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To meet up with MIL to discuss broken wine glass!

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pugreverywhere · 04/05/2018 08:38

Can't believe the previous thread reached a thousand posts, thanks so much for your support everyone!

I ended up reading MIL's facebook messages for me this morning. Turns up she wants to meet up at a café this weekend to smooth things over "without the boys knowing". She also said she would bring the egg pram back (?!).

Haven't replied yet. DH was pretty upset last night; not sure if he is actually considering going NC with his father. If so, it wouldn't be fair of me to meet up with his Mum in secret - but she's always been lovely to me and I'd hate for my GC having no GP in his life.
Ugh! Still so gutted over this whole thing.

You have all posted some very good advice so I am going to sit and read through it until I decide what we do now.

OP posts:
OakIsBetterTho · 04/05/2018 19:51

Nasty fucking bastards!!! If nothing else proves it to you, this makes it clear you and your lovely DP are doing the right thing to leave them out of your lives from here on in. Up until your most recent update, I was erring on the side of it being all a big emotionally-charged misunderstanding but cancelling your birthday present of the scan is just too far.

DartmoorDoughnut · 04/05/2018 19:51

Christ that’s so cruel Sad

Genderwitched · 04/05/2018 19:52

What is the FIL thinking, has he never been told no before.

He is not behaving like an adult at all, how can he run companies and behave like this. It's not normal. I'm so sorry OP and DH Flowers

maymai · 04/05/2018 19:52

What @PotteryLady says!

maymai · 04/05/2018 19:52

What @PotteryLady says!

Graphista · 04/05/2018 19:53

Bastards!

That's just so cruel and spiteful and unnecessary! Totally shown their true colours now.

I'm with returning the glass and using the money to pay for the scan and just you and dh go.

Arseholes! Who the fuck do they think they are?! Taking back a birthday gift AND directly choosing a 'principle' over their grandchild. Better off without them. Suspect your dh will now tell you why he is not surprised at this, dread to think what he dealt with growing up.

"Well, let's hope they enjoy their family album full of pictures of money and wineglasses instead of their grandchild." Hear hear!

flumpybear · 04/05/2018 19:53

They're nasty, that was a birthday gift - bastards

littlebillie · 04/05/2018 19:54

💐

AmericanEskimoDoge · 04/05/2018 19:55

Definitely cancel the glass order and treat yourself to the scan.

Knittedfairies · 04/05/2018 19:56

That is beyond the pale; they’ve cancelled a gift already given to you? They have very definitely crossed the line now, even if one or other was only hovering over it before. Miserable, miserable gits.

littlebillie · 04/05/2018 19:56

This is just so sad for you and for them and your dh. Just remember this is just stuff 💐

EnglishRose13 · 04/05/2018 19:57

If this relationship is beyond repair, I don't see what can be gained from replacing the wine glass. It is not your responsibility to do so. They shouldn't have used them if they aren't prepared to cover any breakages.

Cancelling the glass order. Treat yourself to a 4D scan. Forget them.

OpheliaStorm · 04/05/2018 19:57

This is one of the strangest issues I have seen here.

I just do not know what to say anymore. But am getting a spidey feeling if that's allowed.

mummyhaschangedhername · 04/05/2018 19:57

So sorry OP.

Jozxyqk · 04/05/2018 19:59

I'd still send the glass, I think. With a note to say that I hope they it was worth it. And that would be it from me until I'd had a proper apology. Which I very much doubt you'll receive in this lifetime. As long as DH was happy with that, obviously.

HoldOnToHope · 04/05/2018 19:59
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Tinkie25 · 04/05/2018 20:00

Just caught the updates. Awful ☹️

Idbemonica1 · 04/05/2018 20:00

How spiteful. They have shown their true colours. Flowersfor you and your DH OP

HoldOnToHope · 04/05/2018 20:00
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GermanShepherd89 · 04/05/2018 20:00

I’m not sure if this is allowed but I’d love to contribute some money towards a scan for OP, if a couple of others would like to join me?

PieAndPumpkins · 04/05/2018 20:01

Oh Pug! As shocking as their behaviour has been throughout, that last update takes the biscuit! Can you cancel the glass?? Scans are not too expensive, could you manage one anyway? I'm so sorry. Money truly doesn't buy class, does it?

Offthebandwagonagain · 04/05/2018 20:02

I’d say cancel the glass order and pay for a private scan.

Nasty people.

Well, there go any chances of them ever meeting your dc. Cruel nasty people. So sorry op x

JessicaJonesJacket · 04/05/2018 20:02

Were you planning on going to the scan even though you'd returned all their other gifts?

wineandcheeseplease · 04/05/2018 20:04

How awful

notmypropername · 04/05/2018 20:04

Oh love, what utter bastards to do that to you. I would honestly have to go round and have it out with them. This is over a fucking wine glass and they are going to miss out on there grandchild growing up for this? It sounds like they have serious mental health problems.

Just su]imply put it was an accident, with a baby in the way you don't have that disposable income and they are willing to break the family up because if it?