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To have Kate Middleton as my new role model

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SooChef · 29/04/2018 09:33

Or the Duchess of Cambridge for those who get uptight about her name.

She is so poised. Takes everything in her stride (even giving birth). She looks genuinely happy and in love and in control.

Operation Kate starts May 1st so I've got two more days to slob around on Mumsnet

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dailymailsucksbigtime · 29/04/2018 11:02

"I don't think Kate has ever courted the limelight."

She posed for a photo shoot for Vogue magazine- in what way is that not courting limelight? With multiple outfit changes - so anything that she said was lost in a flurry about the clothes. Vogue promoted the article as Kate Middleton fashion and style.

Her team release details of everything she wears to the press.

HermioneWeasley · 29/04/2018 11:03

Really? Your aspiration in life is to be well groomed? Jeez, 1950 called, it wants it’s gender roles back.

I know Diana was no saint, but nearly 40 years before, when she was a woman in her 20s with little formal education, she was being incredibly controversial crtisicing the government over youth homelessness. She then went on to support any number of controversial causes and made a lasting positive impact on the world.

Kate has had the most expensive, privileged education money can buy and has utterly wasted it. She’s an embarrassment.

wrenika · 29/04/2018 11:05

I think we could all look poised and perfect if we had an entourage doing everything for us, no money worries, no job, no responsibilities...life would be grand.

I can't say a woman who has done nothing with her life but marry a rich man and pump out babies would be my role model.

derxa · 29/04/2018 11:05

What's wrong with the dress? It's the sort of thing we wore in the 80's.
Angry Grin
Kate is like Carol in a lot of ways.

Pollysuki · 29/04/2018 11:06

I don't see what their is to admire tbh. She has no financial issues as we are picking up the tab, she has all the help in the world at her fingertips; hairdressers, stylists (although what rather hell were they thinking when they put her in that red dress with a lace doillie round the neck) nannies and cleaners. She has a bunch of sycophants telling her how hard she works for cutting the occasional ribbon or travelling around the world with a grin in her face.

I will save my admiration for my friend who is a single parent to two children who does everything single handedly, including holding down a professional full time job.

londonmummy1966 · 29/04/2018 11:06

If you want a role model from the Royals then fgs pick Princess Anne - did well in her own field, does a lot of really good charity work not in the limelight, is from time to time prepared to speak her mind and brought her daughter up to be hard working too.

Anotherdayintheoffice · 29/04/2018 11:06

TheDowager, I don’t own any joggers and left the hospital in maternity jeans after my c-section. I was more concerned about staying alive because my section went wrong and I had to spend a lot of time in intensive care. Because several trainee medics practiced on me during the section without my consent. But that’s another story.

lizzie1970a · 29/04/2018 11:07

Kate doesn't court the limelight? She allowed her skirts to blow up many a time! Doesn't do it now but she knew what she was doing. Both her and Pippa only wanted to marry well. Kate hung on to that for years. She did nothing waiting for William. She is no role model for women at all. Harry has picked one either.

ILikeMyChickenFried · 29/04/2018 11:09

Lol she's not so perfect. She was far less than pished trying to sort out all the little bridesmaids and page boys at her sisters wedding.

Thinkingofausername1 · 29/04/2018 11:10

I love Kate and I love her make up! I don't think we should assume she is happy all the time. They have been supporting, a mental health charity so I guess somewhere along the line she has suffered depression.

blueshoes · 29/04/2018 11:10

Princess Anne is indeed a much better role model. As is Sophie Wessex. They just get on with it.

The80sweregreat · 29/04/2018 11:11

Diana had no formal education? She was privately educated all the way through and went to a finishing school - shd didn’t go to university but ladies like her generally didn’t. She worked as a nanny to other rich offspring. She did try to raise awareness of Controversial causes I agree but a lot of that was point scoring against the stuffy royals. I didn’t dislike her but I have a feeling she might have caused a lot of disruption if she had lived and she wouldn’t have got on that well with the Middletons.

The80sweregreat · 29/04/2018 11:13

Kate has an allergy to horses and not keen on watching polo / she isn’t that perfect! 😀

willynillypie · 29/04/2018 11:14

Really? Your aspiration in life is to be well groomed? Jeez, 1950 called, it wants it’s gender roles back.

