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Softzilla returns..... to soft play

999 replies

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 24/04/2018 19:57

Probably will be a boring thread as i mainly intend to continue just ignoring and refusing to be drawn in to any games but...

Guess where I went today? And who I bumped into there? (I really need to find another place to hang out with people! )
Well she was there when I turned up with party mum. We greeted her with a surprised slightly awkward 'oh... hi!' which she returned, but then sat at a different table.
Later in the afternoon when I'd got home she called and i picked up without thinking. She said she wanted to chat and make it so that we could start going to our usual group again - she seemed to be under the impression that I was no longer going. And asked if she could come over right then. I said no sorry as it was time for dinner/ bath/ bed etc for my dc. I also told her that I was still attending the group and that she didn't need to worry about attending, I joked that it's big enough for both of us..... and she put the phone down. I wondered if it was a mistake but she never called back if it was and I don't want to call her.

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KeepServingTheDrinks · 24/04/2018 22:19

I don't want to be rude to fellow posters, but I just don't GET why people are saying you're stirring up drama, Unreasonable.
Everything I've read is you trying your hardest to tone down any drama. You've told her repeatedly to move on, to forget it, that you're not upset.

As PPs have said, no reasoning with crazy.

Thank you for the update though. Flowers

Dobby1sAFreeElf · 24/04/2018 22:28

She's determined to turn this into an argument. Presumably so when you lose your shit she will be in some way validated. I think you're still handling it very well, but definitely avoid one on ones with her.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 24/04/2018 22:35

If you stop the Softzilla updates, it will affect me as much as if Trump stopped tweeting. Please carry on. I suspect this lady is not going to go quietly or be cheated of her Drama. Keep the threads coming, we need them as a How to guide for when we meet our own Softzillas.. they are out there! You handled it very well I thought. Now I'm going to check I didn't miss a previous thread.

Unreasonableunreasonableness · 24/04/2018 22:47

She's now messaged one sentence;
'The signal cut out, will you call me back? ' nearly 7 hours since she called. Maybe I'm the one overreacting and seeing things where there aren't really (like someone said on the previous thread).

OP posts:
Unreasonableunreasonableness · 24/04/2018 22:47

Btw I'm going to bed so she won't be getting a reply tonight

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Mummyoflittledragon · 24/04/2018 22:57

The signal cut out. 😂😂. Yeh sure, that’s what happens when you press on the red button.

Dobby1sAFreeElf · 24/04/2018 22:59

I totally hate it when my signal drops out for 7 hours and doesn't affect anyone else.

GreenTulips · 24/04/2018 23:01

She wants you to show up as a missed call on her phone

Ignore - obviously the text never arrived

LaContessaDiPlump · 24/04/2018 23:01

Oh do call her back tomorrow (or at least pick up) and stick strictly to the party line you have adopted, op. 'twill be such fun! She will be enraged Grin I'd record the call if I were you though, in self-defence....

IamnotaStepfordHousewife · 24/04/2018 23:03

Crazy bitch alert!

xsquared · 24/04/2018 23:17

She could have called back surely, instead of texting you to call back?

Anyway, she is milking it and it seems everyone realises she is unhinged, except her.

WhatCanIDoNowPlease · 24/04/2018 23:20

Just keep your dealings with her to the minimum, and always in writing or recorded.

minimalpatience · 24/04/2018 23:29

She sounds unhinged.

GrabbyMcGrabby · 24/04/2018 23:38

She's trying to control you. Do. Not. Call. Back. Deny receiving msg.

Motoko · 24/04/2018 23:55

No, don't call her back. If she wants to talk to you, she can call you, or she knows you go to the groups, so she can see you there. She won't have to risk her signal "cutting out" then.

Shadow666 · 25/04/2018 00:04

I agree, she sounds really controlling. Just be thankful you’re not married to her. Shock

Pandoraphile · 25/04/2018 00:07

She wants you to run after her and beg forgiveness. She can't STAND the fact that you're just carrying on as normal.

I'd just message back something like "Hi, no problem. To be honest I think we've done this to death now so let's just leave it. See you when I see you."

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 25/04/2018 00:20

Oh god op. I was wondering how you were.

Shes a fucking Omnishambles. And still trying to control you. Ring back for what. To discuss bloody what?! I wouldn’t speak to her again. I don’t know how you’re keeping your calm

PollyBanana · 25/04/2018 00:27

Just text her to say we can have a chat next time we're at the group. (ie in public!)

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 25/04/2018 00:54

If I were William Hill, having read all the other threads, what odds would I give on the phone suddenly cutting out by sheer accident or on her deciding to hang up in a fit of pique and messaging you 7 hours later demanding a ring back? Hmmm? Intriguing. Which is the most likely? She really is the gift that just keeps giving.

LovelySouffle · 25/04/2018 01:01

The Godfather trilogy of AIBU threads.

Manyfridays · 25/04/2018 02:04

F

SoaveSally · 25/04/2018 02:14

Christ Shock

emmyrose2000 · 25/04/2018 02:31

The signal cut out

Yes, that's usually what happens when someone/softzilla pushes the hang up button on a phone.... It's amazing she hasn't grasped this basic concept yet. Hmm

OP, just ignore, ignore, ignore. Anything you say will be used against you by this nutter.

KeiTeNgeNge · 25/04/2018 04:42

She’s the gift that keeps on giving

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