To think she's too old for this?

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My MIL is 66, and I just don’t think shes dressing for her age. She has this obsession of staying “young”, hates being called gran and told my DC off for calling her that. She thinks gran is “too old” and wants to be called Nan instead. She wears really short dresses during the summer and at Christmas parties, the dresses literally just cover her bum and if she bends over you will be able to see it, not only that but her boobs are hanging out. Today she came round in black leggings/tights (I could see her knickers, they were like blackish see through) a pink hoodie with holes and brown ugg boots.

AIBU to think she should just embrace her age and be happy? I’ve met her younger sister, couple years younger than MIL and they’re worlds apart.

So funny, sorry! Does she wear thongs! 😂

Haha, no wonder the brits fashion sense is considered so crap.

I'm older than her and I keep my saggy bits covered as they aint that pretty. Apart from that I wear what I want.

Sounds her dress sense is non existent. Is she really short of money and can't replace really worn items eg top with holes. I do know what you mean about the leggings tights being see through. I see this quite often but mainly on young folk are fat and the material is obviously stretched far too thinly. Or they perhaps buy a size too small. Yes your Mail can wear what she wants, it's up to her it is a pity though she is hell bent on pretending she is still a teenager.

Jeus I doubt you would be much on my style either as it is a mix of boho vintage with alot of colour.

I don't wear short dresses but I sure don't dress my age whatever my age style is. I am a young looking 56 old with nice tattoos, long coloured hair (not loud) though bright.

I wear leggings and boots as well. I am not going to have anyone saying "what a sweet older lady" I want them to be saying "oh sh*t what's she doing now" which they do now.

Oh and my grandchildren call me Granna as I chose

Leave her alone please and let her be her.

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Please. For the love of god stop taking down other women, she can wear whatever the hell she wants.

YABU, why can't she wear what she wants? I plan to be like Annie Nightingale in my retirement - it hasn't done her any harm!

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Lets NOT wait until we are old, why not now!

I came to mention Baddie Winkle. But I see @NurseButtercup is ahead of me.

Here she is with Lunch Money Lewis in Ain't Too Cool:

She is brilliant. This is how I want to grow old.

I like to be called Grandma...it’s what I am and I love it xx

Hmmm, I can see where op is coming from and quite frankly couldn't give a flying fuck what your views of me are either.

It's embarrassing and cringy when older people dress like teens, fact is you've missed the boat so sit back and sail off to the sunset.

My opticians assistant dresses like this and it's hugely embarrassing. Just coz I'm stuck in the chair doesn't give anyone the right to parade infront with clothes that are clearly 2 sizes too small, tits falling out and a hem height that's virtually upto her knickers, for gawd sake she's just passed retirement age and must just assume everyone wants to look at her. Sorry, but NO!
I'd rather dig my eyes out with a fork!
After 20yrs, I changed my opticians, got sick to the back teeth of her,

Silly old sod.

There's a gulf of difference between dressing in beige and dressing like a rundown brothel owner.
Surely it's possible to show a little self respect.

I’ll probably be dressing like her when I’m that age - except the arse covering (or rather lack thereof).... I’ll definitely be covering my arse lol.

I always think of Catherine Tate when I hear 'nan'. I'm planning on Gran'ma. Like in the Waltons.

My mum is similar, she’s not too bad in winter, will wear jeans but in the summer out come her summer dresses which are really short, she even has a few leopard print items

I would never say anything to her, I cringe inside but if she’s happy then I don’t see a problem, luckily I don’t go out in public with her very often.

mrcharlie I agree entirely with

There's a gulf of difference between dressing in beige and dressing like a rundown brothel owner.

I think OP would have done better to say she doesn't like to see bumcheeks or nipples on anyone off the beach. I don't - nor bumcracks or naked potbellies or moobs off the beach.

And there is a difference between dressing sexily/elegantly at any age, and showing your arse and tits. Baddie and the US icon are great fun and stylish ... even in short skirts (Baddie) and swimsuits they're not showing nipples and bumcheeks.

So I don't think OP is wrong to take exception - that's her taste. She'd be wrong to let it show and was clearly wrong to post.

Nan doesn't sound younger, just a bit common.

I really can’t get worked up about how other people dress. Is this really a thing among adults? Don’t you have more serious things to concern yourself with OP?

OP please post some photos of yourself so we can judge how you dress. Two or three outfits will be fine.

Sounds cool but her daughter sounds uptight

I would let her get on with it, but I wouldn't hand out compliments just to fawn. I'd say nothing. Each to their own style.

I'm 48 and a woman of 27 recently showed me all of her favourite dresses and I thought they were all disgusting but I said ''oooooo!'' even though they looked a bit quinceanera and then I showed her the classy fitted classic dresses I liked and she said ''omg yuuuuuck'' so it's funny. Different horses different courses.

I think people can wear what they like regardless of what people think or how embarrassing others find it.
Unless their pubes are sticking through their leggings (Yes I've witnessed that) coz that's just nasty 😝

Whatever floats her boat. My 78 year fil says hes middle aged. This is not a battle to fight

This has made me laugh. What do you wear and why do you think you're superior to her? She might very well be looking at you thinking you're the most boring dresser in the world...

Not up to you, but she sounds embarrassing. Especially having her boobs hanging out. Obviously she’s letting her GC call her nan so that’s fine. She’s your MIL rather than DM so don’t say anything.