Royal wedding/kid's party clash

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A major first world problem to start off your week. And many of you will think this is ridiculous because the royal family are pointless, a drain on our taxes, etc etc. I get that.

But I'm shamelessly a big fan.

I've accepted an invite for my DCs to attend a 7 year old's birthday party over lunchtime on 19 May. We are very close to the family, me and the mum in particular. It's a given that the whole family would go.

But I want to watch all the TV coverage and see Harry and Meghan get wed!!

AiBU to be in a bind? Is it rude if I don't go and let DH take them?! WWYD?

She isn't planning on 'doing the dirty' on a child. She's planning on sending her child with her DH.

Oh, I take back what I said, if DH is taking them stay home and watch the wedding!!

Can’t you just watch it on your phone? You just need to see the dress surely? It’s not like the whole thing is televised. Or is it?

I’m with you OP and TSSDACOP

Royal nutcase ( as my republican husband so delicately calls me!) here!
Parents coming round to watch it, ‘naice’ luncheon being planned, DD very excited. Husband will be attending mainly because there will be lots of champagne. And , like you TSSDACOP I too am making lemon and elderflower cake. I will use the bunting I made for the 2012 jubilee.

For those of you who don’t understand it’s a bit of fun, a chance to watch a wedding - which most people love- and be a part of something lovely which joins the country together.

And as for the £57000 wedding cake - how do you know that’s what it’s costing? I’m sure neither Harry, Meghan or Kensington Palace hav3 been on the phone to any of you or the press. And I’m 100% sure the company making it haven’t told you either! It’s going to be like all royal wedding cakes - huge because they give so much away to people who work in their charities, volunteers etc. And since they will be paying for it it’s none of our business how much it costs really! Just like my wedding costs were private, so are theirs.

I’m really looking forward to it , just like my hubby looks forward to the FA CUPfinal annually where he watches it with beer, peanuts and plenty of rare roast beef sandwiches with horseradish.

OP- I would just tell your friend that you will be round after the wedding and parade has happened.....a royal wedding is an occasional thing and s8nce she’s your friend I’m sure she will understand. Well I would. If she kicks off then come here and drink champagne with me!

like all tv programmes, record and watch later. it isnt like you have to avoid finding out who won!

real life comes first over tv.

YABU for saying 'get wed' thats just nasty.

I do think its a bit weird tbh. You can watch it later, live for yourself not through what other people are doing.

YABU

you’ve already accepted the child’s birthday party.

I’d be seriously miffed if someone I considered a good friend would rather stay home and watch trashy tv (which is what it is!) than spend time with me at a party ESPECIALLY since you already said you’d attend.

You can't watch this on catch up for heaven's sake. Get DH to take child and watch it live! I would, hoping friend would understand....

My DH always takes DS to parties. They are usually bouncy castle/trampoline/gocart things in which I have no interest but DH loves.

Why does it have to be the mother?!

Just send DH if he is not bothered and settle down with a lovely pot of tea with scones and jam and cream and enjoy.....everyone to their own

i still think its weird they picked fa cup final day when they know will has to be there

And as for the £57000 wedding cake - how do you know that’s what it’s costing?
Well that was the figure quoted on Radio 4 on Thursday; and the £30 million was the figure quoted in yesterday's Observer. As a U.K. Tax payer who is funding this shindig I feel I have every right to know how my taxes get spent; whether directly to paying for the wedding or indirectly in regard to the Royals' benefits payments.
I'd rather the £30 mill when directly to those in need, rather than giving them a few crumbs from the wedding cake.

course it is kathy!

Have you tried calling Ms Markle and explaining your dilemma? I don't know why she and Harry picked 19 May but I am sure a day or so in either direction would not really matter to them? They probably just plucked that date out of thin air anyhow. It's not like the child can change the day they were born, is it?

Just send DH if he is not bothered and settle down with a lovely pot of tea with scones and jam and cream and enjoy.....everyone to their own
I'm now thinking I may partly embrace this by having a pot of tea and scones and becoming a Cup Final watcher for the first time ever!

Op I would laugh my socks off and tell you to fill your boots (with wedding) and we would catch up another day.

But then I'd also have clocked the date when planning the party and considered some parents (and children) might want to watch the wedding and made it a different date.

I'll be out doing a team sport until midday, so can't duck out of that. My plan is to get DH to pause the TV when it all kicks off and I can then watch, fast-forwarding the boring bits and be finished in time for the Cup Final.

DH and I got married on Cup Final day too - I knew it would be easier to book cars, venues etc for that day. Perhaps that's what Harry and Meghan were thinking.

OP - you should go to the party and watch the whole shindig on catch up.

This: "I will be one of the many who will refuse to watch." is hilarious, as if anyone knows you have "refused" to watch it.

My parents are leaving the country to avoid it. I'm sure it can be easily avoided in the same country but no, they need to be able to tell people they left the country to avoid it and, if people mention it, they will say "what wedding" on purpose. Which is what they did with Charles and Diana's wedding when I was a child, and presumably every royal wedding since.

I'd quite like to see a bit of it, but doubt I'd watch all of it.

Why can't you just record it?

YouStacey
Oh wel, obviously radio 4 have been on the phone to Harry and he must
have told them.......it’s a figure plucked out of thin air.
As for the 30 million on security then yes, of course you have a right to question that. But they HAVE to have security because the threat on them is so great. And they have to be allowed to get married which would always need much more security. So it makes sense for them to involve the public ( by allowing cameras in the church, by having a horse drawn parade through Windsor etc) because people spend for these events. Hotels in Windsor and the surrounding areas will be full at a time when they wouldn’t be, everybody has to eat and drink , shops will have souvenirs, bunting will be sold , books and magazines will be sold, lots of people will be required to work to help cover this event( = extra income tax).....all of which is subject to VAT and so money will pour back into the coffers. If 150million is spent by the public on all of the above and other things I haven’t mentioned then that security has been paid for.
And just think! If the cake does cost 57k then £11,400 of that will be paid back into the coffers! It’s win win. It won’t cost the taxpayer anything 8n the long run and if you don’t want to watch it then don’t! Nobody’s forcing you.
Now, I’m off to look Up some naice scone recipes < royal waves cheerily>

I'm not interested in the wedding but am a sad obsessive about other stuff so I totally get where you're coming from. Send DH and enjoy the wedding. I wouldn't be able to concentrate if I was missing something I desperately wanted to see so I'd be better off at home anyway. If your friend knows you well she won't be surprised, just arrange a catch up with her later.

hillarious my point is william is a patron and has to be at the cup final

I have booked a holiday specifically to miss the wedding. That should tell you how unimpressed I am with the wedding. But if a friend said she wanted to watch it I woudn't be upset. I'd laugh and say "have a lovely time, I'll see you soon"

I'm no royalist and will not be watching the wedding but as far as I'm aware the Royal Family bring more money into the country via tourism than it costs us to maintain them....

I've booked my DCs party that day, it never occurred to me that people might decline due to a royal wedding (unless they were actually attending!!). I wouldn't be offended though, and unless it was a best friend, the DC wouldn't be bothered I don't think. However, if you called & explained I'd probably offer to collect & drop off your DC to/from the party if you or your DH couldn't drive them yourself.

I spent the day of Will & Kate's wedding having a great time at an attraction that would normally be full of queues and packed with people, it was half empty and was much more fun than watching TV that day. As PP have said, it'll be all over the news for days afterwards anyway.