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To have Kate Middleton as my new role model

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SooChef · 29/04/2018 09:33

Or the Duchess of Cambridge for those who get uptight about her name.

She is so poised. Takes everything in her stride (even giving birth). She looks genuinely happy and in love and in control.

Operation Kate starts May 1st so I've got two more days to slob around on Mumsnet

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DameDoom · 29/04/2018 10:03

I'd be poise itself if I had half the money.
Actually, I probably wouldn't. I have terrible bitchy resting face, a tendency to roll my eyes and I glaze over in a very obvious manner when disinterested or bored.
I also like to dress and have my hair as I choose and not chosen by some crusty courtier.
Not being a terrorist target is also a boon despite myriad other worries.
She seems alright though.

formerbabe · 29/04/2018 10:03

I'd imagine being poised and elegant is much easier when you have...

Nannies
No money worries
No housework
A beautiful home
Hairdressers/stylists on hand
Huge budget for clothing

itsgoodtobehome · 29/04/2018 10:03

I think she is as dull as dish water. Why would you want to be like her? A woman who has achieved nothing in life other than marry a Prince.

CocoaGin · 29/04/2018 10:03

I think Catherine has a very strong backbone. She was all smiles and waves on the steps with Prince George, and looked genuinely delighted to answer questions/pose for photos. With Charlotte and Louis, her smile was very forced, and she stood for around 90 seconds before nodding to William she'd had enough. He ushered her in very quickly with both. She didn't even look at anyone when they came back out to get in the cars.

I get the feeling she's a bit of a hellion behind closed doors Grin and I kind of like that about her. I think the poise is a facade.

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Goshitshighuphere · 29/04/2018 10:03

She is just a barbie doll.

I cant take anything that she says or does seriously when really it is all about what she is wearing. She changes clothes unnecessarily and her team release the details of what she is wearing to the press- why- the Queen and Princess Anne manage perfectly well without releasing what they wear and are well respected.

This degrades women. If she wants to be take seriously then she really needs to think what messages she gives out- that what she wears and how she looks is more important that what she says or what she does.

And yes people will say that she promotes and boosts British fashion- if that is the rationale then she would have more impact wearing M&S .

You can't have 3 children and expect anyone to take you seriously about the environment. He children will have a massive environmental footprint.

EdWinchester · 29/04/2018 10:05

Well, if being well groomed is something you aspire to, Kate’s your gal.

If I had a role model though, I’d like to think it was because of personal achievement rather than marrying well, producing babies and being terribly well behaved.

WhipItGood · 29/04/2018 10:08

she works hard 😂

Bouledeneige · 29/04/2018 10:09

Well she's a terrible role model for our young daughters. Marry rich, waste your education, be a clothes horse and a brood mare. She rarely speaks in public because she hasn't the confidence to get the words right. Just turn up, look nice and play a part, and sponge off your father in law for your income. Its a pointless existence and I pity her and the poor children who will never have purpose or function.

Whats wrong with women being independent and smart and having a career and making a contribution whilst bringing up children. Just breeding and putting on dresses doesn't really add up to much does it?

DuchyDuke · 29/04/2018 10:10

That level of society is notorious for putting up an act though. We have many a lord and lady at work (investment bank) and the things they get up to behind closed doors are terrible but you’d never know by talking to them.

willynillypie · 29/04/2018 10:11

I think it's unfair to say we could all be poised if we had XYZ - I know for me, even if I was dressed beautifully and wearing Alexander McQueen, I would still struggle immensely to look so serene and pleasant/happy for hours on end. She can't make ANY facial expressions to betray a different emotion that what she is supposed to be feeling. It can't be easy. I remember the one thing was when she gave that woman side eye and it was hilarious, and I agree with PP who says of course in private she yells and cries etc. But her job is to paint on a smile and wear it for hours on end and I think that's a special thing not a lot of people could do, no matter how much money they had. Especially after giving birth.

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 29/04/2018 10:14

There was a nice pic in the Express which showed Kate and William looking at each outside the hospital and I think they looked very much in love.

pictish · 29/04/2018 10:14

Does it involve smiling benignly while wearing ugly dresses? If so, I’d pick another role model. That red dress was an absolute howler.

NeedAGoodBook · 29/04/2018 10:19

I think the third child is proof that their marriage is working, and real.

