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AIBU to not want my DS to have this hairstyle?

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greenlantern1 · 01/05/2018 16:41

7 yr DS wants to have streaks razored into the side of his hair, like the footballers have. I can't stand it on young kids - plus I hate buying into that celebrity/sport bullshit culture.

I don't want him to have it. He's going to push for it.

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SoupDragon · 03/05/2018 11:12

I’m hoping one of mine requests this style.

AIBU to not want my DS to have this hairstyle?
noeffingidea · 03/05/2018 11:33

Kezer there's no 'of course' about it, unless you think your kids are your possession I guess with no say in how they look.

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 03/05/2018 19:45

Soup DD said, "That looks so photoshopped!" 😂

CosyLulu · 03/05/2018 20:08

Anyone with teenagers will be killing themselves laughing at this. All your ‘establishing control’ will soon be a distant dream.

It’s. A. Haircut.

SoupDragon · 03/05/2018 22:48

I’m fairly sure it’s not photoshopped as there’s another photo of the same guy and also other non coloured versions on other people.

I can’t see it passing many schools’ rules though!

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 04/05/2018 00:36

I don't think it's photoshopped either, she thought the legs were, but if they are, they're very good! When my hair grows enough, I'm having that! 😂

Astrid09 · 04/05/2018 01:17

I let my son 10 have his hair the way he wants it during the summer then a normal cut for back to school. All kids boys and girls want to try different styles.
If you comprise with him the battles over and hair grows back

SoupDragon · 04/05/2018 07:18

I wondered if the green was spray painted.

There were some hilarious other photos when I looked at the google images for lizard haircut

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 04/05/2018 10:52

That's possible.

rainingcats · 04/05/2018 10:58

Honestly I would let him have it done for the summer holidays with the expectation that he grows it out for back to school in September - this is no different to girls wanting to dip dye their hair pink or similar which I think is also fine to do in the summer

Sixgeese · 04/05/2018 12:54

My DS had lines shaved in his hair last Summer. He was 12 at the time.

They grew out so they were hardly noticable within 3 weeks and totally within the 6 week holiday.

I can't say I was over keen on the idea, but we agreed on the design before we went, I vetoed some he liked and it cost the same as his usual hair cut. His barbers has a set £9 charge for hair cuts for under 16s.

I tied my agreement to good behaviour and he is already thinking about what he would like this Summer.

I was really suprised how quickly it grew out so I wouldn't have a problem with him doing it again.

AIBU to not want my DS to have this hairstyle?
Turnitaroundagain · 04/05/2018 14:13

Try and get him to go for something less celebrity footballerish. I wouldn’t make a fuss about haircuts my DS can have what he wants but if he wanted that one I would definitely try and steer him away from it cos I hate that sort of thing too and I’d just be honest I’d tell him I think it’s common and boring.

Strugglingtodomybest · 04/05/2018 19:37

I was going to say what noeffingidea said:

Good for youOP.
I can remember what it felt like not being able to have fashionable hairstyles or clothes because my Mum didn't like it and thought I should look a certain way that suited her, and it felt like shit, tbh. It made me feel as if I didn't fit in with the other kids.

And I rebelled at 17. Tried to go for a goth style (think Robeston Smith of the Cure) and dye it burgundy but it came out pastel pink. I liked it though and kept it for a couple of years.

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greenlantern1 · 06/05/2018 07:23

I've logged back on after a few days absence...apologies.

I can't believe how many parents think if I'm not militant about this, if I don't put my foot down and say no, then he - and I - are doomed!

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BoxsetsAndPopcorn · 06/05/2018 07:50

I'm on the fence re hair.

I let mine have free reign over their clothes and they pick pretty much everything themselves and have developed their own styles.

I dislike long hair on boys but thankfully it's never been an issue and so does DS and can't abide the lines cut into hair. Would I let him if he asked? Definitely not term time as it's banned at school but over the summer holidays I would talk to him but there's no compromise really so it comes down to making a parental decision. At 7, I would have said no. A teen, maybe.

Smeddum · 06/05/2018 08:08

I can't believe how many parents think if I'm not militant about this, if I don't put my foot down and say no, then he - and I - are doomed!

Neither can I. I’m quite concerned at the need to control every tiny little aspect of a child. It’s not healthy.

SoupDragon · 06/05/2018 08:47

This one made me laugh loads 😂

AIBU to not want my DS to have this hairstyle?
PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 06/05/2018 09:13

Soup I asked DS2 if he'd like his hair like that, he said, "No. That just looks weird." Like the Kai from Ninjago one he currently sports doesn't. Hmm

Andrewofgg · 06/05/2018 09:15

No means No in more contexts than one.

No.

Just NO!

HollyBollyBooBoo · 06/05/2018 09:18

Can't he have it done at the beginning of the summer and then it'll be ready to cut out at the end of the summer. They've got to start expressing themselves at some point.

Chunkamatic · 07/05/2018 22:40

Both my DS's are allowed to do what they want with their hair since whenever they've showed a strong opinion(they are now 8 and 10). They have had it really long, really short and everything in between, including a few "footballers" haircuts.
I couldn't give a toss if people think they look "chavtastic", I know that they are not. If people are so ready to judge a child by their haircut then frankly that speaks more to me about that person than it does the child.
OP the haircut is fashionable, he'll be taking his lead from his peers.
IMO you leave yourself open for more radical rebellion later on of you make silly battles over things like this now.

ShyOyster · 07/05/2018 22:49

My goodness, can’t believe people give boys haircuts so much headspace. DS is currently sporting a haircut with a straight line razored on one side. He is 5. It has never ever occurred to me to care, it all grows back in less than a month anyway. It’s just his hair, doesn’t make him stupid, rude, unkind, whatever else (you know, all the important stuff...). We go to a barber shop and he picks whatever he likes. He loves it, feels all grown up and it makes him really happy.

maclippy · 07/05/2018 23:49

Yabu. It’s not your hair. Just because you do not want to look at it doesn’t mean he shouldn’t have it. He is a separate person from you, he shouldn’t have to tailor his hair around what you want. Hmm Angry Shock

GherkinSnatch · 08/05/2018 08:40

Yes let him do what he likes. Let’s just pretend like people won’t assume he’s some sort of thug/hooligan based on the combination of football strips and go-faster-stripes in his hair.

SoupDragon · 08/05/2018 11:02

Let’s just pretend like people won’t assume he’s some sort of thug/hooligan based on the combination of football strips and go-faster-stripes in his hair.

Not everyone is a judgemental twat.

Nevertheless, if he isn’t a thug/hooligan (FFS, he is 7!) then what judgemental twats think really is irrelevant.

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