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To think it’s just so unfair? *MNHQ trigger warning*

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WoodysRoundup · 23/04/2018 14:27

I’m basically on suspension from work whilst there’s an investigation as I was raped by a colleague and informed the managers.

But I’m on a zero hour contract with no time line of how long this will last, whether we’ll both be let go, or anything. I’m not working so I can’t get paid and I’m so frustrated that I can’t do my job and earn money like I’m the one in the wrong.

I’m sorry everyone I just needed to rant

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Smeddum · 23/04/2018 15:42

However, it would have been so much easier had you reported this to the police

I’ve read the other threads and the people who are pushing OP to go to the police are out of order. Especially the ones who said she had to, to stop it happening to someone else. It is not OPs responsibility to predict his actions, and it’s not up to any of us to tell her what to do.

DrTorres · 23/04/2018 15:45

Suspension isn’t punitive. It’s probably the only way they can carry out a fair investigation.

Shit for you on zero hours though

Queenoftheblitz · 23/04/2018 15:49

You should contact the dwp and see if you're entitled to jsa.

OP isn't seeking jobs though confused.

JSA isn't that cut and dried. You can claim it if you're working part time for example. I don't know for sure op can claim but the fact is she isn't working thru no fault of her own.

Pengggwn · 23/04/2018 15:50

I'm absolutely not telling you to go to the police (that is your choice and no one else's), but, given you have chosen not to, I'm not sure how else work can deal with this. They can't deal with it as a criminal matter (because they are not the police) so they have to follow misconduct procedures, which means an investigation where both parties in the alleged incident are treated in the same way. I think they are doing the only thing they can do. And I say that with all sympathy.

Smeddum · 23/04/2018 15:51

Suspension isn’t punitive

Loss of wages is though, surely they could have framed it as holiday with full pay or something? (I don’t know legally I’m just coming from a moral standpoint rather than a legal one)

Pengggwn · 23/04/2018 15:54

Smeddum

But they can't approach it from a moral standpoint, can they? This will have legal ramifications for them as a company. They have to follow protocol.

moofolk · 23/04/2018 15:54

Wow that's awful OP.
Women just can't win, can we?

Thanks
DrTorres · 23/04/2018 15:54

It is quite legal to suspend without pay but tbh any decent employer in this situation would pay. But most decent employees don’t use zero hours contracts so...

Smeddum · 23/04/2018 15:55

@Pengggwn I know you’re right, it just makes me very sad that a woman can be raped and then have to face financial hardship on top of everything else.

DrTorres · 23/04/2018 15:55

I think that if they are investigating though they can’t be seen to be taking sides. So they’d need to pay both of them or neither of them

Smeddum · 23/04/2018 15:56

I guess this just serves to further show the shitshow of zero hour contracts.

ButchyRestingFace · 23/04/2018 15:57

Totally disincentivizes anyone on zero hour contracts from reporting a crime to their employers if this is the fallout.

But perhaps that’s the point.

Tartanscarf · 23/04/2018 15:57

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Smeddum · 23/04/2018 16:05

Then both should be on full pay imo. I’d rather he got paid than OP be suffering.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 23/04/2018 16:05

I imagine the employers are in a difficult position. The op has for her own reasons decided not to go to the police. That is totally her right and hers and hers alone decision to make. However that makes it very difficult for the employer because it is essentially her word against his. Also and I genuinely do not know the answer to this, even if he admitted it can they fire him if he is not charged. Especially if it wasn't at work during work time.

Smeddum · 23/04/2018 16:05

Although I realise with zero hour contracts that was never going to happen.

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WoodysRoundup · 23/04/2018 16:21

So I’ve just asked them what my position is. And it’s ‘suspended as there is an on going investigation’. Surely it should be leave oa something. The word suspended is making me feel like I’m being punished

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Smeddum · 23/04/2018 16:23

It’s an inflammatory word, I’d mention that when you speak to a solicitor/lawyer.

Tartanscarf · 23/04/2018 16:24

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 23/04/2018 16:25

It is an inflammatory word, as it indicates some sort of alleged wrong doing. It would be more appropriate to say unpaid leave.

Tartanscarf · 23/04/2018 16:26

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Penfold007 · 23/04/2018 16:28

Did you ever report the incident to the police? I'm sorry your ging thrugh such an awful time.

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WoodysRoundup · 23/04/2018 16:29

His story has changed repeatedly. At first he did not remember then he said he had sex with me so admitted the sex. He was on drugs at the time. So his changing story doesn’t exactly prove reliable.

I’m so frustrated as I’m not supposed to go to work so can’t seek comfort from friends (we’re all extremely close) and my guys
Uncle has just had a heart attack today so he’s dealing with that and I feel like shit

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