Overheard my cousin say “We asked <my name> she daren't say no :(

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As above. My cousin asked me to help her move, no petrol money offered, not even a bed for the night as she wants to spend first night in new home with her partner alone. I said yes and here I am, worked all morning, soaking wet, was waiting for her in the car outside to follow her to new place, she didn’t come out so I went back in her hall and heard on say on the phone to someone that she’d asked me to move her because I daren’t say no to her.

I always help out when I can, I’ve taken a day off and driven a long way. Now I feel used.

Fromage

Genius

Errrr....Fromage....that's a bit deranged. This is real life, not a soap opera. You are muddying the waters.

Unload the stuff at the new house onto the kerb, smile, leave and never help her again.

I'd avoid the drama of kicking off - it will only make everything worse. Lesson learnt. Never help again, with anything. She's enjoying taking the piss. Now you know.

Please dump and run. Enjoy your day off!

I’d have guessed it was a joke, but if the op actually heard how it was said and she knows her cousin best, then I’m guessing she could tell what the cousin meant.

I’d probably get her to unpack it herself and then leave, but tbh I wouldn’t want a big conversation about it with her, so don’t know how I’d approach it. She might come out with a whole load of excuses which I couldn’t be arsed to listen to.

I hope you are unpacking!
That’s awful......why are people so unkind and rude?

Do what everybody else has said....unpack (and don’t be precious either, I’d be flinging it) and drive off.
And don’t ever help her again. Ever.

I'm guessing that you're on your way to her new place.

When you arrive, sit in the car. Don't get out. Don't offer to help her take her things inside. If she asks why, tell her "Well, I agreed to get you moved but I never agreed to be taken for a mug so I advise you to get your things out of my car. You daren't say no to me!"

Don't stay over and just get yourself home. How rude of her.

So what DID you do??? I really hope you did SOMETHING!

OP your cousin is horrible. I'd tell her to get your car unpacked or you are leaving.

If she doesn't get her stuff out pronto then I would do a few sharp back and forth movements with the doors / boot open and the car will unpack most of the stuff for you.

Like others have said, I would just unpack and go.

I know it's a bit of a stupid thing to stick with someone, but I always remember Neil from the Office saying "I don't let anyone talk to me the way you just did - not my staff, not my boss, no one - certainly not you". I used to have a tendency to let people walk all over me, but I try to remember that quote when people talk to me like shit.

You are a person who deserves respect. So leave her shit and tell her firmly not to talk about you like that.

Cheeky so and so.

You're a nice person, so just bring the stuff to the new house, unload it onto the pavement and drive off.

I have a very short fuse so I'd have fucked it out of my car at her old house and left.

Your cousin is an ungrateful cow.
I hope you drove off and didn't help her. You sound lovely OP. Shame the same can't be said about her!

well, I am no doormat, but I wouldn't be dumping it on the path and leaving. That makes me as bad as her.

I would take it to her new house, put it down inside the front door, and tell her that as she has treated you like a mug, you will not be helping her further, I would then ask her for £50 in petrol money.

She will say no, and then I would shrug and say, when you are ready, you can send it to me in cash or vouchers.
Then I would tell other family members she owes you £50 and turn it round on her.

Never help her again.

livefornaps

....or maybe I'm just idly thinking about what would be amusing but obv no one would ever do

Sometimes people on the internet are just posting lightheartedly, because they have a sense of humour, and they aren't entirely serious. Sometimes when someone has been a cheeky fucker, it helps to put a smile on their victim's face, because it lessens the pain of being cheeky fuckered. This is not deadseriousnet.

Dump her stuff and say ‘this is me daring to say No. I like that word so any further requests will be met with No’

I'd do what most other PP would do - empty it onto the pavement and go do something else!

Lesson learned, don't help her again.

Personally I would drive to her new house unpack the car as quickly as possible and turn to your cousin and say something in the lines of

"Hey cousin, I took the day off work because I though helping you was a nice thing to do, not because I daren't say no to you. Seeing that you clearly don't appreciate the help in the spite that its give I suggest you don't bother asking for favours from me again."

Then leave and enjoy the rest of your day off.

No point in making drama, people like this only feed on it and they are not worth the time or bother.

OP, have you either confronted her or dumped her shit and driven off yet?

What Juells said ^^

When she says “oi, aren’t you going to help me take it in?”, you can reply “not after what I overheard you say on the phone!” And speed off! And never help her again!!

that would be the last time i'd do her a favour! all future requests would be met with a NO! and a laugh.

Don’t unpack it, just go home. If she wants her stuff she can arrange to collect it from yours. Cheeky cow. Don’t do anything else to help her either.

Could it have been a jokey comment? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you owe her a favour or something? An odd thing to say...

I would have walked into the room and gave her a look that meant "yeah I heard" but wouldn't have said anything. And then enjoy watching her squirm. Deeelicious.

Dump all her stuff at the door, get in your car, go home and never do her a favour again. Some people, like you are genuinely kind and happy to help, others are users who take advantage of their generosity. I hope you're OK

Haven’t read all the thread yet, sorry.

Someone was supposed to have picked up cousin’s key at lunch time but didn’t show. Seems they can’t come until 4 now. Cousin wants me to wait here (old place) until 4 while she goes to new place. Her partner is already at new place. He took hire van this morning, we were cleaning old place and bringing the rest of the stuff in two cars.

I said I wasn’t waiting, I’ll drop stuff at new place and go home. I’m round the corner reading the thread now.