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To think she's too old for this?

204 replies

Cheeseboard89 · 23/04/2018 19:33

My MIL is 66, and I just don’t think shes dressing for her age. She has this obsession of staying “young”, hates being called gran and told my DC off for calling her that. She thinks gran is “too old” and wants to be called Nan instead. She wears really short dresses during the summer and at Christmas parties, the dresses literally just cover her bum and if she bends over you will be able to see it, not only that but her boobs are hanging out. Today she came round in black leggings/tights (I could see her knickers, they were like blackish see through) a pink hoodie with holes and brown ugg boots.

AIBU to think she should just embrace her age and be happy? I’ve met her younger sister, couple years younger than MIL and they’re worlds apart.

OP posts:
Skarossinkplunger · 23/04/2018 20:11

Jesus Christ op mind your own business and stop being so judgey. How would you feel your DH was posting some such nasty nonsense about your mother?

FuzzyCustard · 23/04/2018 20:12

I'm not having an opinion on this because it is none of my business. As it is none of yours either OP.

supersop60 · 23/04/2018 20:13

OP - when you get to 66, post on here and tell us how you feel.

You want our opinions - I say let her be. She's happy.
At what age is it compulsory to bring out the beige and the zip up slippers and the plastic rain hats?

Ryder63 · 23/04/2018 20:13

60s here - nothing see through, or short without leggings/jeggings/ skinny jeans under it - but otherwise I wear pretty much the same as my 3 DD.
I frumped out in my late 40s thinking I was 'too old' to be wearing what I actually wanted to. My youngest DD said "where the fuck have you gone? Sort yourself out" - and took me shopping for the stuff I used to wear. She'd rather I dressed as who I am inside, and that is not a polyester slacks and beige anorak wearing granny Grin

Wdigin2this · 23/04/2018 20:13

Well I'm of a similar age, and whilst I wouldn't wear really short clothes, I don't want to look like a frump either, so I adapt fashions to suit me. Nobody wants to look like a OAP, eve when we areM

RLOU88 · 23/04/2018 20:15

My mum will be called nan too when my little one arrives. She looks better than me in leggings but even if she didn’t I wouldn’t give a hoot. How would you feel if your partner was posting the same about your mum?

TwitterQueen1 · 23/04/2018 20:16

Perhaps you could tell us what a 66 year-old should be wearing - according to your rules - and what you wear, and how old you are... oh and it would be helpful if you could tell me what to wear when I reach the grand old age of 60? Colours, footwear, length of skirts, tops etc. Because you're the clothes boss of all of us.. Hmm

mimibunz · 23/04/2018 20:16

She probably does look at state, but aging is difficult enough without not being able to wear what you want. Not all women want to dress like Mary Berry! Grin

NutElla5x · 23/04/2018 20:19

My mum is a lot older than your MIL and all 9 of her grandchildren call her nan or nanny because that's their/our choice,and I happen to think it's less formal and more friendly than gran.As for what your MIL wears why should it bother you? Maybe she doesn't particularly like what you wear. Would you change for her if that was the case?

Liara · 23/04/2018 20:20

I think she's just the right age to wear what the fuck she wants.

As is everyone else.

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AnnieAnoniMouser · 23/04/2018 20:21

Why did you open an account or name change for this thread?

isseywithcats. I was just going to say I was impressed with you having the patience to post on MN at 81 😊. My Aunty is in her 80’s, she’s incredibly lovely, but she’d have no time for the handwringing on MN 🤣

One day the OP will be in her 60’s, I hope she asks her DIL if she approves of her clothing...

Penfold007 · 23/04/2018 20:22

What a nasty, judgemental OP. I presume you are perfect?

GummyGoddess · 23/04/2018 20:22

Leave her to it, it doesn't matter what she wears unless she's actually flashing you. I might privately think it's not flattering but I'd never say anything like that out loud.

Tapasandwine · 23/04/2018 20:23

She can wear what she is wants at whatever age she wants. It’s no ones business.

Littlelondoner · 23/04/2018 20:25

Is it oneof those purposely holey hoodies all the kids are wearing or a ripped scruffy holey hoodie....this makes a differance

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Cheeseboard89 · 23/04/2018 20:26

Yes Annie one day I will be in my 60s and I can promise you, I won't be wearing short dresses that show my bum cheeks!

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CheeseyToast · 23/04/2018 20:27

This thread is really making me laugh. Your mil should have her own show.

Smeddum · 23/04/2018 20:27

@Cheeseboard89 and that will be entirely up to you. Just as the way your MIL dresses is entirely up to her.

sherrybaby11 · 23/04/2018 20:28

Let her be herself as long as she's not hurting anybody.

For what It's worth, I think the 'nan/gran' thing is personal. To me, 'Nan' is much older than 'Gran'!

I'm in my thirties but still like my little skirts, tight tops etc when I go out. But I pay my bills and look after what I'm responsible for, doesn't matter.

Original poster
Cheeseboard89 · 23/04/2018 20:28

She was wearing a pink purposely holey hoodie Littlelondoner. We've all seen them

OP posts:
TheJoyOfSox · 23/04/2018 20:30

She’s an adult, what she wears is her choice. It’s no skin off your nose, so leave her be.

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Cheeseboard89 · 23/04/2018 20:32

She reminds me of an older Rose in keeping up appearances.

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Rachie1973 · 23/04/2018 20:37

Cheeseboard89
She reminds me of an older Rose in keeping up appearances.

Funny cuz you remind me of Hyacinth. Uptight and a bit mean!

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