PIL has sent be a bill for a broken wine glass

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Yes, had to namechange.

Went to PIL' home last weekend, had a glass of wine and I accidentally dropped it. No big deal, they shrugged it off. I get on well with both FIL and MIL, have been with DH for 4 years now and we are having our first child in 4 months.

They're well off.. as in, VERY well off.. DP and I on the other hand live in a rented 3 bed semi-dettached property so definitely not as well off.

I didn't know at the time, but said wine glass apparently happens to be pretty high end. FIL has this morning sent me an e-mail saying that I can just transfer the £156 to him or buy the glass online. He even attached a link and included their address, should I not know it by now(!).

At first I thought it was a joke only to realise that these people have no sense of humor, so they obviously must be expect me to pay them ASAP. Haven't told DH yet. Really shocked at this as they are not known for being stingy.

AIBU not to pay this? I am tempted to buy a £20 glass off Amazon!

I would leave it to your DH to deal with

Forward it to dh and let him deal with it. If he pays you might want to rethink your relationship.

' Here is the money. It won't be financially sensible for us to bring the grandchild to visit until they are at least 25 to lower the risk of further bill being sent to us so I look forward to seeing you again in quarter of a century"

Leave it for your DH to sort out - his parents... and am assuming you have going finances so if you do decide to pay for it, it will affect him too, in theory?

Agree a glass this expensive should be covered by insurance, it may be that their excess is more, hence asking you to pay for it.

*joint not going. Damn autocorrect!

Talk to DH about it don't let PIL divide and rule.

If you can't afford to replace 156 pounds worth of wine glass then you shouldn't serve people drinks in 156 pounds worth of wine glasses! Absolutely. I have supermarket glasses that I can afford to replace. If they are using glasses they cannot afford to replace, they are living beyond their means. Probably made possible by fleecing hapless guests

"Ha ha FIL I love your sense of humour! This has really cheered me up, thank you. Looking forward to seeing you on the weekend/whenever, lots of love xx"
This.

If they then make a big deal out of, suggest they contact their insurance company. This what its for. And take a cheap glass with you next time. It's not like you threw your glass at the wall (I presume)!

Right, I will ask DH in an hour or so when he is home. I think he will be just as shocked as I am. FIL has also texted me if I got the e-mail so I can't ignore him forever

Please video your husbands reaction, it will make you chuckle on a rainy day!

Christ on a bike, sorry to derail thread but I clicked on the first glass link above and then other stuff on the same website and I've just found a viscose cushion cover for £702. Whaaaaat? 'Ere 'tis. www.modaoperandi.com/etro-pf18/fergnana-cushion?size=OS

Offer to pay in installments £15.60 per month for the next 10 months.
I can't believe that. Tell your DH and let him deal with it.

If they still insist, agree to pay it off at 1 pound a week. But you won't be able to bring DGC to see them until you've paid it off, as it's coming out of the petrol money.

And yes, you must tell your DH. Maybe FiL has form for this.

Just text back "yes" and nothing else

If I had glasses so expensive I’d want them paid for if broken, I wouldn’t get them out and use them for guests. What a pillock.

How did the break happen OP is there a backstory?

@onalongsabbatical good grief! I like nice things, but 702 pounds for a Polyester cushion. It isn't even a nice one! Some people must have more money than taste.

I think that you must be misunderstanding an attempt at a joke. Definitely tell your DH, who will most likely confirm this.

‘If I broke an expensive item I’d offer to replace it....’

Would you? Is that not what insurance is for? I might offer to cover the excess for a tablet, or vase or something, but a drinking glass? As a pp said, if you can afford to use expensive glassware then you can afford for it to be broken.

I would ignore the CF until you have spoken to dh.

Did you just knock it off the table or kick it up his driveway?

Sounds too passive aggressive to just be about a dropped glass...

And a scented candle is 489 pounds!

Makes the glass look cheap now.

What ghastly tawdry behaviour. So sorry you’re having to deal with this

True, if the OP was attempting to limbo dance with the glass on her forehead after repeatedly being asked to be careful, I guess she could be at fault.

Fuck me.

The weirdest bit is that they shrugged it off at the time. What's happened between then and now?

Ignore FIL until you've shown your DH the email.