To think she's too old for this?

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My MIL is 66, and I just don’t think shes dressing for her age. She has this obsession of staying “young”, hates being called gran and told my DC off for calling her that. She thinks gran is “too old” and wants to be called Nan instead. She wears really short dresses during the summer and at Christmas parties, the dresses literally just cover her bum and if she bends over you will be able to see it, not only that but her boobs are hanging out. Today she came round in black leggings/tights (I could see her knickers, they were like blackish see through) a pink hoodie with holes and brown ugg boots.

AIBU to think she should just embrace her age and be happy? I’ve met her younger sister, couple years younger than MIL and they’re worlds apart.

I shudder. I’m 62 and wouldn‘t be seen dead in such sexualised clothing as your MIL wears, except maybe tp do the housework behind closed doors. It suggests the wearer is still of reproductive age, which clearly she isn‘t. No wonder it makes you wince.

Also having her arse hang out is minging as they say. Wearing clothes that are fun is fine, who wants to dress ‘their age’, but not ones that don’t fit, are see through and have holes in, there’s such a thing as self respect.

Why would those clothes be any better or worse on a younger woman? Of course you're being unreasonable.

I don't understand people who want to cause problems with their inlaws. Be glad you don't have real reasons to complain about her

“It suggests the wearer is still of reproductive age, which clearly she isn‘t.”

Blimey. Can’t believe I just read that!

Lend her a pair of your judgey pants to cover up with.

It suggests the wearer is still of reproductive age, which clearly she isn‘t. No wonder it makes you wince

Did you mean to suggest that women should dress to appeal to men? Because I’ve never done that. I wear what I feel comfortable in. Not to find a man.

Smudge did you really write that or did you copy it from Ladies Home Journal 1951

Smudge, did you know that women have a life outside of being a factory to build babies in?

Don't be rude OP. Leave her be.

Do you have to wear a certain type of clothing if you are of reproductive age?
Nan is common?
It may mean she's poor if she is wearing hoodies with holes in? (even though they are trendy and she teams them with uggs)

Some weird thoughts on this thread today.

And whoever said they hadn't heard of Monki go there its great

I love monki. They always seem to have nice things on sale for £6.

I don’t get what the problem is. Lol. She’s dressing up how she wants to dress up. I wouldn’t want anyone to tell me how to dress, now or several decades later when I’m your MIL’s age. Heck, my own mom dresses up in what’s currently trendy right now - last year she was all about embroidered bomber jackets, embroidered denims, platform Converse sneakers. I even bought her some of those because I knew she’d like them!

platform Converse sneakers.

Love these. I also have a pair of secret wedge golddigga boots (look a bit like DMs) in turquoise with different coloured lips all over them, and a lovely pair of Vans with Princess Peach on them which my daughter bought me.

@bunnyfuller that's the funniest thing I've ever read in a comment!

"...Judgey pants to cover up.."

i wish that there were laughing until tears emojis on mn!

'Nan' is a little bit downmarket since it shares connotations with 'nanny' and paid employment.

Nan and Nanny are the most downmarket of names for a Grandmother!

Hold your fire and let her go her own sweet way - eventually she'll encounter someone far less diplomatic than you who will probably openly laugh at her and/or point out that she's 'Mutton Dressed As Lamb'........it's a cruel world.

Fair play to her I say, she’s harming no one

It is up to her, it's a question of taste I suppose.

I was thinking recently, how fashions change over the decades and centuries. The perception of an old lady with a short, grey perm and over the knee skirt, is changing. This generation of grans will be in jeans and have bobbed hair and look great. I'm generalising but you know what I mean.

I am stunned someone up thread thinks hoodies, see through leggings and uggs are trendy.

Yup. Women are not issued with beige anoraks and bubble perms at 60 any more.

Stop judging how she dresses and appreciate who she is. My mum was wild and now that I am older (49), I absolutely appreciate who she was and is. The stories I can tell that at the time were so embarrassing. Now, I am teaching my children to have fun and love life. I ride a scooter, roller blade, ride a bike, climb and dance. Istarted to learn piano and you cannot believe how many comments I get about being older and how it is more difficult for us 'oldies'. I have had people comment on my activities but who gives a F*. Embrace it and love life....Cringe on the inside, if you must, but if she feels good let her.

Each to their own. My mum is a Nan for the same reason. She’s 68 but dresses for her age. Sometimes I wish she’d wear jeans but she’s a larger lady.

On the other hand I’m 41 and my mum thinks I sometimes dress too young. Jeans and TShirt!! Lol. And she’s adamant my waist length hair should now be cropped short. Drives me mad. I’ll dress how I want!!

I don't think see through leggings and Uggs are trendy, but hoodies with holes are and most definitely doesn't mean you are poor.

@Ryder63 I frumped out in my late 40s thinking I was 'too old' THANK YOU - I am late 40’s & have been nearly doing the same - but just not felt comfortable in grown up clothes (eg smart slacks) though You have given me the talking to I needed.

My MIL told me I ‘dressed immaturely’ when I was 25 (by that she meant too casually - I do wear short skirts and did then, but always teamed with thick black tights - or leggings these days).