To have wanted to stab this woman at the ATM

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I went up to the ATM this afternoon and got there a split second behind another woman so just smiled at her and stood back.

She then proceeded to put her card in and out a couple of times doing different transactions, took out another card and did the same and then did a transaction on a third card. By the time she was finished there was half a dozen people waiting in the queue.

AIBU to think she was a selfish cow who should have let me go ahead when she knew she was going to be ages?

sure. entitled bastards. Taking their time. Kill them to death.

First we had "The entitled generation" and now we have "The entitled syndrome". Where will it all end?

Good name for it though, "Mirrivan Syndrome". Will you get paid for naming it, do you think?

😂😂😂

I was doing a weekly shop last night. I got to the queue a split second before a woman with a few things. I told her to go in front of me because I knew I'd take a lot longer. I don't think you were BU. She most probably knew she was going to be ages, when most people are quick. It would have been polite and the nice thing to do to let you go first.

As for the PP who said they would go really slowly to spite the people behind them, what on earth is up with you to think like that?

I read an article once that said people back out of parking spaces more slowly if the car waiting for their space is nicer than their own car... ie for spite.

What the actual fuck is wrong with people?

I did get a good tip for stress once, from a therapist. She said to kick a beanbag. Mind you, you'd have to be at home for that (or near a store that sells them, or would you get arrested)?

I don’t have Mirrivan Syndrome, I just have ordinary person levels of tolerance for other people holding me up or getting in my way. Most days I don’t give a toot, some days it winds me up to a indistinguishable seethe and I think bad thoughts like the OP described...clearly with her tongue firmly in her cheek.

Unfortunately people took it seriously.

Ah well.

As for the PP who said they would go really slowly to spite the people behind them, what on earth is up with you to think like that?

Did you read the whole comment?

This kind of thing scares the shit out of me. WTAF? So someone takes a little while to do something, keeping you waiting. So what? I think impatience is one of the traits I find most unattractive in others. And people are often quite pleased to declare that they 'have no patience', as if the lack thereof somehow means they are zippy, efficient, no-nonsense types -a kind of virtue signalling. When I am with someone who gets wound up by slow, beleaguered, muddled, careful people I cringe for them, what a waste of energy. It really harshens the vibe as someone said upthread. When travelling, westerners often stand out like sore thumbs getting worked up about inconsequential stuff, looking like entitled children.
And I don't think people are lying online. I am a very placid kind of person, DP not so much. He regards his lack of patience as a mark of good character (as opposed to a blot upon the same, as I do) and can't understand how I genuinely don't get frazzled by stuff. But I know which one of us invariably has the best time on any given day out, holiday, night out...

Most days I don’t give a toot, some days it winds me up to a indistinguishable seethe

Why do you think that is? That some days it bothers you and some days it doesn’t. Do you think people pick certain days to be in your way more than others?

You need to work on your anger issues

Find your inner Zen

I don’t know...why am I more stressed out on some days than others? Circumstances, what has gone before, specifics, variables...the same shit as everyone else.

So all you then, and not the fault of the strangers who don’t know you from Adam.

Yes of course. But in the moment they’re still a cunt.
By the time I’m 20 metres down the road I’ve already forgotten about it.
Same as everyone else.

MirriVan you are at least able to curb your impatience with some self-awareness and humour. I want to cry when people smirk or tut at the elderly, undertake dangerously around a cautious driver or roll their eyes when someone needs an instruction explained again.

right. Got it. You’re in a bad mood so everyone else is a cunt.

Pictish Yes, but how do you know it's indistinguishable? You can't see what you look like. My dd (adult) gets impatient even when swimming, which is supposed to be relaxing obviously. She says "ggrrrr, everyone's in my way". I can now tell her she has Mirrivan Syndrome.

Yes. Same as everybody else.

Maybe the cash machine woman is with TSB bank, and she can't check her balance online (because the system is still down/intermittent after 5 days).
I have multiple accounts with them, so I could have quite easily been this woman, checking my balance before using my card to prevent potential embarrassment

How do I know how I behave?
What?

Oh...and no, not everyone is a cunt...just the cunt holding Me up at the ATM.

Sometimes I’M the cunt holding someone else up.

Yet life goes on.

People tutting in queues make me so anxious. I had to change my pin at the cash machine on three cards and with all the tutting I ended up walking off, not having done all of them. YABU definitely to not let her just get on with her transactions.

Mirrivan syndrome, love it 😂

Fwiw people who put others at risk becausd they have no patience - as in the dangerous undertaking example above - are cunts, pure & simple. Huge, huge difference between having a whitter & a huff, & actively trying to run somebody off the road 🙈