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PIL has sent be a bill for a broken wine glass

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pugreverywhere · 03/05/2018 14:55

Yes, had to namechange.

Went to PIL' home last weekend, had a glass of wine and I accidentally dropped it. No big deal, they shrugged it off. I get on well with both FIL and MIL, have been with DH for 4 years now and we are having our first child in 4 months.

They're well off.. as in, VERY well off.. DP and I on the other hand live in a rented 3 bed semi-dettached property so definitely not as well off.

I didn't know at the time, but said wine glass apparently happens to be pretty high end. FIL has this morning sent me an e-mail saying that I can just transfer the £156 to him or buy the glass online. He even attached a link and included their address, should I not know it by now(!).

At first I thought it was a joke only to realise that these people have no sense of humor, so they obviously must be expect me to pay them ASAP. Haven't told DH yet. Really shocked at this as they are not known for being stingy.

AIBU not to pay this? I am tempted to buy a £20 glass off Amazon!

OP posts:
sonjadog · 03/05/2018 15:52

Definitely one for your DH to deal with.

BarbaraofSevillle · 03/05/2018 15:54

If you can't afford to replace 156 pounds worth of wine glass then you shouldn't serve people drinks in 156 pounds worth of wine glasses

^^ This.

For the poster upthread who's glasses were four for a fiver in Sainsbury's, you utter spendthrift you, mine were either £2 for 6 or a pound each in Ikea, and very nice they are too and I don't ever have to worry about them getting broken because if they do I just pop up the road to Ikea to get some more.

I would be a rubbish rich person because no matter how rich I was, I don't think I'd ever spend such stupid money on stuff like this, however nice it was.

Merryhobnobs · 03/05/2018 15:55

Thats just crazy!

CherieBabySpliffUp · 03/05/2018 15:55

Wow! Definitely pass this on to your DH to deal with.

MollyHuaCha · 03/05/2018 15:56

I would pay him the money, but not accept invitations there again, saying you just can't afford the risk of stepping over their threshold.

expatinscotland · 03/05/2018 15:57

Wow! He texted to see if you got the email? 'Yes,' is what I'd text back.

Shedmicehugh1 · 03/05/2018 15:58

Is this what he means by broken? Grin

PIL has sent be a bill for a broken wine glass
AttilaTheMeerkat · 03/05/2018 16:00

How is the relationship between your H and his parents generally speaking?. You need to speak to him asap about his dad's email and his subsequent text message to you.

Think FIL is being deadly serious here unfortunately and you are now seeing what he is really like. This has likely been sent as well with his wife's full knowledge. I also think it is a passive aggressive stance on his part, you're really now seeing his true colours.

I would not be paying for the breakage because it was an accident.

XJerseyGirlX · 03/05/2018 16:00

fucking hell OP make sure you take your own wine glass with you next time. They sound bonkers

ConferencePear · 03/05/2018 16:00

He has the money to buy expensive glasses, but not the class to go with it.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 03/05/2018 16:00

Send them a frozen shit sprinkled with 'hundreds and thousands'

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 03/05/2018 16:02

At least you NEVER have to go to their home again. You can respond to every invitation with "Sorry, I can't afford it this week." Wink

OVienna · 03/05/2018 16:02

I would text him back and say: I have forwarded it to DH. And ENGAGE NO FURTHER.

If your husband insists on paying for it, I wouldn't be able to resist a snarky text which runs along the lines of what a previous poster said: "Blimey, we won't be visiting again any time soon with the baby! Who knows what we'll be charged for!"

Mitzimaybe · 03/05/2018 16:02

Ignore FIL. Talk to DH about it. Do not pay. I have some nice glasses that I can't replace if they get broken (hand made, bought abroad.) Not this expensive. I died a little inside when one got broken by a well-meaning washer-upper (whom I had told NOT to wash them up.) I would never in a million years think to bill him for the value. That is beyond rude.

50shadesofgreyismylaundry · 03/05/2018 16:02

Do not ever take the grandchildren to their house. The breakages bill would be too huge.

WingsOnMyBoots · 03/05/2018 16:03

This is sometimes exactly why very wealthy people ARE very wealthy!
Most people would not make this demand.

TomRavenscroft · 03/05/2018 16:03

At least you NEVER have to go to their home again. You can respond to every invitation with "Sorry, I can't afford it this week."

Grin
Gazelda · 03/05/2018 16:04

Black that's hilarious and spot on!

PuppyMonkey · 03/05/2018 16:05

Text back: “Lol.”

expatinscotland · 03/05/2018 16:06

I'd honestly just tell him, 'It was an accident. Won't be paying for it.'

abigailsnan · 03/05/2018 16:08

Why can't he claim for it on his house insurance ?? sorry if someone has already asked this but I have just come onto this post.

WingsOnMyBoots · 03/05/2018 16:08

You'll be getting a bill for carpet wear and tear, parking and sofa usage next.

Korg · 03/05/2018 16:08

If I broke something at someone else’s house I would offer to replace it and expect to do so. Your FIL is rude to ask, but it’s even poorer form that the OP didn’t offer in the first place.

Bluelady · 03/05/2018 16:10

I've just.googled £156 wine glass and this thread comes up ...

kaytee87 · 03/05/2018 16:11

Mental. We have a set of very expensive glasses but I give them to guests at my own risk.
Show your partner the email.

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