activity - or at least I know his phone has arrived!

I don't know why people keep saying it. But I boil water on the hob pretty much every day. That's the purpose of the hob.

And I think it's those of us who understand exactly how these apps and features work, and exactly the data from them is used, who don't tend to use them.

Nobody in this world needs to be able to see my location. If I want someone to know then I'll tell them.

Otherwise you might aswell be done with the middle man of the phone and just get your partners chipped like dogs.

My ‘d’h shares his location with his mum and sister. We don’t with each other. but I have had to tell me to stop telling me where they’re are. He checks everyday and say x is at x place, etc. I don’t like it, plus his mum always knows when we are together and she tracks him!

AlonsosLeftPinky my point with the kettle is it’s a piece of equipment that many households have to boil water but is non essential. Just because you don’t, doesn’t make it an invalid point. I don’t use a hairdryer but can completely appreciate why people do.

My kettle point was just an example that the people who don’t use the tracking may relate to. Doesn’t mean they all have to. I must try and think of something that covers every single person in existence next time.

I find it really useful. Traffic round here can be pretty slow moving at times so it's great that my kids can see how close I am when I'm collecting them from an activity. Much safer than me trying to phone or text them to let them know I'm stuck in traffic but only a few minutes away. My mum likes to use it when I'm driving up to her house (a 250-mile journey) as she can see my progress without having to constantly text me. My DH used to travel internationally a lot and I could use it to see when he had arrived back in the UK. Often he was having to run to make his connecting flight so it would have been difficult for him to phone me to let me know he got in safely.

Otherwise you might aswell be done with the middle man of the phone and just get your partners chipped like dogs.

I hope I live long enough for this to be a reality.
No more remembering bank cards, loyalty cards, swipe access keys and so on. I can programme a chip in the back of my hand and swipe it to gain access to my office, pay for my coffee and let my friend know I'm going to be late for lunch.

I'm not precious about my life - I'd much prefer people to know where I am/what I buy electronically than be bothered by people carrying out surveys on the street.

I don't understand the angst over this. If you don't like the feature, don't use it, switch it on and off at will.

lool its like tracking a package from dpd its a bit much..... also my oh might start expecting his dinner on the table when he gets in and not when i am ready.

I ask my OH to track me sometimes, if I go out at night or for a run ina lonely spot for example. I think he has access to it all the time if he wants to look but it doesn't bother me. I've been with him 23 years and have not found anything that I want to do that I'd need to hide! I don't particularly want to track him and I trust him completely, but obviously if he asked me to I would.

Constantly no but I’m shit at directions so husband has to constantly know where I am for fear of getting lost.

Another time it was really useful was when we were on holiday with my parents in a holiday cottage where the postcode just took you nearby but not to the cottage and we came from a different direction from the written directions they emailed. My parents had got their first so instead of wasting a bit of time find

Sorry posted too soon!

Finding the way I just looked at where DM was and followed the route there