Aibu to not want this person back in my house?

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I had someone in my house recently to do some work from a well known utility company.

I let this person use the toilet as you do, and when he left I realised he'd pissed everywhere, on the toilet seat, on the floor, there were hairs on the toilet seat, it was disgusting. He had a wash in the sink and left hairs in the sink. Just gross.

I didn't know until he'd left, but doubt I'd have been brave enough to say anything anyway.

Apparently he forgot to do something when he was here, and now keeps ringing me to come and finish the job. The thing he forgot is in no way detrimental to me, and doesn't affect me in any way so aibu to just completely ignore him now?

I don't particularly want to look at him again after I had to mop his piss and pubes up from my own bathroom.

Definitely tell the company!!! That’s terrible and it’s either deliberate OR he needs telling that it’s not acceptable. By his manager.

REPORT HIM! He's harassing you. PLEASE REPORT THIS! Driving up and down your street, FFS. He had no permission to return to your home. Do NOT let him into your home. He knocks again you tell him through the door that you are not letting him in and the company will need to send someone else.

I would report him to his utility company, he sounds awful, rather like a preditor.

@InkyToesies

Hope you get help with your issues.

This happened to me too! A utilities engineer had a MASSIVE shit in my bathroom that he couldn’t flush and that blocked the whole system even once my husband attacked it with a stick.

I rang his bloody boss and eventually got a £50 credit on my gas and electric account.

I was disgusted

How do I know?

Well it was fairly obvious, I mean how descriptive shall I be? It was impossible for it to be anybody else's. There was only me and a toddler in the house.

He went to the toilet then left, I went straight up because I thought it was strange he'd been a while in there and had come out soaking wet.

The lid on the toilet was up which it wasn't before, and there was yellow urine all over the seat and floor and black hairs. None of that was there before, it hadn't come from anyone else.

He told me he'd had a wash and there were black hairs in the sink, different ones to those that were on the toilet.

Fgs. Never mind being here talking about it. Are you ever going to ring that company?

Is this for real?

What a weirdo! Report him because honestly that’s the skankiest thing ever. Also why did enough of his pubes and beard hair fall out for you to notice it, that’s weird in itself!

Yes it is bloody well is for real.

I didn't report him at the time because apart from what he'd done, he was reasonably polite, I thought he'd done his job properly and that was the end of it. He was a fairly young guy, was saying how he lived at home with his parents, so I thought I'd just let it go. Although I was still quietly seething.

It was only when a week later he started phoning me, that I realised I have a problem.

Look, there have been several other threads like this.

It seems that certain blokes doing jobs where they access people's homes get a kick out of doing this kind of thing - marking territory stuff, it's a fucking disgusting perversion.

You saw the mess. There's no way he didn't. It sounds like it would have taken quite an effort to actually create that much mess. Pubes? Do you normally leave pubes everywhere when you go for a pee? Do you think it's normal for beard hairs to be all over the sink when someone just washes their face?

He was pulling hairs out and leaving them around. He deliberately peed on the floor and surfaces.

If the job was unfinished, the protocol would be that you'd be contacted by the utility to arrange a second appointment. Not by him. And a busy engineer with a rota full of scheduled calls is not going to be popping in on the off chance. I doubt there's anything 'unfinished' and it's probably his day off.

This guy is a pervert, so please, contact the company, explain the mess he left in the bathroom and the deliberate appearance of it, and say he's been harassing you with calls to 'finish the job' ever since.

It might save the next woman who happens to be at home alone for an appointment facing the same thing.

...and if he lifted the lid, why didn't he lift the seat?

I'll admit to laughing at @Thehop and the massive shit though. Imagine what that guy was called in work, ever after. 😂

Report him then. Or do you want other women to be put into this situation? It’s gross and more.

Others are right about the protocol used by big companies. Everything goes through their offices. You are contacted thereafter.

Look I don't know why there were pubes, I don't know whether it was deliberate or just careless.

If I'm honest I feel a bit intimidated to report him, He'd got a couple of his workmates to ring me to come and finish this job as they were 'in the area'. I suffer with anxiety and I'm home alone a lot and the whole thing has sent my anxiety levels through the roof.

Everyone says report him including my parents.

Dh thinks he's cocked something serious up and that's why he ringing me rather than going through the office.

If I'm honest I feel a bit intimidated to report him, He'd got a couple of his workmates to ring me to come and finish this job as they were 'in the area'

This is so dodgy. Get your DH to phone them if you can't, but for the love of God REPORT HIM.

Report him.

I don't think you should let this man back in your house under any circumstances. If the pee everywhere was as bad as you say (and I have no reason to disbelieve you at all) then something else is going on here other than a simple loo break. He's either drunk/high at work, or deliberately doing this. I don't think you should risk any further weirdness from him.

Then get your DH to report him. Really, reporting him will scare him right off - and his stupid friends too.

'If I'm honest I feel a bit intimidated to report him, He'd got a couple of his workmates to ring me to come and finish this job as they were 'in the area'. I suffer with anxiety and I'm home alone a lot and the whole thing has sent my anxiety levels through the roof.'

Then have your H or someone else report him. FFS! He's a fucking pervert. He's had mates ring you to harass you, he's a pervert, he drove up and down your road, he came over with no permission. He's dangerous, OP. He needs reported NOW.

phone company and ask hwy he wants to come back.what went wrong.he should have it logged especially if in work time hes going back to same house.they should be in the know of it.

Could you report him via email if that is easier for you? Or get DH to call up and report him. I'm afraid that I agree with everyone else that it seems deliberate. If he does need to finish the job off the office would know, just ask them to send different engineer around to do it.

Get your DH to ring. You shouldn't feel intimidated in your own home.

keep calm hun.its ok.if they've coked up ring the company.especailly in this day and age they should be fully compassionate to your situation.so tell them and be honest that its making it very difficult with your anxiety can they help please.no company should be happy with their workforce making a costomer feel this way.
try to keep calm.dont let your mind run away with you and the stories it making.keep everything in the here and now with some deep breaths.
it could be nothing.so don't let worries make this huge until your sorted.
think practically what you can do to ease this for you.
its ok.is there anyone who can sit with you or help you right now.
rememner this is nothing you've done.

1. Report him for the pissing everywhere, it's disgusting.
2. Also mention to the office the repeated calls (harassment?) and unagreed house visit. Either they know he forgot something or they don't. if they know, you can request a different engineer, if they don't they can investigate his behaviour.
3. Update us all about whether the customer Service operator on the phone manages to remain professional during the revelations of his actions. I don't imagine it's the sort of complaint they hear every day.