Softzilla returns..... to soft play

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

Probably will be a boring thread as i mainly intend to continue just ignoring and refusing to be drawn in to any games but...

Guess where I went today? And who I bumped into there? (I really need to find another place to hang out with people! )
Well she was there when I turned up with party mum. We greeted her with a surprised slightly awkward 'oh... hi!' which she returned, but then sat at a different table.
Later in the afternoon when I'd got home she called and i picked up without thinking. She said she wanted to chat and make it so that we could start going to our usual group again - she seemed to be under the impression that I was no longer going. And asked if she could come over right then. I said no sorry as it was time for dinner/ bath/ bed etc for my dc. I also told her that I was still attending the group and that she didn't need to worry about attending, I joked that it's big enough for both of us..... and she put the phone down. I wondered if it was a mistake but she never called back if it was and I don't want to call her.

I went. And so did she.
The group leader was with me at the time she walked in and immediately checked I was ok then went over to her and had a chat then accompanied her to sit with some friends away from me.
Softzilla didn't approach me once. She did however sit there staring at me the whole time. To the point that others noticed. I turned so my back was to her and was told that she was still staring. She then left early.
Hoping it will be all boring from here and she will just loosen up and we can politely ignore each other from now on.

@Unreasonableunreasonableness I’m really glad she didn’t kick off again! Hopefully she’s realised she’s shown herself right up and will wind her neck in!

She's clearly backing off a bit, at least for now. What a weirdo though, staring at you.

Hope it's under control and she will gradually lose interest.

It sounds like lots of people have got your back and are happy to support you.

Well, I'm glad her kid didn't have an accident while she was staring at you busy with more important things.

If other people have noticed that she's staring, then her high moral ground is crumbling.

• staring at you

Fingers crossed this is the trickling end to this. She can’t do that every week.

She’s only hurting herself now.

Glad it was relatively stress-free (though being stared at can be a bit unsettling.) As PP said, let's hope this is pretty much the end.

Though I wouldn't be entirely surprised if there aren't a few texts or phone calls...

That sounds really uncomfortable. At least others can see it’s not you instigating it and you are trying to ignore it.

Is Softzilla related to Titzilla?!

She is showing more and more that she is the one with the problem OP. I am surprised there are other women who sit with her to be honest

She sounds nuts! Staring at you is weird and creepy

O boy that's realy unnerving.

She sounds like she's completely lost the plot over this, and seriously lacks boundaries.

I would continue to stay well clear.

she sat staring at you the whole time?

With everything she's done so far, she really does sounds unhinged.

The psychopathic gaze.

She was sitting and staring at you? So creepy and verging into "unhinged" territory.

Yes. Sitting and staring. Tho watching might be more accurate? She was talking back to her friends and obviously when her daughter came over she dealt with her needs, took her to the loo etc. But even while chatting to her friends her eyes were on me.

I’m sure she’s making her friends feel very uncomfortable too. They must think she’s lost it, but on the plus side, her pathetic attempt to Wendy you has back fired.

That must have been very difficult but three cheers to you for carrying on whilst her eyes were boring into your back!! Unbelievable. Hope she realises its not worth it soon and moves on. I;m glad you had some friends there to support you.

I think, all joking apart, that you need to log all this. She does seem to be overly focused on you.

Yes to logging it all. She sounds obsessive and unpleasant.

She really has taken this too far, you would think she would want to just move on and forget it. She's clearly nuts! X

OP I've been in a situation that was similar in some ways recently following a very mild difference of opinion with someone over how the group should be run. Having tried to get everyone to see her as a victim and failing miserably, she stepped things up and made some vile malicious allegations against me. I was lucky in that witnesses to the situations she twisted out of all recognition were happy to state the truth but it still felt utterly vile. I ended up leaving the group anyway simply to protect myself from any further allegations. It's impossible to guarantee you won't end up in a room alone with someone and then they can make up anything they like. It wasn't worth the risk.

Please make sure that you don't ever end up in any situation where you are on your own with this woman or her child. She is clearly consumed by her hatred of you and her desire to make herself into your victim.

You are not dealing with someone who can be reasoned with. Her obsession with you must surely be noticed by her friends and the others so why aren't they telling her firmly to stop with the stupidity? How toecurlingly uncomfortable for you .

She really sounds like she has lost the plot.😨