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AIBU to not want my DS to have this hairstyle?

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greenlantern1 · 01/05/2018 16:41

7 yr DS wants to have streaks razored into the side of his hair, like the footballers have. I can't stand it on young kids - plus I hate buying into that celebrity/sport bullshit culture.

I don't want him to have it. He's going to push for it.

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VerbenaBorensis · 01/05/2018 22:04

OMG! This thread is funny! Someone mentioned summer photos -well if he it on one he just have the other side in the photosGrin or u will look back at them and say 'look at that haircut u insisted having ay 7!! Maybe he just wants to fit in wiv his friends? Or be an individual? Don't get why everyone raving on about credit card stealing and tattoos! -totally overboard!

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 01/05/2018 22:04

My DD (who is uber stylish) told me that "curtains" were making a comeback with teen boys in her school ( Bloody hope not).
I used to watch one Yr11 flicking his muppety hair out of his eyes , no idea how he didn't end up with neck spasms.

DS (not in the least bit cool) goes to the same Barber he's been to since he was a baby (They have his Hair Cutting Records like Sheldon Cooper Wink ).
I've seen some of the Yr 13 with the LlamaTop, some with SkinTints.

I'd sooner have shaved sides than long hair on DS .

VerbenaBorensis · 01/05/2018 22:05

Well not everyone -some..

VerbenaBorensis · 01/05/2018 22:08

Yes 70isa mine had long fringe for a while he kept looking up through it to see. Looked awful but his choice-eventually he got fed up wiv it and had it cut!

Waddlelikeapenguin · 01/05/2018 22:11

It's his hair so it's his choice.

Unless it's much more expensive than his normal cut (my ds has hair to his shoulders because that's how he likes it & when he wants it cut he insists I do it badly so I dont know about cost) I dont think it's your decision.

TorviBrightspear · 01/05/2018 22:11

It's his hair, his choice. You might not like it, and you can always tell him about consequences, but in the same way as I 'd say a girl has a choice, so does a boy.

DS (aged 14) has decided to grow his hair. I think it'll look good, but I did say he;ll have to tie it back for school. He shrugged and is fine with that. He also wants to go red. I might offer that for the summer hols.

Yvest · 01/05/2018 22:13

No, because it looks horrible and he’s 7. However, my 8 year old only wears skinny tracksuit trousers, I just gave away 4 pairs of jeans he refused to look at

Biffsboys · 01/05/2018 22:14

No I wouldn’t allow it -and haven’t since my ds was 7 (he’s now 10 and still asks ) . It’s just something I really dislike !
everyone saying he should be allowed to express himself , it’s not him expressing himself it’s him copying people he sees .

DougFargo · 01/05/2018 22:15

It's his hair, his choice. You might not like it, and you can always tell him about consequences, but in the same way as I 'd say a girl has a choice, so does a boy

It's his hair his choice when he can take himself to the hairdressers and pay for his own cut. Yes, in the same way as a girl, its his mothers choice, because he is SEVEN.

Tartsamazeballs · 01/05/2018 22:29

It'd be fine by me, its only a hair cut, what's the big deal, it'll have grown out in 6 weeks but take lots of pics and taking the piss out of him can last a lifetime.

RainbowGlitterFairy · 01/05/2018 22:34

I really hate the hairstyle, but it is his hair so I think I would have to give in unless its against school rules, much like I have given in to DS' floppy emo fringe in his face. I like to think he will grow out of it but I am also very aware that my mum hates my hairstyle and ever changing colours and has been hoping the same thing for 20 odd years.

SoupDragon · 02/05/2018 08:08

It's his hair his choice when he can take himself to the hairdressers and pay for his own cut. Yes, in the same way as a girl, its his mothers choice, because he is SEVEN.

I prefer not to be a total dictator with my children.

WhatsGoingOnEh · 02/05/2018 08:10

Schools have banned this - a barber did it to my son's hair when he was in infant school 🙄 and he got told off.

Mxyzptlk · 02/05/2018 08:16

At that age, I wanted long hair. My parents made me have it short. I hated it.

What's the big deal? Let him have it, but not in term time if school will object.

PurpleTigerLove · 02/05/2018 08:27

Tell him no and don’t make excuses about school . It’s tacky as hell .

madamedepoppadom · 02/05/2018 09:09

Personally I dislike that haircut (I dislike very short hair on boys in general) but I think he should be allowed a say in his hairstyle, as it's one thing that can be changed very easily without any lasting effects. I would have been relieved if my DC had had any original ideas for their hair at that age.

If it's allowed at school, I see no harm in it at all, and it will grow out quickly. If it isn't, there's your excuse.

ICantCopeAnymore · 02/05/2018 09:10

BiffsBoys

Completely disagree. Children are fully capable of expressing themselves at that age.

My DS certainly doesn't copy people he sees.

DougFargo · 02/05/2018 09:10

I prefer not to be a total dictator with my children

Bully for you. I see myself as a fairly benign facist.

PoisonousSmurf · 02/05/2018 09:12

Do it at the beginning of the summer holidays.

BuntyII · 02/05/2018 09:14

These young people and their hair cuts! Put a bowl on his head and cut round it! Never did me any harm

SuitedandBooted · 02/05/2018 09:30

He's 7. You are the parent. Will you let him do everything he wants, just to stop him nagging?
It is very likely the school won't allow it anyway, and I agree with you, and hate the "celeb" connotations.

TheBigFatMermaid · 02/05/2018 09:32

If you can't say no to something a 7 year old is demanding, I hold out no hope for you dealing him when he is a teen. You do not want it, whether or not I agree is irrelevant, you are his parent. You get to make the decisions for your child!

Gottagetmoving · 02/05/2018 09:37

I don't think you should let your son have a style that age if you don't want to, however, my son had 'tram lines' cut into the sides when he was about that age 30 years ago. It looked neat and smart and the school allowed it. Unless I'm thinking of the wrong style?

Velvetbee · 02/05/2018 09:49

Benign fascist here too. Just say ‘no’, it’s a horrible haircut. Mine are home educated and have masses of choice in their day to day lives but there’s a line (and it’s not shaved on a scalp)!

Gottagetmoving · 02/05/2018 10:05

My grandfather thought civilisation had ended when boys started to have long hair. He assumed any male with long hair was dirty and lazy...but he would have loved the hair cuts boys are having today, short back and sides!