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To have Kate Middleton as my new role model

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SooChef · 29/04/2018 09:33

Or the Duchess of Cambridge for those who get uptight about her name.

She is so poised. Takes everything in her stride (even giving birth). She looks genuinely happy and in love and in control.

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TabbyMack · 29/04/2018 10:29

It's a show, for the public, but possibly one only achievable to someone who is not ego-centric

I totally agree with this. That’s her strength, I think...authenticity and an apparent lack of ego.

biscuitraider · 29/04/2018 10:30

What you saw on the hospital steps was the end result of having your own hairdresser and stylist putting together an image that to most is unattainable, mainly because other more pressing matters count to us common folk. But if you can't manage to look poised for ten minutes out of your day when practically every single aspect of that day (apart from having someone wiping your arse) is done for you then there'd be something wrong. She was going home to a house full of servants tending to every single need.As for being "hard working"??? oh please.
A role model? Grin

The80sweregreat · 29/04/2018 10:31

I knew someone as ' perfect ' as she is without all the help and money Kate has - hard going and you do end up thinking - why cant i be like them? not seen her in 13 years and she isnt on social media, so no idea if she is still the same or if it did ever go pear shaped! i have a feeling it didnt and her children are everything she ever wanted them to be!
we were chalk and cheese so it was never going to be a long friendship anyway. There will always be the ' too good to be true ' types in life.

pictish · 29/04/2018 10:32

I know my objective in life is not to be ‘poised’. God how dull.

If I think about Kate at all it’s a general feeling that I wouldn’t swap places with her. Every aspect of her life is controlled and micromanaged from the ugly clothes she has to wear to the opinions she’s not allowed to express. No amount of privilege is worth being caged for.

You think ‘poised’ - I see robotic.

TheDowagerCuntess · 29/04/2018 10:33

Kate nails it. She makes it look so easy.

Get stylists in, blow dry hair, step out, smile incessantly, look serene. Go home.

Easy.

But Diana completely unravelled in front of our eyes.

It really can't be very easy at all.

Helps to have the backing of your DH.

Anotherdayintheoffice · 29/04/2018 10:33

I don’t think a third child proves anything. Look at Wayne Rooney. I really hope William treats Kate nice.

blueshoes · 29/04/2018 10:35

Spending your life as a fashion plate sound terribly ego-centric to me. It is all look at me. Same with the standing on the steps all made up a few hours after the birth. It is attention seeking and one up-man-ship.

Brokenbiscuit · 29/04/2018 10:35

If I had a role model though, I’d like to think it was because of personal achievement rather than marrying well, producing babies and being terribly well behaved.

^This x 100!

I have absolutely nothing against Kate. Tbh, despite my ambivalence about the monarchy, I find that I actually quite like her. However, I certainly don't find her inspiring as a role model and her life is not what I would want my daughter to aspire to. What has she actually achieved in life, other than being beautiful and marrying "well"?

The80sweregreat · 29/04/2018 10:37

I know women who have perfect hair , every day.
i asked one of them how they managed it and she just grinned and said ' wash it everyday at 5am before anyone gets up' you have to have disapline to be like that , life is a bit too short for me to care that much.
trouble is, these days, its being perfect that seems to matter more than anything else in life and that is sad.

RomeoBunny · 29/04/2018 10:40

Be your own role model Hmm

SleepingStandingUp · 29/04/2018 10:41

Same with the standing on the steps all made up a few hours after the birth. It is attention seeking and one up-man-ship

Tbh I think these kind of photoshoots are about giving back to the public (because there a lot of people who are interested and get grumpy about how little we see of the children) then Kate thinking "i'm gonna have a third then take them out for photos just to make ask the other moms feel shit. Yeah, I'm so much better than then going home in their joggers. Let's go and show the scum how to do it"

RomeoBunny · 29/04/2018 10:42

Octonaught the dress was a nod to Dianas when she came out with Harry.

Anotherdayintheoffice · 29/04/2018 10:44

These are historic photos. Of course everything was done to make her look her best. I am sure she would be leaving in joggers if she had any choice.

The80sweregreat · 29/04/2018 10:47

Can you imagine the pressure she is under to get back into shape for the wedding though? i bet she is secretly cursing that its so close and she still is a mum of 3 small children even with lots of help and able to get out to the gym or the pool or whatever. to know you will be back in front of the cameras again so soon, i dont envy her that ( knowing that the papers will be there looking for signs she isnt back to her pre baby weight)

Sparklesocks · 29/04/2018 10:47

She is very good at playing her part.

pictish · 29/04/2018 10:49

The ‘nod to Diana’ crap is so tasteless and mawkish. Kate never even met the woman but she has to wear a ghastly dress to honour her? We are a nation of dimwits, we really are.
Wouldn’t want to be Kate. Hell no.

feelingfree17 · 29/04/2018 10:49

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merrymouse · 29/04/2018 10:49

I know for me, even if I was dressed beautifully and wearing Alexander McQueen, I would still struggle immensely to look so serene and pleasant/happy for hours on end

Loads of people have jobs where they have to look serene and pleasant for hours on end. It's often really badly paid.

SerenDippitty · 29/04/2018 10:51

I think the third child is proof that their marriage is working, and real.

Bloody hell. Since when do children prove that a marriage is working and real?

BanyanTree · 29/04/2018 10:53

I don't think Kate has ever courted the limelight. I reckon she is really pleased that Meghan has come along and taken the spotlight off her. She holds herself with dignity and I have grown to respect her. She is probably relieved that the papers are no longer analysing her grey hairs and will be obsessed with Meghan for the next decade. Meanwhile Kate and Wills will be left alone to just be themselves.

LifeBeginsAtGin · 29/04/2018 10:54

I think the third child is proof that their marriage is working, and real.

Most people (sadly on here at least) seem to have a child in the hope of improving their relationships.

TheDowagerCuntess · 29/04/2018 10:55

I am sure she would be leaving in joggers if she had any choice.

There are people out there who loathe 'joggers'. Grin

I suspect Kate is among them.

SerenDippitty · 29/04/2018 10:57

Loads of people have jobs where they have to look serene and pleasant for hours on end. It's often really badly paid.

Quite. Virtually everyone in public facing jobs and they don’t get the perks Kate does.

NapQueen · 29/04/2018 10:57

This is the face of absoloute glee. Of course she is happy!

To have Kate Middleton as my new role model
lalalaloopy · 29/04/2018 10:59

I am sure she is a nice person but I feel uncomfortable that in 2018 her role is that of a Stepford wife. What normal 30 something gives birth & pulls on an outfit like that, it’s so dated! I know she’s not in a “normal” position but it’s just weird to me.