I think she's very strong too but why wouldn't she genuinely love William.

I'm always meeting women with FAR MORE ORDINARY unattractive husbands and these women think their husband is funnier, more handsome, more popular than he actually is.

And the funny thing is, Prince Charles was awful to Diana, and awful in himself and nobody doubted that Diana loved him for real Confused

AllPowerfulLizardPerson · 29/04/2018 10:20

I don't think poise is synonymous with being well groomed.

To me, it's self-control with grace.

So anyone could have it, but I think it might be becoming uncommon as people prize 'authenticity' (which can sometimes just be an excuse for behaving loudly) as part of a trend of cult of the individual. She's all about others, and meeting expectations of what princesses do in public. It's a show, for the public, but possibly one only achievable to someone who is not ego-centric

Oakmaiden · 29/04/2018 10:20

they have the advantage of having a lot of time together just the two of them

This is an advantage? Sounds awful!

blueshoes · 29/04/2018 10:20

I agree with Bouledeneige about Kate being a poor role model for young girls as if it is the height of achievement for women to spend their time being uncontroversial and pleasing to the male eye, apart from reproducing. It is the dream of being a Disney princess, which is ultimately shallow and does not last.

Annabelle4 · 29/04/2018 10:21

I like Kate & William as people, but...

'You can't have 3 children and expect anyone to take you seriously about the environment. He children will have a massive environmental footprint

I thought exactly that when I saw William drive away in that 7 seater monstrosity.
And I also noticed all baby's visitors driving the exact same Range Rover.
It's almost laughable that they pretend to be concerned about the environment

NeedAGoodBook · 29/04/2018 10:22

"I think she is as dull as dish water. Why would you want to be like her? A woman who has achieved nothing in life other than marry a Prince."

Well, the man I married was no Prince. Grin

The vast majority of people haven't achieved anything if you're going to measure it so harshly, but it doesn't mean their lives aren't fulfilling and worthwhile!

TabbyMack · 29/04/2018 10:23

Smiling and looking pleasant for “hours on end” is a special thing?

She’s never in public for hours on end, for a start. And most people who go into work every day, certainly those in the public eye, manage to do it without being fawned over it.

She’s a dreadful example for girls. Go to university to meet a man, wait years for a ring then devote the rest of your life to looking nice in photos.

She’s a satellite for a man.

I don’t bedgrudge her anything, as such - someone had to take on the job, but this sychophantic arse licking is so pathetic. They are all performers in a real life soap opera... not role models leading inspirational or aspirational lives.

DameDoom · 29/04/2018 10:23

That red dress was twee as pictish. It would have been a delight on the little blonde girl on the old Petits Filous advert if it were Christmas.

Octonaught · 29/04/2018 10:26

I like Kate. Although she is younger than me, Kate & her sister seem to have been raised to basically marry well. Which seems odd because their mother is a very successful business woman.

Well whatever qualities Kate has inherited from her mother has stood her in good stead to reel in William after a 10 year courtship. However their marriage appears from the outside to be very happy and a partnership. It would be that that I would wish to aspire to. I would find it most tiresome to be dressed up & blowdried on a daily basis

merrymouse · 29/04/2018 10:26

If she inspires you to be more groomed and smiley great.

However, how do you know she doesn't slob around on Mumsnet when she isn't in the public eye?

I don't think details of the birth were released, but what did she do that billions of women haven't done before?

Admittedly she had access to a hairdresser and stylist and worldwide press and TV were waiting for her when she left the hospital, but I don't think it's easy to replicate that. She didn't seem to be any more or less poised than any other royal leaving a hospital.

She seems to have a good relationship with her husband, but we only see glimpses. What would you be copying? The smiling and waving?

Notcontent · 29/04/2018 10:27

Oh please...

She is just an ordinary woman who has “married well” to use that outdated expression.

Of course she looks “poised”. She has no problems.

I am not feeling or looking very poised this morning. Very tired as neighbours a few doors down had a party in their garden until about 2 am that probably kept the whole street awake. I am a lone parent so always tired, have 5 minuets in the morning to shower and dress let alone do my make up, no financial security, etc, etc.

Octonaught · 29/04/2018 10:28

Kate did however make an unfortunate choice of dress to present Louis to the world

Rosemary’s baby