PIL has sent be a bill for a broken wine glass

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Yes, had to namechange.

Went to PIL' home last weekend, had a glass of wine and I accidentally dropped it. No big deal, they shrugged it off. I get on well with both FIL and MIL, have been with DH for 4 years now and we are having our first child in 4 months.

They're well off.. as in, VERY well off.. DP and I on the other hand live in a rented 3 bed semi-dettached property so definitely not as well off.

I didn't know at the time, but said wine glass apparently happens to be pretty high end. FIL has this morning sent me an e-mail saying that I can just transfer the £156 to him or buy the glass online. He even attached a link and included their address, should I not know it by now(!).

At first I thought it was a joke only to realise that these people have no sense of humor, so they obviously must be expect me to pay them ASAP. Haven't told DH yet. Really shocked at this as they are not known for being stingy.

AIBU not to pay this? I am tempted to buy a £20 glass off Amazon!

Where is the op?

Oooooooh come on OP! Got to deal with DD4 bath time in a minute!

Shocking!!

I wonder if MIL is aware of the email!

Having a long conversation with her DH about how the hell they deal with his father!

Hopefully they are both laughing, whilst puzzling it out!

Hey one from Poundland or charity shop.
Smash it.
Post it.
Say it must have gotten broken in the post.

I would never wash up, clear the table, help, ever again.
I also would take a plastic Hello Kitty cup to leave there for myself to drink out of in future...

£156 for a glass . Is it a magical glass that turns water into wine? I always thought personalised number plates were the most frivolous waste of money since no-one knows what they mean but £156 for a drinking receptacle beats that hands down. Really hope your DH sorts his dad out, what a twat.

I think this is one for your partner.They are his parents.

If he chooses to pay then I think you need to come to a view about visiting with a toddler. That's not something I would want to do .

Again - for your partner to sort out.

It's just sad really

They're batshit crazy. I agree with pp. Either take a plastic tumbler around next time, the ones with floating glitter and plastic. Or say you're not visiting again as you cannot afford it. I certainly would not be coughing up £156!

What awful manners. Very bad form to send a bill.

I would ask my DP to respond and I certainly wouldn’t be taking a baby or child round there.

No no no! If they want to use fancy glasses with their house guests that's their choice! Do not pay how utterly ridiculous! X

They may have money...but I can assure you, they have absolutely no class.

That is some awful cheeky fuckery OP! I really hope your DP can stop this madness before it escalates. Who the hell uses glasses that cost that much?!?

I cried when I broke my £12 Cath Kidston champagne flute because you can't get them any more and I love them.

I cannot imagine paying £150 for a piece of glass. Was it hand blown by centaurs riding on unicorns through the depths of Narnia?

Another vote for passing on to DH and letting him deal with it!

In your shoes, I would pay simply as a two finger gesture, then NEVER visit them EVER AGAIN!!

Let's hope they never experience any REAL world problems. Sounds like they have lived a pampered life.

Very rude of your fil. Are either of the links the actual glass?

Wow! I’d definitely refuse to take your child there on the grounds you can’t afford to.

Crikey! There's arsehole and then there's premier league arsehole.

I cannot imagine ever asking someone to pay for something they've broken by accident.

Okay so things have actually gotten more ridiciulous. My DH came home and I showed him the e-mail. He was as shocked as I was but doesn't want to start any crap with them as he feels we owe them as they've bought lots of stuff for the baby.. so he suggested we buy the wine glass as a father's day present for next month. I e-mailed FIL back asking if this was okay. Just got a response now saying "yes, but technically shouldn't you be giving me two then? the broken glass can hardly count as a present".

DH has tried to call his father but no luck so god knows what's going to happen. DH is also borrowing FIL's car and is very tempted to just let to have him have it back after this incident!

Definitely one for classics 😂

Totally insane and just all round poor manners.

Look on eBay, would actually be quite amusing if you got a bargain replacement - after all theirs was in used condition....

What a CF!! Speak to MIL

I know a few friends of ours are very wealthy (talking yachts, Bentlys etc etc) and yet they would never be so crass. FIL sounds truly awful.

Leave them to it.

“Sorry, I never would have drank from the glass had I known how expensive it was. Frankly, I think that is quite a ridiculous price for a piece of functional glassware and am not happy about paying to replace something excessively expensive that you and MIL choose to own and use. Perhaps in future I could use more reasonably priced glassware to avoid embarrassing situations which highlight the huge difference in our financial situations.”