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Aibu to not want this person back in my house?

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Animalsoffarthingwood · 26/04/2018 10:01

I had someone in my house recently to do some work from a well known utility company.

I let this person use the toilet as you do, and when he left I realised he'd pissed everywhere, on the toilet seat, on the floor, there were hairs on the toilet seat, it was disgusting. He had a wash in the sink and left hairs in the sink. Just gross.

I didn't know until he'd left, but doubt I'd have been brave enough to say anything anyway.

Apparently he forgot to do something when he was here, and now keeps ringing me to come and finish the job. The thing he forgot is in no way detrimental to me, and doesn't affect me in any way so aibu to just completely ignore him now?

I don't particularly want to look at him again after I had to mop his piss and pubes up from my own bathroom.

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Juells · 26/04/2018 16:29

Oh God! I'm not going to click on that link, but at the start of this thread I thought the OP was over-reacting. Now I realise the rest of you were right, he's a fucking creep.

blueheaven97 · 26/04/2018 16:33

To me, the toilet situation by itself is an annoyance but not enough to worry about. Unfortunately some people are just messy in the bathroom. Yes in a worst case scenario it could be some sort of deliberate power thing, but it's also fairly common for men to "miss" the target and women can be pretty minging in the bathroom too. I once had a female boss who left the office toilet looking like a bomb site. I also once had a female friend stay over at our place and in the morning the toilet was unflushed, there were dirty make-up marks all over the place and toilet tissue all over the floor. It's horrible, but it happens.

The stuff that's happened since then would concern me a lot more. Personally I would call the company and explain that you've missed a few calls call from one of their staff, and were just wondering what they wanted. If the company knows nothing about it, then there's definitely something odd going on and at that point I'd explain to them what's been happening. But it could be that it's all above board and they genuinely have something in their records that is in need of some extra work being done at your place (and if that's the case then you could perhaps ask them to send someone different out).

But either way, I think you need to speak to the company.

Skinnyboneylittlepony · 26/04/2018 16:43

Your body language shows you have anxiety. He sees that and takes it as an opportunity to literally and figuratively piss about. OP, you don’t have to put up with that.

willynillypie · 26/04/2018 17:31

YABU if you/DP don't report this behaviour!

2andcountingtodate · 26/04/2018 17:34

Report it for sure. He has cocked up and he is a foul fucker. Some construction guy tried this at ours, pissing over the loo and leaving work mess all in my bath. I was heavily pregnant and have anxiety too.

My dh came how early from work (construction too) and told them off. One of them cleaned it up.

DesertIslandPenguin · 26/04/2018 17:43

He's given your number to other people (allegedly) at work? That's a breach of data possession. He should not have kept your number in the first place, but if he's the sort of bloke who gets off on pissing everywhere I imagine he's unconcerned about the DPA. If you haven't already, please report him.

ALongHardWinter · 26/04/2018 17:52

He got a couple of his workmates to ring you and come and finish the job? Bloody hell,talk about persistent. If YOU don't personally want to phone and report him OP,get your DH to do it!

RoseWhiteTips · 26/04/2018 21:02

I give up.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 26/04/2018 21:05

He's given your number to other people (allegedly) at work? That's a breach of data possession

Good point, Penguin

DesertIslandPenguin · 26/04/2018 21:28

Data protection, even. It's been a long day.

Username9876543 · 26/04/2018 21:36

I just assumed he was messy in the bathroom, which is gross in itself. It never even entered my mind that it’s a power thing. Do people really do this? It’s fucking vile.

And yes, he absolutely needs reporting.

SomeKnobend · 26/04/2018 22:04

Get your dh to call and insist on a different engineer coming while he is at home. Insist that one has nothing more to do with you and explain why. His behaviour is massively inappropriate.

QueenArseClangers · 26/04/2018 22:15

These are the things we read about some fucker in the news who has gone on to rape/murder a woman in their home.

Report him OP. Listen to what fizzy and expat say. They, in my many years on MN , speak sense.

Urubu · 26/04/2018 22:16

I had this once, except the guy was part of a team. He trashed the bathroom then left straightaway but luckily I noticed the mess before the rest of the team left as well. I insisted they clean it, which they did! I'm sure they complained about their collegues after having to mop his piss of the foor with just kitchen roll (was moving in, no mop etc yet)

SmartyPants0 · 26/04/2018 22:24

I'll admit to not reading all the thread... but do you think its possible that the piss was actually water on the loo seat and floor and were from where he washed his face and the pubes were from his beard ??

brownbananainthebowl · 26/04/2018 22:40

I recently had men in doing work in the house and i had to leave them both there while me and ds went off to toddler group, I'd come back and they were gone (finished) and went to use the bathroom and one had obviously been a No.2 as the small top window was wide open and dirty tissue in the bowl still, obviously not checked it had all flushed. Don't get me wrong if u gotta go u gotta go but if ur in someone else's house just at least don't leave any evidence 😂

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Animalsoffarthingwood · 26/04/2018 22:48

I reported it in the end. Haven't heard anything back yet. The person I spoke to seemed understanding and sounded disgusted. In the end I decided him turning up unannounced was unprofessional enough to ring up.

There is no way that the piss was water. It was piss, you couldn't possibly mistake it, besides the toilet is the opposite end of the bathroom to the sink. Look there is no way I'm mistaken, he'd wee'd over the toilet and floor.

I hate the excuse that some people are just messy in the bathroom. Urinating in places where people are likely to sit or stand in it isn't just messy, it's revolting, unhygienic, rude, disrespectful and selfish. Why should I have to clean up a stranger urine and pubic hairs in my own home? There's no excuse for it, there's tissue and spray in my bathroom, if you have an accident clean it up yourself.

I was willing to let that slide but the fact that he then turned up on my doorstep trying to get back in just took the piss, excuse the pun.

OP posts:
bettytaghetti · 26/04/2018 22:56

Well done!

SaltireSaltire · 26/04/2018 23:39

Gross - glad you reported

DesertIslandPenguin · 27/04/2018 09:29

Really glad you reported it. If he carries on with trying to contact you or any more colleagues turn up unannounced, then I'd call the police.

TomRavenscroft · 27/04/2018 09:51

Well done, OP. I hope you also told them that he got his workmates to ring you –that's seriously dubious.

RoseWhiteTips · 27/04/2018 10:44

Well done, OP.

GabriellaMontez · 27/04/2018 15:00

Well done. What a creep.

dwab45 · 27/04/2018 17:32

Disgusting. I just complain to his employer. If that fails sent an email to management and copy in local trading standards. Not sure are correct Authority, but at least company will see the bad name being seen by others.

Ladylisa · 27/04/2018 17:36

I had a similar incident with a plumber the estate agent sent me, used the toilet in the shower room and splattered the pan - there was a brush,toilet cleaner and bleach in there and he just left it
I complained to the estate agent and she said “he has said he won’t do any further work in that house as you cancelled one appt” I told her that’s fine just make sure the next one you send is fully house trained !!

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