To choose not go for smear test.

[TrudeauGirl]

I feel bad posting on this site as I'm not a mother but I have been a long time reader of this website and you all seem like really kind people and I would value your kind advice on this subject.

I am in my 20's and have never had sex through personal choice. I consider myself gay but have always been nervous about the thought of doing anything with anyone.

Which brings us to the smear test, I have been for an appointment and did not manage to get through it. I ended up in tears and the nurse was so lovely to me about it, but I felt so embarrassed as I found it too scary and painful.

I know as a virgin my risk is lower but would it be unreasonable of me to not go again, it would it be better for me to talk to a doctor about my fears?

Sorry for long post and thankyou in advance for any advice

@nursy1 - excellent explanation, thank you.

OP a few stats here...according to cancer research UK a woman's lifetime risk of cervical cancer is 0.65%. Less than 1%. As 99% of cervical cancer is caused by the HPV VIRUS which is sexual lying transmitted and your a Virgin You can see how minimal your risk is. The old test for abnormal cells doesn't pick up all the non hpv type cancers like the adenocarcinoma that killed Jade Goody. Should you wish to test for hpv in the future you can order a self test kit online which you caneed do at home.
Can I also say I really don't think it's respectful to tell someone to just suck it up grow up and have a smear? Not everyone is comfortable and happy to have this test. You may find it a piece of cake. Others don't.