Royal wedding/kid's party clash

[royalweddingfan]

A major first world problem to start off your week. And many of you will think this is ridiculous because the royal family are pointless, a drain on our taxes, etc etc. I get that.

But I'm shamelessly a big fan.

I've accepted an invite for my DCs to attend a 7 year old's birthday party over lunchtime on 19 May. We are very close to the family, me and the mum in particular. It's a given that the whole family would go.

But I want to watch all the TV coverage and see Harry and Meghan get wed!!

AiBU to be in a bind? Is it rude if I don't go and let DH take them?! WWYD?

If you were my friend I'd laugh and not be offended.

If you were my friend I'd think you'd had a lobotomy and not mentioned it.

I want to have a little get together now...with cucumber sandwiches and teapots.

I wonder if dd's will humour me? They are 13 & 14.

Just to be clear - I do not mean (or think) that wanting to watch inbreds ponce about in expensive gear on the telly makes you a prole. My point is that the excessive news coverage of these parasites is intended to put the proles in their place by insisting that Everyone Loves The Royals because they are So Special and Important, and ordinary people should be delighted for their happiness rather than counting the fucking cost of them. As to the stuff about them bringing in tourist income - the tourists come to see the buildings, not the inhabitants, and if we got rid of most of the royals, tourist income probably wouldn't drop at all.

On an individual basis, someone wanting to watch the wedding is no/more less annoying to me than someone wanting to attend religious services, or sports matches, or being wildly enthusiastic about baking or crochet. Not my thing but you do you.

As to the stuff about them bringing in tourist income - the tourists come to see the buildings, not the inhabitants

So, no tourists are coming for the wedding then?
And none come to see the changing of the guard? Etc

www.express.co.uk/news/royal/949791/royal-wedding-2018-tourism-boom-thousands-meghan-markle-prince-harry

Go! Real family and friends are more important than watching someone else's wedding on the telly! And your children are probably not interested at all in watching it, so it's not fair to refuse a fun party for them.

"the Royal Family bring more money into the country via tourism than it costs us to maintain them...."

Sorry, not about OP's dilemma, but I'd be really interested to see those figures, brummiesue. Do you have any verifiable references? Thank you!

(serious question ... not a challenge or anything)

Just send the child and catch up another time.

former lol believe me, They really will not.

@royalweddingfan its hardly your fault if you wake up the morning of the party with a 24 hour vomiting bug! And it would actually be highly irresponsible of you to turn up and risk infecting the 30 little monsters guests. You can always take the mum out for coffee and cake when youre feeling better the week after xx

You can't watch this on catch up for heaven's sake

Of course you can. It’s not like you have to avoid the end result to prevent the viewing being spoiled grin

I suppose there's always the possibility that Markle's ex husband will show up claiming the divorce didn't go ahead so neither can this marriage - that would definitely increase the viewing figures

I’m going to watching it and I have been invited to a baby shower at 4pm.
Ceremony at 12 noon, carriage ride at 1pm. I reckon they will be done by 1.30 pm.
Let your DH take the kids and then show up for 2pm. I’m sure a few dads will be sneaking off to the pub to watch the FA cup.
If she’s a good friend she’ll understand.

Last royal wedding I had to watch live. You don’t get to see all the guests & chat about it on mumsnet

Surely age 7 is a drop off even if you are good friends?

It's a kids birthday party.

Nothing in this world would stop me doing something I actually wanted to do in order to go to a kids birthday party.

Bollocks, I've just said yes to a friend who was struggling to find a May time for her DS' party and then a cancellation came up for exactly this time. Wonder why. I love a wedding and this one's public. Friend's not British, so might not have realised (not that I did, but I wasn't organising a party). Arse. It won't be the same seeing the highlights.

I think YABU, you don't even know them!! Just record it.

I think you should just be honest and tell her why you aren't coming or give her the option to put it on TV, It wouldn't bother me.

As to the stuff about them bringing in tourist income - the tourists come to see the buildings, not the inhabitants

Do you really believe that? What none of them?

It's not like you'll have problems with spoilers or anything. Unless her exH shows up saying they're already married, or some woman shows up with Harry's baby, you already know the outcome, so just record the thing.

I'm getting married on the same day (we picked it first 🤣) at three in the afternoon and I will definitely be watching the Royal wedding in the morning. 🥂🍾👰🤵

Uh YABU.

Then again, I was having surgery on the day of the last royal wedding and my ex didn’t bother coming to visit me in hospital afterwards because he was too busy getting off his face at a street party 🤔 so maybe I’m bitter

I have a big birthday coming up and have arranged a meal out with family.

It’s also my child’s birthday party that day.
It did not once cross my mind that it was the royal wedding & cup final. Oops! Guess I’ll not be popular!

If its at a childs party venue then its not really the sort of place where adults all catch up with each other anyway? (how odd). Send DH to party, if they are going somewhere afterwards or to their house, maybe you join them later?

We spent most of the last royal wedding in A&E! I took DS to a 'garden party' near a mate's house, which was in a small park that had an old graveyard in it. (This was a matter of wanting to find some sort of 'party' that wouldn't be either too full of royal shit or too political, because DS was 6 at the time, had the day off school and knew that there were 'parties' happening - I didn't see why he should miss out on the general fun of a party.)
So DS tried to climb a tree; I told him to get down and then, when he was trotting obediently back towards me, he tripped and bounced his head off the edge of a gravestone... One ambulance ride and a tube of superglue later...

One thing I remember, when he was being checked over, they asked him 'Who got married today' (they were checking for concussion) and I suddenly thought - will he know the answer? We haven't discussed it very much apart from in general terms. Well, adding to his vocabulary words like 'parasites' and 'complete anachronism'. Luckily the school had been telling all the DC about it so he knew the right names.