To meet up with MIL to discuss broken wine glass!

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Can't believe the previous thread reached a thousand posts, thanks so much for your support everyone!

I ended up reading MIL's facebook messages for me this morning. Turns up she wants to meet up at a café this weekend to smooth things over "without the boys knowing". She also said she would bring the egg pram back (?!).

Haven't replied yet. DH was pretty upset last night; not sure if he is actually considering going NC with his father. If so, it wouldn't be fair of me to meet up with his Mum in secret - but she's always been lovely to me and I'd hate for my GC having no GP in his life.
Ugh! Still so gutted over this whole thing.

You have all posted some very good advice so I am going to sit and read through it until I decide what we do now.

I would have return everything they have bought for the baby as I could not be sure that they would not at some point in the future sending a bill to cover the costs that they have paid even though you have never asked them to.

I hope you and DH have returned the car to them and blocked them on everything.

I'd cancel the glass because you need money to sort the car. But then, I'd never have ordered the thing in the first place. Fuck the 'moral high ground', £156 is a lot of money when you're needing to save for a baby.

Although the scan was a birthday present to you, it was for MIL to see her GC. FIL has taken that away to punish her, so he almost certainly knows that she has gone "behind his back" to try to smooth things over with you and DH. FIL "knows" you can buy a new scan if you wanted (it's only money) but MIL wouldn't get to see it.

Poor you and DH. FIL is going all out to punish you both. I'd say he will report the cat stolen if it is not returned by his deadline. To echo previous posters I'd or more likely DH should return it. You really don't need the hassle of dealing with the police. Good luck!

Car not cat

Could use the Mumsnet thread as evidence he has not stolen it.

I'm not sure a Mumsnet thread counts as legal evidence of anything. Words on a screen and all that.

If he tried reporting the car stolen, the police would have nothing to do with it as soon as they realised it's a father/son arrangement and the son has been paying for use of the car.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you both OP. Hopefully you fil will realise what a twat he's being.

God taking back a birthday present really is a low blow

Goodness all the hand wringing, the “im so so so sorry OP”, the offers to donate money!

As though it’s some kind of devastating tragedy.

I think you’ve all lost any sense of perspective!

I think you’ve all lost any sense of perspective!

Probably right next to your sense of empathy then.

I prefer to channel my empathy towards genuine tragedies.

And my spare money towards charity

So you were going to happily go for the scan that they had paid for yet you returned everything else

Ah yes @Highhorse1981 I see you're living up to your name.

Exactly camellia

I don't understand how the Fil thought that you were going to be able to afford to replace the wine glass. He knew that you couldn't afford the scan. It's almost as if he has done this on purpose. I don't understand what he is thinking.

It's unfortunate that the present was what it was, but it's no surprise that they've decided to not give Op a bday present, is it?

I agree with this. I don't think you can expect to return all the other things they've given you and simultaneously be surprised or upset about this, sorry.

I do still think they've been cunts about the glass though.

it's no surprise that they've decided to not give Op a bday present, is it

It's not, but it is rubbing salt in the wound, isn't it? OP and her husband are dealing with a traumatic breakdown in family relationships and every extra little thing that happens just hits it home one more time that these people are so egotistical and mean that they will give up their relationship with their son and their grandson over a broken glass.

I would post the glass to them in a box, after shaking it a lot. And inform the company that sold it to you that it arrived in one piece so they can't get a refund or replacement.

Only you high horse* have declared this a tragedy.

No one else has. But a family breaking down due to one person's sad blinkered rigid behaviour is sad.

Myself and others on this thread know how deeply upsetting it is to have the birth and pregnancy of your first child ruined like this. You never forget it.
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At least we're commenting on a thread we're involved in Souffle, you're wasting your time with something you consider bollocks. Now who's silly eh?

I don't know why you're surprised at the attention you are getting, since this is such an engaging story! I am in Florida and have been following this from the start, and know that all of us are feeling sad and sympathetic for you. I can't help but think FIL was just waiting for a chance to make a big move like this, to make sure that your DH wouldn't think he was a "man of the family" while FIL was still alive, and is exerting his power. Am I explaining it ok? Like FIL is trying to reinforce his position as top dog. The power struggle is sad for you and MIL, and I could cry for you. When you have your first baby, it is so nice to have an experienced female relative to help and love and advise. I had a wonderful MIL Your MIL will miss out, but so will you and the baby, just because of a pompous ass of a FIL. Your DH is wonderful, really has his priorities in order. I know, from life experience, that no matter how it turns out, the relationships are forever altered. You know, I hope, that there are so many supportive people on mumsnet, and will be with you every step of the way.