I thought that the purpose of feminism was the ability to chose what matters to us and what we want to do WITHOUT being ridiculed or judged by other women. Jesus.

biscuitraider · 29/04/2018 11:14

This is the face of absoloute glee. Of course she is happy!
Absolutely anyone can smile like that, it's an image they have to give to the world. As for glee? we really haven't a clue. We have to remember that practically all aspects of their lives is managed by the PR, it's all about keeping the gullible public happy to keep paying for them.

The monarchy has to be preserved at all costs. They present an image to the world that will have practically nothing to do with reality.

Undercoverbanana · 29/04/2018 11:14

I wouldn’t want that life.

I’m just back from a sweaty ball-ache of a 15 mile run and I look like shit, stink like shit and I’m dripping sweat. My friends and I have been laughing, swearing and generally having so much fun, talking about whatever we want and no one cares about our opinions except us. I’ve showered and put pjs on and I’m chilling. I feel so happy. I am free and have no pressure and no-one expects anything of me. No-one is photographing me and criticising my clothes/hair/makeup or whatever. If I need milk later, I can pull on an old hoody and go to the shop.

Kate will never, ever be able to do this. Any of it.

No thanks. That’s not for me.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 29/04/2018 11:15

Kate is a disgrace- does nothing! Oh wait she had that fake job at Jigsaw for photo ops. Diana used her influence for good- I’m yet to see anything that distinguishes Kate from a WAG tbh

Laiste · 29/04/2018 11:17

I would LOVE to know what it's really like. Does she bluster around in the morning saying ''oh for christ's bloody sake we have to go and do that flippin' opening thing in Budley Salterton or where ever the heck it is today don't we''.

Or do they keep up a front of being interested in the great unwashed and not complaining about what they have to do?

''Oh it's Budley Salterton today isn't it William? Super''.

Whatevszz · 29/04/2018 11:17

Kate's making the whole childbirth and antenatel thing so easy. Just pop them out and pop on a dress and smile on steps. But on the other hand, it's just part of the job, to look poised and in control. Most people put some sort of front in public, royal or not.

The80sweregreat · 29/04/2018 11:18

I watched a programme on on Tudor Norwich last night - one of the experts showing off the tapestry was a lovely lady with slightly frizzy hair ( like mine) but she intelligent clever and very passionate about her job and knew what she was talking about. She should be the type of role model for girls to aspire to ( just my opinion)
I’m sure that Kate is fine.

ChickenVindaloo2 · 29/04/2018 11:18

I love Kate. I think she is doing an immense job. She is elegant, dignified, such a contrast to the Instagram/Kardashian rubbish. She genuinely loves William and has provided a lovely family for him. And although she has servants and money, that doesn't take away the ordinary stresses of having children (worrying about them). Must be horrid having the media criticise your family too.

Kate, you have a friend in me!
Now don't get me started on Markle!

AnnaMagnani · 29/04/2018 11:19

It is easier to be a self-made millionaire when you have the backing of the massive family trust-fund though Hmm

Kate didn't go to Marlborough on the money from Party Pieces. The whole Middleton family is minted already from an aristocractic grandmother and a stupendous trust fund.

I'd find it a lot easier to set up my own business if I had the odd million pound fortune to start off with.

lizzie1970a · 29/04/2018 11:19

No willynillypie - the purpose of feminism isn't the ability to choose what matters to us and do what we want to do without being ridiculed or judged by other people.

It's often spouted on here as a way to justify being a SAHM for 20 years, long after the kids have left home, but that isn't the definition or even a part of feminism. Why? Because to be able to be that SAHM for that length of time you're depending on a man to allow you to do that financially.

I hate how this has been twisted as if it's allowed now and it comes under feminism. It most definitely does not. Do you think men can do this - just stay at home for 20 years looking after kids? No they can't. They'd be called a cocklodger. So how does it mean it's acceptable for a woman?

GrimSqueaker · 29/04/2018 11:25

I think the third child is proof that their marriage is working, and real.

I think it's proof that His Little Royal Highness The Royal Penis and HRH The Royal Ovaries are working... not much else. How many people have children into distinctly wobbly marriages that sometimes muddle through and sometimes collapse?! Oh yeah I forgot it's that magical royal aura that MN loses the plot about at times.

If you aspire to a woman who has done very little more in life than look perfectly groomed, smile when required and give birth... that says so much about you.

willynillypie · 29/04/2018 11:27

lizzie1970a

But if that's what an individual couple choose to do, how is that anyone else's business? To suggest it is and try to dictate to people how they can and can't live is facist.