To think she's too old for this?

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My MIL is 66, and I just don’t think shes dressing for her age. She has this obsession of staying “young”, hates being called gran and told my DC off for calling her that. She thinks gran is “too old” and wants to be called Nan instead. She wears really short dresses during the summer and at Christmas parties, the dresses literally just cover her bum and if she bends over you will be able to see it, not only that but her boobs are hanging out. Today she came round in black leggings/tights (I could see her knickers, they were like blackish see through) a pink hoodie with holes and brown ugg boots.

AIBU to think she should just embrace her age and be happy? I’ve met her younger sister, couple years younger than MIL and they’re worlds apart.

I never dressed like that no matter how young I was. I don't think this is a question of age but rather a question of taste.

I think there's a bit of fibbing going on here from pp's. I bet most of us would be concerned to have a mil showing her knickers and boobs. It's embarrassing for dgc for a start! YANBU OP, but I don't know what the answer is. What does dh think?

OP, I'm over sixty, but haven't a clue about what to wear that appropriate for my age, could you please tell me?

I'm a gran and I wear what I want, I will not dress to please other people. She sounds a bit OTT but at the end of the day if she's happy then leave her be. You don't have to like what she wears, just as she doesn't have to like what you wear.

She thinks gran is “too old” and wants to be called Nan instead Funny because to me Nan is older than Gran.

My uncle said similar and refused to be Gramps as his family suggested. He's now known as "Grumps" to all.

You don't like your MIL very much, do you OP?

Ten years or so I'd probably have agreed with you. But the older I get the more I realise it's bloody hard to embrace the ageing process - she's probably having a difficult time with it. Cut her some slack.

Having fun stoking the fires much OP?

This is her issue - not anyone else's . We can all wear what we like - which is rather nice

Just let her get on with it. It's really none of your business how she dresses even if you don't approve.

Distance, where does OP say she doesn't like MIL? Or was that just a goady assumption?

as i said im 61 and this is how i dress most weekends and so do my friends in their 50s and 60s

these are two of my friends not me as i havent got any pics of myself at bike rallies

Bloody hell!

I'm not saying she should be dressing like Mrs Brown just because she's over 60s. She can wear what the fuck she wants, I'm just saying I could do without seeing her arse every time she bends down to pick up something. Like another PP said, I doubt some of you would be saying what you're saying now if she was your MIL!

And how the fuck do you know if I've just joined or name changed? Annie

Typical AIBU:

OP: AIBU?

Everyone else: yes!

OP: no I’m fucking not!

Smeddum 😂😂😂*
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I just feel like some posters misunderstood me

She can wear what the fuck she wants .

Yes, yes she can. Just because she's not wearing the beige uniform of the elderly doesn't make her less of a person. If you're genuinely concerned that she is dressing in a way that may cause issues then have a bloody word with her, in a non-judgemental, caring way!! Isn't it bloody obvious?

I hope when I'm in my 60s no one will judge what I wear and I can just be whoever the fuck I want.

Uggs, leggings and a hoodie sounds like a typical slouchy comfy outfit, not particularly fashionable but that's probably not the desired look. Let her do what she wants, she's a grown woman.

If I wore a skirt/dress that my beloved Nan thought was too short she would always say 'Don't bend over in that everyone will be able to see what you had for dinner' Maybe a similar light hearted comment would help if your MIL is really showing her arse

YABU.
I know a woman 24 years older than me, and we dress pretty much the same. Most of the time she pulls it off better!

Age shouldn't define how you dress. I know I sure as hell won't be throwing out all of my clothes and shopping exclusively in Bon Marche the day I turn 50. Let it go and let her be herself!

Yeah I'd leave her to it if she's happy!

It's all a matter of taste. You can't see her actual bumhole!

And how the fuck do you know if I've just joined or name changed? Annie

What a daft question.

AIBU to think she should just embrace her age and be happy?

Seems like she is OP

If it makes her happy, where's the harm?

Iris rocks!

My DM is in her 70s and is the trendiest 'older' person that I know. She has always been very stylish and has dressed younger than her years, but can do it in such a way that it looks good on her for her age, and helps to keep her young.

Nothing wrong with it at all, IMHO. I reckon I'll be doing the same when I'm 60 or 70-something... . My DM also prefers to be called grandma as she thinks that 'Nan' or 'Gran' make someone sound ancient but I guess it is all down to personal taste and preference...