AIBU to not want my DS to have this hairstyle?

[greenlantern1]

7 yr DS wants to have streaks razored into the side of his hair, like the footballers have. I can't stand it on young kids - plus I hate buying into that celebrity/sport bullshit culture.

I don't want him to have it. He's going to push for it.

What would you do if he said he wanted a tattoo? Just tell him no he can't, unless he's from 1980s Brooklyn or you can tell him the truth, he'd look absolutely ridiculous.

I remember a boy knocking for me when I was about 15 and my mum saying He looks like a nice boy, he's got tidy hair. It put me off him a bit

Oh, it's fine, ILostIt - I've been here since it were all fields (various names) and have certainly been through worse

To the 'uniform' - yes and no. I'm fairly liberal otherwise. One ds has sensory stuff about clothes so go to a lot of trouble to find him stuff he'll be happy in. I actually find that teens tend to dress more moderately here because (?) they don't have uniform.

You won't be able to stop them, Grilled. Teenagers are hard wired to go against you, openly or by stealth.

Bananas DS2 currently has hair like Kai from Ninjago (the spiky haired one)! 😂

Those are permanent whereas hair and clothing aren’t. Hardly the same thing at all

Same thing, further up the spectrum. The point pp made was "I let my children do what they want as its their body" nothing was said about only temporary things counting. Piercing is temporary anyway.

It is not the same thing at all. Making permanent changes to your body is not at all the same as something like a hairstyle which grows out.

Piercings are not temporary as they leave scarring. A permanent change.

I do have limits and very much dislike the hairstyle you describe, many of the boys at DDs school have it and I think it just looks strange.
However, if my DS wanted it Id find it hard to have a legitimate reason why not. It is neat and tidy I guess.
BTW what does a chav look like? Because to me it isn't a 7 yo with a tidy, if not a little bizarre, haircut.

It is not the same thing at all. Making permanent changes to your body is not at all the same as something like a hairstyle which grows out

I disagree, but as I said the point made did not mention "only temporary changes".
And not all piercings leave noticeable scarring.

Well if we're being really literal about it, the tattoo point is moot because he can't legally have one!

Not really angryburd there are kits you can buy off the Internet.

@formerbabe

I've said absolutely nothing about class, so you may have me confused with someone else?

It's sad that so many people care more about what random people think about their children than they do about their children being able to express themselves through clothes/hairstyles.

He's 7. How will he react to authority when he's 14?!

Sorry meant to say tattoo kits you can buy off the Internet, only takes one kid to rob (sorry borrow) their parents credit card and an active imagination and there you go, from mad haircuts then scarred for life.

Why are people saying allow it for the holidays? Personally I think it looks naff and wouldn’t want a whole year’s family summer photos like that!

Out school (primary and secondary) wouldn’t care two hoots.

Personally, about this particular style I would say ‘sorry, I really don’t like it, so you’ll have to wait unt you are older’

It’s up to you: how much you hate it or tolerate it, how much you think it matters if he goes around with that look.

Teens: I let them make their own mistakes and triumphs.

@ismyusernamerubbish so if OP allows him this haircut the next step is illegal eBay tattoo kits?? 🤔

Well I wouldn't have thought angryburd but then again, I wouldn't have thought a seven year old would want some ridiculous hairstyle, what's next, shell suit, breakdancing and beat box while watching the Fresh Prince?

At the end of the day this comes down to how much as parents you guide your children. I've got quite strict rules on behaviour, but not so much on how my kids dress. My DD is the Emo/Goth and my DS the track wearing sort (who gets a rollicking when his hands are inside his waistband!!). As they're both secondary hair is of a style that fits with their school rules. During summer hols DD has tried temp tattoos and hair dye, as well as black lips for the complete Goth look.

To me how they look is less important than how they behave. As long as they are polite, kind etc, because I think the world needs more of that than worrying about what people look like.

@username I actually can't tell if you're joking or not so well played.

To me how they look is less important than how they behave. As long as they are polite, kind etc, because I think the world needs more of that than worrying about what people look like.
@ ShawshanksRedepmtion Absolutely!
I'm 😂😂😂 at this thread and hoping there is some sarcasm lurking but I suspect not.

You know its possible to care about how they behave AND how they look at the same time?

Sorry but at 7 you say no and if he mentions it again you will remove xbox, iPad whatever he uses regularly.

Its hair-not permanent will grow back.Girls can do more wiv their hair than boys. If school say noooo then let him have it in first week of hols-it may even grow on you!(smile] Its really not that big a deal. Or maybe compromise have one side or less lines done?

@DougFargo
You know its possible to care about how they behave AND how they look at the same time?
Of course, but to me, as a parent, my focus is on their behaviour more than their fashion sense. Other parents can make up their own minds what they want their kids to wear etc. OP has said she doesn't like it, so it's really her call IMO. I don't particularly like it either, but it's not my hair so I'm not that worried. I don't mind creative expression in that way.