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Original poster

AIBU to not want my DS to have this hairstyle?

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greenlantern1 · 01/05/2018 16:41

7 yr DS wants to have streaks razored into the side of his hair, like the footballers have. I can't stand it on young kids - plus I hate buying into that celebrity/sport bullshit culture.

I don't want him to have it. He's going to push for it.

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NC4Now · 01/05/2018 16:41

I bet School won’t allow it. Use that as your reasoning.

hellsbellsmelons · 01/05/2018 16:42

He's 7!
No
No
No
No
No
No
No

Just keep repeating.

Nikephorus · 01/05/2018 16:43

He's 7. Unless he has a job to pay for it I'm thinking you're in control....

alexande · 01/05/2018 16:43

Could you compromise and say that he can have it done at the start of the summer holidays - if his behaviour/school work this term are good, perhaps - so that it's grown back by the time school starts?

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greenlantern1 · 01/05/2018 16:44

But I don't wnat to look at it - it's not just about school

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RatherBeRiding · 01/05/2018 16:44

Let him push. You're the parent. You're the one who pays the hairdresser. You're the one who will have to deal with the school when they send him home for having an inappropriate haircut.

Pengggwn · 01/05/2018 16:44

I'd just say no. When he's older he can choose his own hairstyle.

simonisnotme · 01/05/2018 16:44

your the parent, you just say no, on repeat

Pebblespony · 01/05/2018 16:44

Seven is a bit young. I'd use the school excuse too. Plenty of time for disastrous haircut decisions later in life.

LockedOutOfMN · 01/05/2018 16:45

It's only hair. Personally, OP, I'd pick your battles and let him have this one. School definitely won't like it so he will have to wait until the school holidays (and therefore there is a slim possibility he'll change his mind).

DougFargo · 01/05/2018 16:45

He's 7. He has whatever hair you give him, so I don't understand the issue here.

Puffycat · 01/05/2018 16:46

At 7?! No I wouldn’t allow it.
I did outrageous things with my hair in my during my teens, and would try to be supportive of dc’s wanting to experiment (within reason!)
But........7?!

caringiscreepy · 01/05/2018 16:47

I'd be inclined to go with it (during the holidays) It is his hair after all.

Confusedbeetle · 01/05/2018 16:47

Whose in charge here? If he can overrule you at 7 you are doomed, When he leaves home he can have any style he likes. The end

fussychica · 01/05/2018 16:48

No, just no!

Confusedbeetle · 01/05/2018 16:48

Also he has to accept that is your decision, the end, no pushing for it or he is in big trouble

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greenlantern1 · 01/05/2018 16:49

It's not about being in control or not in control. It's about picking battles. I'm trying to decide if this is one that I should push back on. I can say no. That's not my fear. I just wondered what others thought if it was their situation

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HairyToity · 01/05/2018 16:50

No chance would I allow it.

angryburd · 01/05/2018 16:52

Bloody He'll people, it's only hair.

angryburd · 01/05/2018 16:52

Hell even.

LockedOutOfMN · 01/05/2018 16:53

Do you let him choose his clothes? His hair is the clothes he wears permanently. Let him have some bodily autonomy and choose his hairstyle, during the school holidays. It doesn't mean that he doesn't respect you or you've lost control.

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greenlantern1 · 01/05/2018 16:54

That's true, Locked. He chooses his own clothes. I never get involved in what he wears

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TantrumsAndBalloons · 01/05/2018 16:54

My DS had patterns cut into his hair at this age (shrug)
Stopped when he went to secondary school as it wasn’t allowed
He’s 14 now and alternates between cane rolls and some sort of Afro high top
It’s his hair, it doesn’t hurt me in any way

Trinity66 · 01/05/2018 16:55

When my son was that age I let him do stuff to his hair over the summer like a mini mohawk etc, I thought they looked kind of cool Grin

BlueSapp · 01/05/2018 16:56

Simply NO, your not having it, that's what I'd say. There is no you win one he wins one it doesn't work like that, your the parent you decide what happens and in this case you say no and you don't need to go any further that that.