Overheard my cousin say “We asked <my name> she daren't say no :(

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As above. My cousin asked me to help her move, no petrol money offered, not even a bed for the night as she wants to spend first night in new home with her partner alone. I said yes and here I am, worked all morning, soaking wet, was waiting for her in the car outside to follow her to new place, she didn’t come out so I went back in her hall and heard on say on the phone to someone that she’d asked me to move her because I daren’t say no to her.

I always help out when I can, I’ve taken a day off and driven a long way. Now I feel used.

She's a cheeky cunt. I agree with swimming.

Have you unpacked it all, walked up to her and said, with a smile "I a saying no now!"?

I bloody would have!

• Go in, and say "I heard what you said about me. I'm leaving in 15 minutes. You can come and get your things out of my car before I go".

Then sit and listen to the radio while she carries her stuff to her house in the rain. And then drive home.*

This ^

FFS

Dump the stuff in the street and drive home. How dare she!!!!

On the way home stop off for something to eat, you still have half a day to enjoy - pub/cinema/friends to see

I agree with swimming

i would loseit and Chuck everything out. How fucking dare she?

Just one thought though could she have been joking? You know in the ‘she wouldn’t dare say no to me’ as a joke???

Clutching at straws but you know her best

Unpack her stuff and drive away, you'd be unloading your car in the rain when you get to her new place anyway.

What swimming said.

Are you sure she was talking about you? It sounds like you've just got to go through with it then limit contact with her in future. Are you going to tell other family members about this?

The way I see it, your options are:

1. Do nothing about it, carry on helping her out to avoid confrontation, get treated like a mug
2. Call her out on it, ask her for petrol money, lunch and a proper thank you for helping her and carry on helping her with some dignity intact
3. Dump her stuff, get wet, get out
4. Drive home with her stuff in your car, leave it to her to collect

Personally I'd do 2 or 3. Good luck OP, she's a dick.

Darent? Does she think you're scared of her?

Take her toothbrush, razor and tampons with you.

Wow she sounds lovely!

I’m with everyone else, tell her to get her stuff out your car and go

I am sooooo angry on your behalf!

Cobblers to her, dump it back in the house and go.

Don't unpack in old house - you sound too nice to do that.

Follow her to new house, stopping en route for petrol (and she pays for that).

Unload your car first. Leave everything at kerb side. Drive off.

You don't have to bring anything inside.

You don't have to unpack her car.

You keep your self-respect, you can still look any family member in the eye and say you did help DCousin to move house, but you get back a good few hours to yourself (and energy from not humping all the boxes, and unpacking until she's about to get her romantic takeaway and kicks you out) to do something to salvage your day off.

I assume you're en route to her new place with her stuff by now.

Just unload, tell her you heard her on the phone so you are now leaving and just go. Don't let her wheedle you into putting things straight in the new place, just plonk it all down & leave.

I’m hoping the OP is having a confrontation with CF rellie right now!

Drive over to her new place and leave the car and go for a coffee.
Tell her you'll be back in an hour and you're afraid you need to take the car then, so she'd better get the stuff in the house before it gets rained on.
Someone start some new fun CF threads (or else just tell us what else she's conned you into in the past) so we can amuse you while you have your coffee.

Be curt. "Right let's go". Get there...turn to her and say, "by the way I heard what you said. Get your stuff out of my car". Dump the stuff outside the new house, take yourself home for a cosy takeaway. Never help her again!!!

You need to do something op. Please address this one way or the other as suggested.

If you don't want confrontation, the least you should do is unload it at the other end then say that you have to leave. If she gets arsey then tell her you overheard her comment and that you feel hurt. You can leave without falling out if absolutely necessary but don't be persuaded to stay and help more. Tell her that you'll probably calm down in time but you need to go now before you say something and fall out.

TBH you ought to be more direct than that, but that is the less confrontational option.

Oh god OP. Get back some self respect. Unload the car and go home. Stop somewhere on the way for a nice cuppa and some cake. Sorry you have such shitty relatives.

What swimming said. Although I'd also think that as I'm soakinganyway, I might carefully and gently hurl all her shit in the general direction of her front door for her.

What a nasty woman. I do hope she's moving far away from you.

Ooh actually, here's what I would really like to do:

Drive off asap for her new place, maybe just dump all her shit at her front door there, and knock on a few neighbours' doors and ask if they've seen a police car this morning, as they were supposed to be here to supervise the move, as was cousin's probation officer. Also what a lovely neighbourhood, and now your cousin is probably over drug problems, and she swears she's stopped dealing this time, she's much less likely now to turn this place into a meth lab. Especially since the fires, like last time. Anyway, it's really only the sex parties she makes money from now anyway, and that's really only weed and coke they have there, mostly.

It's very important to make a good impression on the neighbours.

NotTerfNorCis "Are you sure she was talking about you?"

She used the OP's name!