Softzilla returns..... to soft play

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

Probably will be a boring thread as i mainly intend to continue just ignoring and refusing to be drawn in to any games but...

Guess where I went today? And who I bumped into there? (I really need to find another place to hang out with people! )
Well she was there when I turned up with party mum. We greeted her with a surprised slightly awkward 'oh... hi!' which she returned, but then sat at a different table.
Later in the afternoon when I'd got home she called and i picked up without thinking. She said she wanted to chat and make it so that we could start going to our usual group again - she seemed to be under the impression that I was no longer going. And asked if she could come over right then. I said no sorry as it was time for dinner/ bath/ bed etc for my dc. I also told her that I was still attending the group and that she didn't need to worry about attending, I joked that it's big enough for both of us..... and she put the phone down. I wondered if it was a mistake but she never called back if it was and I don't want to call her.

OP thanks for the update, I've been watching from the start. She really has flipped this time, the growling makes me laugh! just watch your back, she will start up the phone calls again I bet! x

She sounds completely barmy. It’s just not normal behaviour at all

What is with this growling she enjoys doing!? Maybe it's time to contact the police if she carries on like this. Nutcase. I'm sorry you're still dealing with her, OP.

The growling isn't at all funny. It sounds as if she's seriously mentally ill, she could end up having a full psychotic breakdown. I'm concerned that she might actually be a danger to herself and others and she has a child in her care

Gah!
She's like a dog with a bone.
Which could explain the growling...

Were any of your friends there this morning who might know what happened?! (Party friend maybe?) I would be asking if there was anyone trusted there.

But honestly the growling just makes me wonder what’s going on with her. A- to drag this let’s face it fairly petty grudge for so long and b- to still be so angry it makes her literally growl

Glad group leader was on it. Hope you get answers and some peace this weekend

This is going to sound strange but what does the growl sound like?

Could one of the mums be shitstirring?

Agree with PP that it sounds like some sort of external intervention is needed (the fact that the group leader basically escorted her off the premises suggests that everyone is aware her behaviour has gone way, way beyond normal). It's probably not a good idea for you to be the one who calls Ghostbusters or whatever, though. Well, unless she starts harassing you by phone or turning up at your house or some such...

I'm also wondering whether a couple of the mums are winding her up to create more drama.

What did play leader say to her

She really doesn't sound fully in control. Mentally healthy adults do not go around inventing drama and growling! I don't think you and she can just have a chat and sort this out.

I think I would be making everyone I know aware of the full story, and then be looking for another group to go to. How can you enjoy being there now? You must be on edge, and, let's be honest, some of the people there (and on here) are enjoying the drama.

Time to recognise it's not a battle, you can't "win". Just move on, and leave her, her weird take on social norms, and her bizarre behaviour for others to deal with.

I wonder if she's found these threads!!!

I don't know at all what was said. I suspect some of the people that said dunno do actually know, but I wasn't going to question them at that moment. Party friend arrived with me so is non the wiser either.

It's difficult to describe the growl. I guess it's like the sound I might make if I was trying to do something on a computer and it wasn't working and i got really frustrated? Like urrrrrgh.... I dunno lol.

I do think you need to start compiling details of dates and what happened each time. I suspect you still haven’t heard the end of this and the chance that you’ll have to, at some point, involve the police is increasing

Is there anyone party friend could ask to find out what happened? She might have more joy

Sorry but I agree with keeping a note of everything that’s happened. She doesn’t sound like she’s the forgive and forget type. But I disagree about stopping the group. Sounds like the leader has a fairly strong grip on it and prepared to take someone out if needs be. What did she say about next week? If I were her I’d be tempted to ban her. She’s a grown adult who can’t control her temper at a playgroup.

Yeah, I think the leader may well have already told her not to come back if she can't behave like a grown up. But I also agree that it would be worth writing down a full account of everything this wackjob has done, with dates and details, in case you need to involve the police.

I am glad the group leader is involved and that she made her leave

The OP definitely shouldn't stop going, the group leader should ban Softzilla, and I actually suspect she might well do that. In the meantime, I echo what PPs have said about keeping a record of everything, as you may well need to involve the police.

Sadly it sounds as if one of you is going to have to leave the group, don’t see why it should be you however unless you choose to.

Softzilla would appear to have a little coven of followers who are fuelling her rage and growling. Asking people what has happened is playing into theirs and Softzilla’s hands. They all sound completely barking. Beginning to think Softzilla should be rechristened Borezilla.

At least everyone heard the growl. That’s clearly not normal.

I'm also wondering whether a couple of the mums are winding her up to create more drama.

Yes, me too.

Me three.

I would try to take control of the situation. Don't text her but maybe call in and say that you genuinely don't understand what has happened, could she please share some light on the situation?

There is a kid in my son's class like this with the growl. He has an extra support teacher who sits by him in class to help, and stays in the playground incase the kid starts growling. I don't know what he's diagnosed with, but the main thing is anger issues and the growl is the sign that he's about the lose it. You'll get a few growls, then he snaps. Can be over one day or over a few, but eventually he has an anger meltdown.
Maybe she has some kind of anger issues - the growling seems to suggest it.

This is all just so bizarre. Like, you've dared to stand up to her and say no to something, and you've pointed out that she was being unreasonable so now you're the target of her anger.

She could snap and direct some awful things at you so I hope you're being careful.

i really dont understand what this woman wants from you OP! It must be horrible. I get anxious in my stomach for you every thursday night to be honest so God knows how you feel walking into that room.