Aibu to not want this person back in my house?

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I had someone in my house recently to do some work from a well known utility company.

I let this person use the toilet as you do, and when he left I realised he'd pissed everywhere, on the toilet seat, on the floor, there were hairs on the toilet seat, it was disgusting. He had a wash in the sink and left hairs in the sink. Just gross.

I didn't know until he'd left, but doubt I'd have been brave enough to say anything anyway.

Apparently he forgot to do something when he was here, and now keeps ringing me to come and finish the job. The thing he forgot is in no way detrimental to me, and doesn't affect me in any way so aibu to just completely ignore him now?

I don't particularly want to look at him again after I had to mop his piss and pubes up from my own bathroom.

He has other people contacting you?! Call the company now, ask for a new engineer and say that if he calls you again you will consider it harassment and will be taking it further

WTF would you NOT report him?

Do exactly what Soupforbrains said! I know how hard it is trying to muster up the courage to speak up when you're anxious, especially in your own personal space. But what he's doing is harassment, especially getting his mates to join in and visiting your house.

What a complete arsehole.

Whether or not you report him or your DP reports him isn't important - the important bit is that he gets reported.

At best, he's naive, is maybe trying to cover up a mistake and has behaved wholly inappropriately. He's making the company for which he works look really bad and they need to know so they can deal with it.

At worst, he's as creepy as fuck and shouldn't be in anyone's house (and certainly not yours - don't let him in if he 'happens' to turn up).

I'd also be ringing the police, even if only for advice.

And also to the people skeptical of OP and pushing her to report with no kind words, it is not easy to just go in all guns blazing for some people, and it is very much an "easier said than done" situation

Just ask for a different engineer, I wouldn't want someone to lose their job over it despite it being disgusting and rude. If challlenged you could explain that you felt his toilet habits were careless. I doubt very much he did it on purpose and is getting off on it unless you got a sense that he is that kind of a man? If you really feel that he is of the creepy variety then of course report it. If you look at the way public toilets are left there are some downright dirty feckers out there.

I'm just amazed he actually thought it was ok to 'have a wash' in a stranger's house!!

Please report him before he does this to other women on their own.

there is another way to look at it.hes majorly embaressed.what if it was innocent and he somehow wants to come make sure everything ok.make up for it.
I new someone this used to happen he would sit and his dressing gown would get all caught up and round the seat. and so too his coughs hairy bits.but he would have died if hed have thought I noticed it each time or made a thing of it.it would never have been on purpose.daflty or not he never new he was doing it and after the first few times I could say it either.

'If I'm honest I feel a bit intimidated to report him, He'd got a couple of his workmates to ring me to come and finish this job as they were 'in the area

This is hugely fishy and deeply inappropriate. You seem to be confident enough about not answering the door to anybody, which is good, but can you just try to pick up the phone and report this to the company? Do you need a hand doing this? Your partner must understand, and if you are intimidated then there's no harm in asking him to call for you.

Utility company employees DO NOT phone customers directly to make appointments to go back to a job. The also do not get their mates to "drop in".
Phone the company, tell them what he's been doing and why you don't want him back.
You are paying them, not the other way round.

If you are feeling kind, you could say he was polite etc, so you were surprised at the mess in the loo, and you are "just checking " that it's ok for him to contact you directly.

Report the behaviour. Good grief, once a gas engineer asked me if I minded him taking his JACKET

I read this as minded him jacking off

OP, in your shoes, I’d complain to head office about the state he left your bathroom in as well as how persistent he was about coming back. Because, if his ‘repair’ is actually a cock up,I’d want that in their records.

Leaving toilets dirty is a mark of power. In the same way that animals will UTI are against a tree to mark their areas, people do too! It also shows they are assuming superiority to whoever comes after them or has to clean it. Dirty bastard

Urinate, not UTI. Sorry!

Speaking as a daughter/sister/wife/mother of men who in the course of their jobs would have had to go into customers homes on occasion I can honestly say that NO WAY would any of them think that ANY of this behaviour was acceptable. Pissing all over the place? Having a WASH? He's not embarrassed he's a pervert. Report or get your DP to report. Good luck.

Yuck, Its stomach churning.

I think you should report it.

I bought a piano on a rent to buy basis a few years back and the tuner had the most horrendous body odour problem that I've ever come across it took a whole day of open window and air freshener and it still lingered the following morning. Part of the rental contract was a 6 monthly tune and I had to call as there was no way he was coming back in. They had no alternative tuner so I ended up borrowing money from elsewhere to pay off the piano. In your case they will have alternative people so definitely report.

Ew wtf that is grim on so many levels.
Please report him op, he is blatantly harassing you.

Think of the other ladies toilets he may be having a piss party in...Its gross and disgusting,,
Report him op..its just unacceptable what hes' doing.

I would be wondering why he seems pretty fixed on getting back into your house without his employers knowing

This is really dodgy, please report him and get someone else to take a look at his work.

THIS ^ what Gilead has said.

This is really sinister. Are you a woman alone in the property? (I'm guessing "yes" from what you have posted, otherwise your other half would be up-in--arms about it, too.)

You are vulnerable - he is NOT behaving appropriately, and the longer you wait before reporting him, the more likely he is to think you are going to be easy prey.

Report him - you and others could be at risk. At best he is a dirty pig, as worst he is a predator.

Oh my god I've just tried to find some information on people who do this as a power thing to find out WTF goes through their head... www.ign.com/boards/threads/in-public-bathrooms-i-piss-all-over-the-toilet-seat-on-purpose.188467392/

VOMIT INDUCING! He's definitely a sicko

Gross. I would report to the company and ask them if this job needs finishing, you want a different engineer.

Gin - just read a couple of the posts on the thread you linked - how VILE!

Some people are really beyond disgusting! What sad, pathetic individuals they must be if they regard this as a power trip. Filthy buggers!

I think after reading some of the comments on that thread GinThere, there is no hope for humankind. I'd quite like to bring back public stocks for 'people' like that.

Please report OP; you shouldn't have to put up with being harassed like that.

I had someone from British gas pop back this morning because he had realised he had forgotten to do something. However he was amazingly polite last night and this morning, didn't use my loo or even accept a cup of tea. Pissing all over your loo was not acceptable.