Royal wedding/kid's party clash

[royalweddingfan]

A major first world problem to start off your week. And many of you will think this is ridiculous because the royal family are pointless, a drain on our taxes, etc etc. I get that.

But I'm shamelessly a big fan.

I've accepted an invite for my DCs to attend a 7 year old's birthday party over lunchtime on 19 May. We are very close to the family, me and the mum in particular. It's a given that the whole family would go.

But I want to watch all the TV coverage and see Harry and Meghan get wed!!

AiBU to be in a bind? Is it rude if I don't go and let DH take them?! WWYD?

How can a cake cost £57K ffs

DonutCone "YABU for saying 'get wed' thats just nasty."

Why? What's nasty about it?

Petrify "Who is getting married? I don't follow the royals"

Whether you "follow the royals" or not, how have you avoided knowing who is getting married?

I really don't understand what's wrong with "get wed". Weird.

And like I said at the outset, I knew lots of people will disagree with me because they are republicans. I get that and I respect that. I just wish they would afford me the same!!

I'm going to watch the wedding. It needs to be watched live and fussed over, like lots of very trivial and insignificant and silly but FUN things in life.

Haters are gonna hate but I don't care because I'll be drinking English sparkling wine and eating cucumber sandwiches 🇬🇧

'Why do you care about this wedding/these people?' 'you don't even know them,' 'blah blah blah....' And 'I don't follow the Royals so don't know who is getting married!' yeah right...........

Feck right off!

If it was a big footie final, or boxing, or tennis final, no-one would be so scathing of people who want to watch it, but God forbid people are fans of the Royals, and like to follow them and want to watch the wedding.

And the people I know in real life, who bash and mock Royalists, spend hours and hours at a time wasting their life watching golf and cricket, and footie, week after week. And yet they have the nerve to bash me for wanting to watch a Royal wedding twice a decade (at the most!) Fucks me right off. It's so hypocritical of them when they spend hours and hours every WEEK watching a boring sport!

Why do THEY care what other people do, and why do THEY care if people love the Royals? Piss off out of my business why dontcha?!

Personally, I think they are just jealous and bitter that they don't get to come to the party in my village!

I watched Will and Kate's on catchup. It definitely didn't feel the same. Watched it in the evening too, which really made it feel displaced. No, its got to be watched live. Then, if you're really sad, you can also post your thoughts on the live running MN thread/s that will be doubtless running alongside, and then get the opinion coverage on the radio afterwards (yes, I am one of those sad, pathetic people).

I'd come clean with the friend, and make good in some other way.

So your kids will come second to two people that you don't know because they are Royalty, therefore more important than than your kids. I wouldn't want to convey that message to my kids, but each to their own.

hasanyoneseenthecat That's so OTT. Do you really think the children will care that their father takes them to the party instead of the OP?

Is bringing in tourist money really the most important thing? In a wealthy country?

Choosing our head of state by accident of birth, whether they do the job well or not. Publicly showing that we are not a meritocratic society and that being born into the right family is still really important, and a person born into a poor family can never achieve head of state.
Spending millions a year on security for a family of millionaires.
Historical castles and palaces not open to tourism because they are living there (I bet opening up all the palaces would actually be great for tourism, more tourists visit Versailles than Buckingham Palace each year).
Fawning, curtsying.
Charles interfering in politics when he shouldn't, and the Palace blocking the publication of his letter to MPs.

If Charles is a bad head of state will we shrug our shoulders and say "oh well, he may have stuffed lots of important things up and meddled and unfairly influenced elected politicians, but at least we've got some tourist money to console ourselves".

We are a really rich country and it's nuts that we are making these compromises to attract tourists.

Although I actually think tourists would still come, perhaps in greater numbers, if they could see inside all these palaces that are currently restricted.

How would you feel if your child's friends weren't allowed to attend their birthday party because their dads were watching the cup final?

This happened repeatedly to my little sister when she was growing up.

WazFlimFlam all the OP said is that she wants her DH to take their children to the party instead of her, so that she can watch the royal wedding. How is that comparable to children not being "allowed to attend their birthday party because their dads were watching the cup final?"

Send DH. The next proper royal
Wedding prob won’t be for 25 years.

Well there's Eugenie coming up?

This post is being misconstrued all over my Facebook newsfeed...

OP, in no royalist by any means but the are some things that are important to me that I'd happily rather DH took them to a birthday for me to watch but I hate kids parties.

Kids don't care who takes them as long as they get to go.

I'd make a joke of it with your friend, they may have something planned for the adults to watch but if not stay at home and don't feel guilty!

Hi
Have you heard of recording TV programmes? That might be useful.
Whilst I will watch the wedding, if someone invited me to a party or lunch especially with my family I would put them first and watch the wedding later with a glass of wine feeling very satisfied that I have participated in my own real life and still enjoyed watching someone else. I hope you enjoy both celebrations on the 19th. Have a great day!

I was invited to a friend’s pre-wedding party for the last royal wedding. I’m not a royalist, but i was gutted. I kept watching bits on my phone. Didn’t enjoy either.

YANBU - I’m looking forward to watching it too and in real time!!! I can’t believe other Mums are trying to make you feel guilty about putting yourself first for once - having a quick coffee in a play centre when the kids are off having a great time and won’t even notice if you’re there or not??? Sod that. Get the TV on and enjoy it without a shred of guilt and let your husband take the kids. Simples!! Any friend will understand. It’s a historical event, whatever you think of the royals, nice to look back on and think you were watching (not on catchup!!)

I'm not a Royalist but it seemed from the stsrt that the obvious answer was for dh to take them. Good call.

Please, please don't make this into a soap box job! We all have our views but this person has posted a personal situation that she hoped we would be able to contribute to, we really don't need to hijack the posting and turn it into a party political discussion about a Sovereign state or anything else, lets just apply our comments to the question.

To the PP stamping her feet about criticism of the Windsor parasites and saying that 'you watch sporting stuff don't you?'. No. I don't give a fuck about sports either. I cannot imagine anything, ever, being on the fucking television that would be more important than spending time with actual friends and family. But then I prefer doing things to watching strangers do things.

If it was a big footie final, or boxing, or tennis final, no-one would be so scathing of people who want to watch it, but God forbid people are fans of the Royals, and like to follow them and want to watch the wedding

Sport doesn’t really work as an analogy, unless you’re going to be chanting “one Meghan Markel” as she walks down the aisle 😁

Reanimated- same. No interest in sport and always prefer real life.

I’m absolutely disgusted with how much this will all cost and the fact that people in the UK have no say about that. Doesn’t matter how many time people recer to it as a bit of “fun.”

One if my loveliest early childhood memories was watching Charles and Di’s wedding. For William and Kate’s we had a party at the neighbours house. It’s a fun , happy event to watch so in my opinion you ANBU OP. Im going to have a little family party myself to watch it.

You would rather watch the wedding (or more likely watch reporters standing reasonably near the location of the wedding repeating themselves) of two people who would not be remotely interested in your own wedding or life, rather than spending time with your family and a family you're very close to?

The real problem is going to be avoiding it

Allygran lets not tell others how to post on a thread - if anyone is breaking MN rules then report those messages (only I don't believe being discursive is againt MN rules -yet)