Overheard my cousin say “We asked <my name> she daren't say no :(

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As above. My cousin asked me to help her move, no petrol money offered, not even a bed for the night as she wants to spend first night in new home with her partner alone. I said yes and here I am, worked all morning, soaking wet, was waiting for her in the car outside to follow her to new place, she didn’t come out so I went back in her hall and heard on say on the phone to someone that she’d asked me to move her because I daren’t say no to her.

I always help out when I can, I’ve taken a day off and driven a long way. Now I feel used.

I said I wasn’t waiting, I’ll drop stuff at new place and go home. I’m round the corner reading the thread now

Well done you!
When you get to new place, ask her partner "are you giving me petrol money or is cousin?"

What breakfast said.

Or actually no. Just tell her partner that you'd like him to settle up NOW as you can't wait for cousin. If he says she'll give it you, you probably won't get anything.

Well done op. Chuck the shit on the kerb or front garden and leave asap. What a horrible cunt. Xx

I said I wasn’t waiting, I’ll drop stuff at new place and go home. I’m round the corner reading the thread now

I’ve been lurking but well done OP!

Well done op, you need to get partner to unload onto pavement so you can just leave asap, with petrol money.

Although unpleasant it's a good thing for you to have overheard because it might force you to address your people-pleasing

I totally agree with this. Lesson learned for the future, OP. Lots of stuff on the net about learning to say NO to cheeky fuckers like your cousin. It's empowering.

If it was a couple of suitcases I might have unloaded in the heat of the moment but I’ve got lamps and crap shoved into every corner.

I didn't say I’d heard her but she knows something is up. She said she had to go to the new place to unpack so I’d have to stay. I “dared” to say no.

Yes I’ll tell partner to unpack. She’s probably on the phone to him right now, angry.

I said I wasn’t waiting, I’ll drop stuff at new place and go home. I’m round the corner reading the thread now

👏good for you,try and not feel bad about your kindness being taken advantage of although it does hurt just re set your boundries.

Setting off now. About an hour in the traffic I would think. Just noticed I’ve got the kettle etc. on the front seat so she’ll have to go out if she wants a coffee!

I would have shouted ‘oi you cheeky bitch I heard that’

Glad you said no !

well done, and yes, i expect you'll have used all your leave up next time she needs a favour, what an unpleasant person your cousin is, mocking someone for helping her, not only for free, but also costing you a day's holiday!

Thanks everyone. Yes lesson learned.

Don't back down OP. drive over and either insist she empty your car or you just dump it at the side of the road in the rain and drive off.

Why don't you get a marker pen and mark all her cardboard boxes with "twat" before you drop them off? Haaaa!!

OP, don't unload so much as a thumpnail from the car when hoy get there.

livefornaps Yes, that would be time well spent.

" She’s probably on the phone to him right now, angry."

Wonder if he's a piss taker along the sae lins as her.

I'm just wondering how it goes-"I'm so pissed off with cocktail for bringing the stuff round"??!!

I always help out when I can, I’ve taken a day off and driven a long way. Now I feel used

Thats because you have been used. I know you sound lovely but people only treat others like this because they let them, so dont let her treat you like this again. No more favours or days off work.

"Just noticed I’ve got the kettle etc."

Could the kettle fall out of the box & roll under the seat??

The first thing she will want is a brew 😂

You did good OP. Nasty lesson learned but you can proud of yourself handling it in such a dignified manner

Definitely get her OH to unload and then go and do something nice for you for the rest of the day. And don't do any favours in future!

Wonder why she thinks you'll do what she says?

HA! You have her kettle

Wouldn't it be such a shame if the power cord to the kettle went into the next bin you pass missing on the journey?

I would ‘misunderstand’ what she said and take the lot to a charity shop then go home. Better still to the tip after all charity shops don’t take electrical goods like kettles do they.