Royal wedding/kid's party clash

[royalweddingfan]

A major first world problem to start off your week. And many of you will think this is ridiculous because the royal family are pointless, a drain on our taxes, etc etc. I get that.

But I'm shamelessly a big fan.

I've accepted an invite for my DCs to attend a 7 year old's birthday party over lunchtime on 19 May. We are very close to the family, me and the mum in particular. It's a given that the whole family would go.

But I want to watch all the TV coverage and see Harry and Meghan get wed!!

AiBU to be in a bind? Is it rude if I don't go and let DH take them?! WWYD?

@DonutCone

YABU for saying 'get wed' that's just nasty.

What the fuck? What on earth is wrong with THAT?

OP, YANBU, I am looking forward to seeing Harry and Meghan get wed too, and wild horses shall not drag me away!

Send your DH with your kiddie to the party if he is not arsed.

The person having the party on the wedding day is a bit of a pillock tbh, and I bet loads of people won't turn up.

My daughter's birthday clashed with something big once, so we had her party a couple of days before! She didn't mind. She felt like she had 2 birthdays!

If I had your problem, it would not be an option for me to send my DH as he loves the Royals as much as me.

Haha totally understand this dilemma! I'm not a super fan or anything but am pro royals and defo want to watch the pomp as it unfolds! Would be a bit annoyed to have to miss it as it's not like they happen every week. Not sure you can really prioritize a televised wedding over an actual engagement with people you know, though! 🤔🤷‍♀️

my point is william is a patron and has to be at the cup final

Well, obviously he doesn't HAVE to be, as he's not going to be!

I think your friend will understand. I know I would if my friend said that's why she wasn't coming to a party and I'm not really a monarchist. I'd accept that she was and that it's not the same watching on catch-up.
You can have a lovely day without DD and DH. You can wear a hat like a PP and have a toast to the happy couple and maybe even some Enjoy!

Again there is nothing remotely unreasonable about hosting an event that is about you and your own family/friends on the same day as some or other 'major event' that you don't give a toss about. Really, most people do not care about this wedding, despite all the frenzied guff in the papers (which is all about reminding the proles that they need to Know Their Place anyway).

OP would deserve an online kicking if she was going to keep her DC home from the party to make them watch crap on telly, but her H is happy to take them, and by the sound of it the hosts are prepared to fondly tolerate OP's silliness on the subject (which is harmless enough in itself - everyone's got a few things that really matter to them that are objectively stupid and pointless).

I have just idly googled to see when the wedding actually is, and it’s the nearest Saturday to my ds’ birthday - glad for the the heads up!

Oh I feel your pain OP. I'm at a wedding at the same bloody time - unfortunately not the Royal wedding I wish I was invited too.

It's BILs wedding which completely should not be going ahead so there's no way I can get out of it.

DH was also worried at one point that our local football team were going to get to the FA Cup final which is also that day. DH is best man so there was also no way he as getting out of it.

Sigh...

Why does it have to be the mother?!

It doesnt. But OP has already explained its not a "drop and go", the expectation is that its a catch up for adult friends to.

OP don't go, explain why, and have a fabulous day watching the wedding!

I'm very much looking forward to it myself

Oh and whoever it was prattling on about William being at the FA Cup final, he isn't going to be there. I think most of us would take a day off work to attend our brother's wedding, especially if we were best man.

Really, most people do not care about this wedding, despite all the frenzied guff in the papers (which is all about reminding the proles that they need to Know Their Place anyway).

I love comments like this. Perhaps most people you know aren’t interested.

Those of us that are interested really don’t mind if other people aren’t, but it’s really rude to call people interested in the Royal events proles. Unless prole means enjoying cake, having nice bunting and a lovely neighbourly Street party.

@vangoghsdog

looking likely he will

www.express.co.uk/news/royal/949435/royal-wedding-latest-prince-william-attend-FA-Cup-Final

I'm a republican, not remotely interested in the royal family or their various weddings/babies and it honestly wouldn't have occurred to me that my event would clash with something like that.

But if I were the party host there's no way I could find it in me to be even the teeniest bit offended at you wanting to swerve the party to watch the wedding! Send your DH with your apologies and have a lovely time watching.

@ReanimatedGB

Again there is nothing remotely unreasonable about hosting an event that is about you and your own family/friends on the same day as some or other 'major event' that you don't give a toss about.

Nothing unreasonable about it at all, as long as you don't kick off and moan when people choose that 'major event' and don't come to YOUR event.

reanimatedgb

Really, most people I KNOW do not care about this wedding, despite all the frenzied guff in the papers (which is all about reminding the proles that they need to Know Their Place anyway).

Corrected that for you.

Many people I know are very excited about it, and there are lots of celebrations in the little town several miles from me. There is also a Royal Wedding party at my village hall, with around 200 people attending, and a huge TV screen being set up for people to watch it on.

As a poster said above, maybe many people YOU know don't have any interest in it, but many people I know do!

they are reminding the proles that they need to know their place???

Sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder.

I’m still smarting as it’s my birthday the same day. Completely having my thunder stolen 😂

You can't watch this on catch up for heaven's sake

Of course you can. It’s not like you have to avoid the end result to prevent the viewing being spoiled

Haven't RTHT but am I being stupid because I don't think the actual wedding is on the TV? Yes there will be coverage of them arriving and leaving etc, but the actual service is a private one isn't it? Not like Katherine and William? Please correct me if I am wrong so I can stick it on the TV!

Oooh just googled and seen it will be on the tv! I'd still go to a party though!

As someone who has deliberately extended a holiday by a day in order to avoid all this faff, I think you're insane, OP

But each to her own. I'm hoping you're in the majority & there'll be lovely empty roads!

(I also know a girl who's getting married that day - she picked her date first! I believe she's feeling a bit overlooked, poor love)

I'm just thankful I'm not getting married in Windsor on that Saturday ! I did, 19 years ago, and frustratingly they had the FA Cup Final that Saturday too (normally the Saturday after).

As it is, I'm avoiding Windsor and attending an 80s festival all day with the delights of Adam Ant, ABC, Tony Hadley etc.

I'll either record the wedding or catch the highlights over the weekend/following week. Either way I'm continuing with my normal plans as I think you should too.

I would think it was amusing you'd sent dh with the kids and were home watching the wedding (in a nice way) and I wouldn't remotely be bothered by it. I'm sure your friend will like that you can be honest about it

with easy tv recorders and catchup, it strikes me as a bit saddo that people stay in on a precious weekend. wedding, kick about, whatev er.

possibly one of the reasons the nation is getting fat, too much spectating.

Ah don’t worry Special we can pop out and do a step class while Meghan’s getting her hair done.

I’m surprised by your dilemma I find even attending weddings tedious as they’re all of a muchness so watching someone else’s on TV would drive me over the edge

I'm not even a particular Royalist but will be absolutely watching the wedding in real time and definitely sending DH with ds3 to his football awards thing which has been scheduled for the same time. There are certain things in life that need to be in the moment and not on catch up. A wedding is one of them.

I cannot relate to any of this.

As soon as people start talking about the Royal Family I feel like an alien in my own country.

It makes me feel quite sad actually. So much austerity and people are distracted by a privelaged few.

I’d rather spend time with people who have gone to the effort of inviting me to spend time with them than watch a pair of strangers get married but each to their own OP, each to their own.