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To think it’s just so unfair? *MNHQ trigger warning*

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WoodysRoundup · 23/04/2018 14:27

I’m basically on suspension from work whilst there’s an investigation as I was raped by a colleague and informed the managers.

But I’m on a zero hour contract with no time line of how long this will last, whether we’ll both be let go, or anything. I’m not working so I can’t get paid and I’m so frustrated that I can’t do my job and earn money like I’m the one in the wrong.

I’m sorry everyone I just needed to rant

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Tartanscarf · 25/04/2018 12:09

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TatianaLarina · 25/04/2018 13:17

Until very recently the general policy was that the police should believe rape victims - altho in practice that didn’t necessarily happen - that was the principle.

These guidelines evolved in response to the perception that police had not been sympathetic or objective enough to victims, had a tendency to disbelieve them outright, particularly wrt high profile cases such as Worboys which the police fucked up by not believing the victims, and Saville, Hall, Rolf Harris etc. where it transpired that people hadn’t reported for fear of not being believed and where they had, police hadn’t properly investigated.

Earlier this month, Cressida Dick signalled a move away from this stance, announcing “it isn’t all about victims” She said the police’s job is “to be fair and impartial”which is true and un-controversial. She is also reported to have said:

“And what might be a misunderstanding between two people, clumsy behaviour between somebody who fancies somebody else, is not a matter for the police”

Which, if true, is potentially more controversial. Either way it implies a shift in policy.

Joan Smith, co-chair of violence against women panel, made this response in the Telegraph:

Everyone knows that insurance fraud exists, but people reporting a stolen car have never faced the scepticism - and outright disbelief - which all too often confronted women who said they had been raped (and deterred others from going to the police at all).

Despite causing an outcry in some quarters, the Met's 'I believe you' policy - adopted in 2011 - simply placed rape complainants on the same footing as anyone else walking into a police station. It put right a long-standing injustice and had the support of senior officers.

The policy never implied that allegations wouldn't be investigated, and dismissed if officers found reasons to doubt the complainant's account. But it did mean that some women who wouldn't have had the confidence to report a rape in the past now felt able to go to the police. Its success can be judged by crime statistics, which show a 19 per cent increase in rape reports to the Metropolitan Police last year

www.telegraph.co.uk/women/life/police-have-duty-believe-rape-victims-have-learnt-nothing/

Missingstreetlife · 25/04/2018 17:54

You can join a union when you need help, that's how a lot of people join. Obviously better to join before for lots of reasons, but they won't refuse you.

Missingstreetlife · 25/04/2018 17:57

It's sensible for police to believe the victim but keep an open mind, otherwise they are not in right attitude to investigate properly. They should gather all evidence to test their hypothesis and decide whether to prosecute at the end.

ZX81user · 25/04/2018 18:44

I think police should be unbiased and not believe one side or the other but keep an open mind and try to uncover the truth, or at least as much evidence as possible.

Olympiathequeen · 25/04/2018 18:55

I would look for another job. These things can take forever. I think you would feel better with a new start

Missingstreetlife · 25/04/2018 19:45

Contact acas for advice about constructive dismissal

TittyGolightly · 25/04/2018 20:05

Need 2 years service for a constructive dismissal claim. And this one would fail anyway.

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