AIBU to not want my DS to have this hairstyle?

[greenlantern1]

7 yr DS wants to have streaks razored into the side of his hair, like the footballers have. I can't stand it on young kids - plus I hate buying into that celebrity/sport bullshit culture.

I don't want him to have it. He's going to push for it.

I can’t get worked up about hair.

I would let him have it done at the start of the holidays.

Seriously can't get over how dramatic this thread is.Seriously can't get over how dramatic this thread is

you should try, because there isn't even a hint of drama on this thread. its the least dramatic thread that ever existed in aibu.

I’ve always let my kids do what they wanted with their hair. It’s theie hair! They get so little control over stuff when young so what’s the issue.

All those banging on about chavs and common need to have a word with themselves and stop giving a shit about people who might clap eyes on them once.... ever!

I tried to persuade DS2 to get this done.

@Doug

"no, not this. he's SEVEN. It's never all about what he wants."

Said by yourself, over a fucking hair cut. 🤣

Said by yourself, over a fucking hair cut.

If you think thats drama, you really need to get out more.

You are the parent. Your choice.
He is 7.

If he was a teenager then as long as it's ok with school I'd say cut him slack, but he is a 7 year old child.

@angryburd

As this thread shows, it’s not just a haircut. Some posters saying it’s about what makes the boy happy (so alluding to feeling confidence or being comfortable in his skin, or maybe just having a bit of fun), some people using words like common, chavtastic. A haircut can be a signifier of something. Ask anyone wearing dreads, or a Rachel cut, or who dyes their hair blonde, or shaved it off, or wears a Mohican blah blah.

I doubt the 7yo loves the aesthetics of the cut; most likely he hero-worships the player. If he does actually just like the look of it, but the Mum doesn’t - well, he can wait till he’s a grown up and doesn’t need to listen to his mum. He's 7.

I personally don’t like the style but I have dds and know nothing about boys hair.

I think I’d go with the summer holiday idea.

Last year my dds were obsessed with my little pony to the point where they wanted to have a hairstyle like one of the ponies.

Literally had to take a picture of the pony in and ask hairdresser could she cut my dds a fringe like a fecking pony.

They hated it after a couple of weeks and grew it out over the summer.

Kids can be fickle, I’d be inclined to let him over summer.

I'd allow it over the summer, it'll have grown out by the time school goes back.

Count yourself lucky he's not asking for the haircut that's popular near me.

It sounds terrible.

Just say no.

Scrotey. What a fantastic word. Accurate too.

Just say no then!

Really don't see the issue here, its hair, his hair.

I agree you need to decide and stick to whatever you choose. However my son had that style last year and the lines grew out and were barely visible within 2 weeks so it’s not as if he’s stuck with forever

I would allow it during summer holidays but that’s it.

NO! I wouldn’t let my son have that hairstyle, maybe compromise he can choose a new top or something to that effect instead?

Take him to the hairdressers and get them to give him the worst haircut ever ....that will be the end of it OP.

@plums I think you're reading too much into it, but I'll bite. What could a hair cut such as the one he's asking for signify? That he admires X footballer? Or that he wanted a currently fashionable hair cut? Is there some deeper cultural or religious significance that I'm overlooking? It's not as though he's asking for Rastafarian dreads, or to have his head shaved bald like a Taoist monk.

And as for the "chavtastic" and "scrotey" comments, that's just typical MN snobbery at work.

This thread has become so interesting!

I'm torn. I'll see what he says when he comes home.

Meh, I couldn’t be arsed going toe to toe with school if it’s not allowed there but if that’s the only issue I’d get in done in the holidays. Otherwise I’d let him have it.

And I’d take tons of photos and remind him of how daft he looked when he’s older :)

Don't see why he can't have it in the school hols. Let them be there own person. It's cute he's got an idea about who he is or wants to be. He'll think you're cool for saying yes. Having other people's preferences forced upon you is horrible at any age. You can use it down the line to explain how reasonable you are when he wants something that really is unreasonable.

No way would it be happening in our house! Mind you I don't think my 9 year old even notices he has hair, he pays no attention to it whatsoever!

I do find it a little sad when young children place so much emaphasis on their looks. I would tell him that he's too young to be worrying about hairstyles.

I let my ds have this in the school holidays, he’s 10 now but has probably been having it for about 2 years. He has 2 lines at the side and the other side pretty long. Do I love it? No... Does it bother me? Also No.
I just see it as a hairstyle, it’s not outrageous or crazy, just a few little lines shaved into his head. He loves it, makes him feel nice so I’m not fussed by it.
I won’t let him have it for school though, no matter how much he pesters or how much ‘all his mates have it’ as rules are rules at school