Overheard my cousin say “We asked <my name> she daren't say no :(

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As above. My cousin asked me to help her move, no petrol money offered, not even a bed for the night as she wants to spend first night in new home with her partner alone. I said yes and here I am, worked all morning, soaking wet, was waiting for her in the car outside to follow her to new place, she didn’t come out so I went back in her hall and heard on say on the phone to someone that she’d asked me to move her because I daren’t say no to her.

I always help out when I can, I’ve taken a day off and driven a long way. Now I feel used.

I’d have told her she had 15 minutes to unpack her shit or id be driving off with the boot open and she’s welcome to run along behind collecting her broken stuff!

You are way too nice for your own good. The street is good place to drop her stuff. Bloody cheek!

Fair play to you op

I don't think she can "just dump it on the pavement " - op said there's loads of it and it'll take ages.,That's why I think nasty cousin should do it while op sits in her nice dry car.

What stopped you telling her that you heard what she said about you? I'd have been so incensed I would have had it out with her straight away.

Cousin wants me to wait here (old place) until 4 while she goes to new place

How did she take the news op?

You don't need people like this in your life op. Go to the pub, go anywhere. Dump her shit!

Good for you, sweetheart!!! Enjoy the rest of your day off and have a snigger to yourself that she hasn't managed to be a master puppeteer this time.

Please, please, once unpacked at the other end, tell your partner to tell there that you'd overheard her on the phone and won't be doing her any more favours - especially free ones! Cheeky bloody cow.

Please don’t feel bad about yourself. You’re clearly a kind and generous person. It happens sooner or later that someone takes advantage. Chalk it up to experience and don’t be taken in by her again. But don’t assume that everyone is like her because really they are not. And the world needs decent people like you.

I’m willing to bet that the person in the other end of that conversation might have had their eyes opened to the kind of person she is too.

Sorry, *her partner.

You need to tell her you heard her on the phone or she will never know. What a bitch.

I might take several days hours to get her stuff to the new place

Cousin wants me to wait here (old place) until 4 while she goes to new place. Her partner is already at new place.

Cheeky asshole

What a horrible thing to overhear 😡😰

Did you tell her why?

How far is her new place? If its nearby then drive off and do something nice for the afternoon then either drop it round at your convenience later or better still tell her to come and collect it and tell her why you won't bring her stuff to her.

Good for you.

Please ask for petrol money too!

I wouldn't let her know I'd overheard, let her wonder why you're suddenly not so accommodating any more.

Good for you. You've got the measure of her now, so if you want to say "no" in future you'll probably find that you can do it.

I also probably wouldn't have been confronting her, dumping her stuff & driving off.

You were kind to take her stuff though-especially knowing that her OH has a van-why wasn't he doing it all with her?

Sounds as if you needn't have been involved at all.

So now you are doing her cleaning for her as well? no wonder she treats you like shit.

Is her partner going to unpack the stuff from your car?

Although unpleasant it's a good thing for you to have overheard because it might force you to address your people-pleasing.

The terms were always crap even before you heard her comment. No petrol money, no bed for the night. You should have said no then or stated your terms.

It's one thing to be altruistic, it's another to be a pushover.