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To meet up with MIL to discuss broken wine glass!

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pugreverywhere · 04/05/2018 08:38

Can't believe the previous thread reached a thousand posts, thanks so much for your support everyone!

I ended up reading MIL's facebook messages for me this morning. Turns up she wants to meet up at a café this weekend to smooth things over "without the boys knowing". She also said she would bring the egg pram back (?!).

Haven't replied yet. DH was pretty upset last night; not sure if he is actually considering going NC with his father. If so, it wouldn't be fair of me to meet up with his Mum in secret - but she's always been lovely to me and I'd hate for my GC having no GP in his life.
Ugh! Still so gutted over this whole thing.

You have all posted some very good advice so I am going to sit and read through it until I decide what we do now.

OP posts:
WhataLovelyPear · 04/05/2018 20:32

Arrgh, pugs, that is truly awful Flowers

Graphista · 04/05/2018 20:33

"However your fil may decide to report the car stolen if you fail to comply. " yes - wouldn't put anything past him at this point!

CanIBuffalo · 04/05/2018 20:35

Crikey.

getoutofthebath · 04/05/2018 20:37

Send them the glass. Don't speak to them again unless they give you a FULL apology.

Superheroessidekick · 04/05/2018 20:38

Can you call the scan studio and find out who cancelled it?

SunwhereareyouShowyourself · 04/05/2018 20:39

Just laughing at the thought, it's been used as an excuse that fil was especially attached to his glass.

Twoo · 04/05/2018 20:42

Pug’ console yourself that you and your dh are happy and excited for becoming your own little family and what the future will bring.

In regards to your pil, clearly they haven’t become older and wiser and life has not brought them any content, happiness or joy ... their behaviour can only come from someone who is inherently sad and pathetic. You don’t treat family like they have treated you and their son.

Flowers
Littlemissdaredevil · 04/05/2018 20:43

I’m imagining there must be a massive backstory between DH and FIL here. I imagine that FIL likes to use his money to control people and has done for many years. I expect there may be threats about cutting DH out of the will, etc. The glass situation sets the tone for the whole relationship now. I imagine no one will be be comfortable now visiting just in case they accidentally drop a glass or soil something on the carpet. Goodness help you if your waters went over their carpet! Would they bill you for that? What will happen when their GC visits? Are the going to charge every time the GC breaks something or spills something or puts their sticky fingers somewhere? I imagine that if MiL wants to look after her GC if you go back to work then FIL will use this to control you as well.

Justanothernameonthepage · 04/05/2018 20:47

Please call the scan place tomorrow and find out why it's cancelled and make it clear that you were surprised. Also ask what the outstanding balance is. But also have a look around to see how much the 4d scans are near you.
He's now assuming that by flexing his muscles and punishing you, you'll realise that he's the one in charge.
Hopefully though, you'll use it to remember how petty he is and how he's willing to punish you and DH over something like this.

InsomniacAnonymous · 04/05/2018 20:48

"What will happen when their GC visits?"

I have a feeling that's not going to happen. The behaviour of the PIL has gone too far now. They're never going to be one big happy family after this.

MarthasGinYard · 04/05/2018 20:49

Blimey

What next I wonder

Weezol · 04/05/2018 20:50

Dear Mr & Mrs Pug

Have a lovely weekend eating nice things, enjoying each other's company and having a relaxing time. If you need to switch off the phones and unplug the wifi, so be it. It will do you both, and TinyPug a lot of good. Because you three are a family who love and respect each other, you will be fine.

Troels · 04/05/2018 20:56

Canceling the scan that was a birthday present is a low blow, block them, let the glass arive at theirs in the post and don't reply to any attempts when they try to contact you.
They have behaved very badly, I thought my inlaws werre toxic but yours win the award for being vendictive on top.

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/05/2018 20:56

“Goodness help if your waters went over the carpet”
Just to lighten the mood, that did make me roar. I saw a “Rich kids go skint” episode and the Persian rugs cost £40k each. Now that would seriously up the anti.

lollyblackheart · 04/05/2018 20:59

As long as there’s no real medical need for the scan, try not to let it get to you too much - I know it’s nice to have these things, but you’ll have an actual gorgeous real life baby in the not too distant future :)

eloisesparkle · 04/05/2018 21:03

OP
I thought it was odd in your opening post when you said your inlaws were so very rich and you and Dh were struggling.
And then we read your DH is an only child.
Most parents are generous to their dc.
Mine certainly are.
As my dps say 'there are no pockets in a shroud ' (or a cremation urn).

eloisesparkle · 04/05/2018 21:03

OP
I thought it was odd in your opening post when you said your inlaws were so very rich and you and Dh were struggling.
And then we read your DH is an only child.
Most parents are generous to their dc.
Mine certainly are.
As my dps say 'there are no pockets in a shroud ' (or a cremation urn).

OpheliaStorm · 04/05/2018 21:09

Slightly weird thread IMO.

GymBot · 04/05/2018 21:15

Slightly weird thread IMO.

Why's that then?

SaltireSaltire · 04/05/2018 21:16

Can we have a link to the glass - I'm intrigued.

MarthasGinYard · 04/05/2018 21:16

Indeed it is

MarthasGinYard · 04/05/2018 21:17

Indeed it is

Lol25 · 04/05/2018 21:19

I started reading the original thread this afternoon and found it hilarious at first... I'm so sorry it has taken such a sad twist OP Sad

WeirdyMcBeardy · 04/05/2018 21:21

I hope you aren't going to give them the glass after this?

ForkIt · 04/05/2018 21:22

If the scan is booked and paid for I doubt it could be cancelled and refunded? And it’s in your name as a procedure for you? Worth a call to see if it can be sorted at that end...