To ask you if you think I'm a shit mum

[shitmother123]

Name changed as don't want anyone in rl reading my threads and putting together that I'm a shit mum

So first off, I should say I KNOW I shouldn't compare my baby to others but it's so goddamn hard not to. Yes this is my first born so I don't know what I'm doing. She is 11 months now.

She cannot yet crawl. Or put her feet down to try and stand. All other babies in my regular group are charging around like mad things and mine is not interested. All she wants to do is put things in her mouth.

Went to a new music baby group today to try it out and it made me realise how shit of a Mum I am. I knew about 2 of the 10 nursery rhymes (and even then only the well known verses). So I'm sat there like a buffoon trying to copy everyone's words and actions, all the babies are either watching or trying to join in with their mums and mine is just desperately trying to put any bit of dirt or fluff in her mouth. Not only that but they got my dd name wrong when singing a song, and I'm sat there singing along about a girl called Jane thinking nothing of it because I was trying to not let dd eat my shoe. So then they get to the next activity and my turn is first. "Ohhhh what would Jane like to play with today?" I corrected her and said oh sorry it's Margaret (names changed obviously!), and then felt like an extra special wally when I realised that we had been singing about our children and it was like I didn't even know my child's name.

Aibu to ask you if you saw me at a baby group would you think of Christ what a crappy mother?

That Cold feet clip is hilarious!

No one knows the nursery rhymes at first. The ones singing it have been to that class lots- and its amazing how quickly youll pick them up whether you want to or not
Enjoy that you haven't got them stuck in your head all day. And then you're sat in a meeting singing wind the bloody bobbin up to yourself... usually that ends in some screaming about how much i hate bobbins... or sleeping bunnies... oh thats done it now.
The one thing you do need to learn is not to judge yourself harshly. Your DD will walk when shes ready. If you're worried talk to your HV or GP. But in the meantime just enjoy your time with her. If you're both smiling who cares if you're singing Baa baa black sheep or Rock the Casbah? Sing the songs you like. Honestly it will save your sanity for years to come if your DD likes your music as much as nursery rhymes!

OP you sound like a fantastic mum!! Your post made me feel sad but also laugh in a wry kind of way, we've all been there feeling like wallies cos we don't know the nursery rhymes!! You don't need to know or sing nursery rhymes by the way, any song you like will do hence my youngest knows all the words to The Kinks' L.O.L.A The thing with her name was kind of funny, I used to take my son to music class and the teacher kind of got a different name for him (partly cos my eldest couldn't yet pronounce his Fs!) and after a few weeks of me awkwardly not correcting her I decided it could be his special name for music class .
With her walking. Well they are all different, teeth, crawling, walking etc all happens at different points. Is she happy otherwise and developing well? If you have concerns you can always mention to your health visitor or GP. But even if there is a reason or a problem - IT DOESN'T MAKE YOU A SHIT MUM YOU DONUT!! You're doing great, keep calm and carry on :-) It all gets easier. Well actually it kind of gets harder, but you get used to feeling like you know nothing and realise that we're all in the same boat! Muddling through/winging it and anyone who doesn't feel like that is probably doing it wrong lol!

Welcome to being a mum. We all feel inadequate at times, out of our depth, overwhelmed. You are doing a fab job, you love your daughter she is happy, enjoy her. Three will always be kids smarter, better at sport, better at spellings and so on DON'T COMPARE they are all different and develop at different rates. Life is not a race.