Softzilla returns..... to soft play

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

Probably will be a boring thread as i mainly intend to continue just ignoring and refusing to be drawn in to any games but...

Guess where I went today? And who I bumped into there? (I really need to find another place to hang out with people! )
Well she was there when I turned up with party mum. We greeted her with a surprised slightly awkward 'oh... hi!' which she returned, but then sat at a different table.
Later in the afternoon when I'd got home she called and i picked up without thinking. She said she wanted to chat and make it so that we could start going to our usual group again - she seemed to be under the impression that I was no longer going. And asked if she could come over right then. I said no sorry as it was time for dinner/ bath/ bed etc for my dc. I also told her that I was still attending the group and that she didn't need to worry about attending, I joked that it's big enough for both of us..... and she put the phone down. I wondered if it was a mistake but she never called back if it was and I don't want to call her.

Please can someone link to thread 3? Have read 1+2 and desperate for 3!!

OMG she really is unhinged.

You’re handling this well OP.

I bet she hung, in frustration when the conversation didn’t go as she wanted.

Why can she call you back if her phone cut out???

I would send the message Pandoraphile has written. I wouldn’t deny receiving the message as that gives plausibility to her claim that she sent you an apology text.

Isn't this the third thread?
OP I don't blame you not calling back. She is trying to prolong the drama and seems annoyed with you for not playing along

i would ignore. she's almost harassing you now. so weird.

At the risk of being very unpopular there are often 5/6/7 hour delays on text message delivery between mine and DH's phones - even when we are in the same house (lazy alert - two flights of stairs, I might text for a cup of tea).
So it is possible she was cut off, texted the Op and the message wasn't delivered immediately.
Just saying....

Obviously that doesn't explain the other rigmarole with soft play etc!

Notonthestairs - haha for two flights of stairs I’d probably text for a tea too! But the thing is if softzilla was cut off - why not call back? Why text and make the op do the chasing? She’s always trying to make the op do stuff. Come outside. Meet early to discuss. Etc etc. It’s weird and a total power play.

zilla threads never truly die, do they.

This is the 3rd thread. I think someone mistyped 4th earlier but it's not been THAT long running. One was about the original soft play issue and the other was about her behaviour at the party.

Im not sure I'm brave enough to send the message Pandoraphile wrote but i was going to send my usual 'Don't worry about it, see you at group on Friday!'.

Your reply is spot on.

Your reply sounds great.

Or you could just ignore all texts and calls from her completely and - if/when she challenges you in person - say "yeah, I've been a bit busy."

Why on earth should you call her?! What a controlling basket case the woman is.

I would say you should avoid phone calls or any other private conversations with this woman, but I'm guessing you've already made that decision!!

'Don't worry about it, see you Friday' is fine. I agree with PP that she is desperately trying to make you obey her, and the best thing to do is not give her an inch. With any luck, she will do something sufficiently stupid (but hopefully not actually damaging to anyone else) that she gets the public smackdown she needs.
(I don't mean that anyone should physically attack her, I'm thinking more stuff like her being told to leave the softplay by the venue staff for, er, growling at people or screaming or something...)

Oh my god OP. I’ve binged all 3.

I’m so sorry she has (seemingly randomly) become so... nuts. It’s bullying. You’ve handled it well (and more calmly than I would have!)

And a response;
'You are so frustrating! '

Those posters who are complaining don't want to hide the thread. They want to come on and sound superior to the rest of us, and show us how grown up they are.

You're handling this brilliantly, @Unreasonable

'and you are harassing me'

Hahaha, you're doing excellent work OP. Don't respond. While ignoring the mad cunt will infuriate her, it's a way of retaining the moral high ground and is more fun, too - but engaging with her just takes up more of your time and will just mean she steps up her demands.

Remember that you owe her nothing more than calm, polite indifference. You don't owe her time or attention, you don't owe her money, and you don't have to stroke her ego by letting her 'win' in any way.

You’re frustrating her because you’re not getting into an argument. That’s what she wants. For you to get angry so she can play the victim.

Hang on, you mean she's texted you ''You are so frustrating!'?

Christ on a bike.

She really needs to get a life.

I'd just send your suggested 'Don't worry about it, see you at group on Friday!' and then block the weirdo.

I think I'd have to say 'I don't know what you want from me. Please just drop it and let's move on, everything is fine. See you Friday.'

She's like a toddler having a tantrum.
Like don't says, she's trying to get a rise out of you so she can play victim. Don't let her. Even if you're paddling hard beneath the surface, keep that calm above water face on.