To have Kate Middleton as my new role model

[SooChef]

Or the Duchess of Cambridge for those who get uptight about her name.

She is so poised. Takes everything in her stride (even giving birth). She looks genuinely happy and in love and in control.

Operation Kate starts May 1st so I've got two more days to slob around on Mumsnet

*Love how everyone thinks her ‘life of privilege ‘ means she doesn’t have any problems

Didn’t exactly work out for Diana did it ?*

Kate has a happy marriage. I’m sure that helps a lot.

Out of all the amazing women in the world who do stuff, you chose Kate as your role model?

I find that really...odd.

willynillypie

It isn't a modern dress. I couldn't care less about that and can't imagine why anyone else would, but it is true for all that.

I couldn't do what she does, I don't have the poker face or the ability to keep my thoughts to myself. She can't have a public opinion, her 'job' is to be neutral, uncontroversial and to toe the family party line, which is not to be party political and to maintain the image of the Royal family which in an age like today, where there are no such clear delineations of class as there were years ago, is increasingly tricky.

She's criticised for being too fat and too thin. For every choice and many of those aren't her own and she won't have a right to reply. That's part of the job.

If someone posted 'AIBU - I've discovered some people who only know me by reputation have started a hate campaign online against me, slagging me off and posting horrible hurtful things about me and my husband' everyone would be up in arms saying 'fuck them, they're just jealous' and saying the poster shoudl call the police and get them to look into it as cyber bullying etc but because she's 'a Royal' she's fair game? Sorry, no. The Royal Family has a primarily ceremonial role now but they do a lot for diplomatic relations; look how many people turn out for Royal visits, and for when they go overseas. Part of that appeal for those people is that the Royal family are almost part of a bygone era, where people were polite and reserved and presented a public face to the world.

Not agreeing with having a Royal family is one thing but comments about how she's pointless, etc are pretty horrible when there are many women in her social sphere who live pretty similar lives. Look at the people on Made in Chelsea; practically none of them work (those that do, don't have to) and the businesses they choose largely depend on them having a huge amount of money in the first place.

How is it ok to say she has a pointless existence and has never 'given anything to the world' but it isn't ok to say the same about someone who's never worked a day in their life and claimed benefits? Or been a dependent SAHM?

I've worked for years but don't feel I've 'given' much to the world!

Pengggwn

I agree about this specific dress, but the poster I was aiming my comment at was complaining in general about her not being modern enough and wearing trousers etc.

Strudel agree with you

Thefirsttulip No I haven't watched it, but i know roughly what's its about. I should imagine what goes on in the house of Windsor could give them a run for the money. I bet we'd be horrified if we knew the half if it.

Kate is beautiful so is Megan I like them both

willynillypie

Got you. I think it's mighty strange that anyone would demand someone else dresses in the way that makes them more 'relevant' to them - I'm not even sure I know what that means!

Well I haven't and wouldn't slag her off- she seems a perfectly nice, normal woman with an exceptionally privileged lifestyle.

I just really don't get why someone like that is your role-model?

But then I read that the one thing the op wants to give her daughter is healthy eating in order to be slim and I think I get it now.

Is that the royal “we”? Absolutely.

How is it ok to say she has a pointless existence and has never 'given anything to the world' but it isn't ok to say the same about someone who's never worked a day in their life and claimed benefits? Or been a dependent SAHM?

The thread isn't about them, or the people on Made in Chelsea. I'm sure they get slagged too, on a thread that is about them? This thread is about KM, she's married into the royal family, it's fine to have as many opinions as we like about a family that has huge wealth thrown at them just because of their birth.

The people you talk about who claim benefits do not get huge incomes, palaces, police security, private doctors, servants, chauffeurs and all the rest of the trappings of extreme privilege. People on benefits get a pittance, and their money is often stopped for no good reason. You're talking about a huge group of people with individual needs, you can't compare that to one individual couple.

willynillypie Who said dresses are old fashioned? I said her styling after just giving birth was dated.

Kate is beautiful so is Megan I like them both
So if they were ugly you wouldn't like them....rather shallow?

I don't think having money and stylists necessarily guarantees poise. How many train-wreck slebs have we all seen?

In fact, I'd imagine being in the public eye would be stressful enough to make many people lose their dignity and control.

I admire Kate's poise. I think it's a really positive attribute. I'd love to have some.

OP I will join you in a WWKD month!

I couldn't do what she does, I don't have the poker face or the ability to keep my thoughts to myself

Sorry, but being able to keep your opinions to yourself when necessary is not a talent, it’s a sign of maturity.

Yes, yes, ahe’s doing a grand job of being bland and uncontroversial, but most of us could do that if we had to. And it’s not like she actually has a platform. She poses for pictures, shakes hands and reads speeches written by someone else. Only on MN could anyone try and pretend that takes “skill”.

And nobody is “slagging her off”. She is a public figure - the future queen. And the only opinions allowed of her are toadying suck-up ones? It’s 2018, not 1218 - we don’t have to grovel like that anymore,

If people were being spiteful about her figure or face, that’s one thing...but what she does and wears? Why is that off-limits? It isn’t and neither should it be. I have seen Prince William being called all sorts of nasty things on MN - mainly about how he looks. But Kate has tits and a vagina, so the sisterhood circles. Ridiculous.

She seems like a lovely lady, but if you had so much money and an army of people to help you with every aspect of your life, you too would be effortlessly poised and taking everything in your stride.

She’s a bird in a gilded cage
She has everything she could ever want materialistically and gets to go to wonderful places but she is trapped all the same
She must worry all the time about someone trying to kill her/her husband or kidnap her kids
She has to be on best bevaviour all the time and can’t speak her own opinion- the royals have to be seen as neutral
She can’t go to a rave or sit in a beer garden in the sunshine,
She can’t be truly free, every move she makes is watched and documented.

Now obviously she dorms not have a ‘hard’ life, she doesn’t have to worry about money or clean her own house or cook (unless she wants to) she doesn’t even have to look after her kids if she doesn’t want to (although I’m sure her and will are much more hands on parents than previous generations of royals)

She looks as good as she does because she has money, she can have facials and has a stylish and make up artist, money to be the best tailored clothes, a personal trainer and a chef to make sure she eats healthy meals. If you see pictures of any celebrity in no make up and styling where they look like us normal plebs it shows that with the right grooming pretty much anyone can look good.

Prince William is nice. There. I’m not a sista, thank you.

I mean it too.

I like her very much as I have already said. She is lovely.

Let them support themselves then perhaps they wouldn't get "slagged off" Until that time comes (hopefully asap) we're entitled to slag each and every one of them off as much as we like. As long as we continue with the whole ridiculous charade, the less gullible amongst us will continue to have our say about them, and it's irrelevant whether they're male or female. The whole scrounging lot of them deserve no less.