Dh ordering medication online

[meadowposy]

I've found out about it because he's doing it through my name.

I don't know what to think about it and I'm asking here... Are these sites always dodgy? I can't talk to him about it as he tells me to be quiet and I don't know what I am talking about.

Meadow how are you feeling today?

You're not backing him into a corner. His addiction is his, and his only. He will only ever be in a position to kick it when he is ready and totally committed to doing so.

No one can help an addict until they are ready and committed to accepting help.

You cannot help, you need to protect DC first.

Your DC need to take priority.

Your DH will only be able to make steps to kick the addiction when he admits he has a problem and needs help. Your prevaricating, "giving chances" and turning a blind eye to his buying drugs in your name is not helping him at all.

I repeat it is putting you and your children at real risk. On paper Mummy is a junkie. She buys huge quantities of drugs off the internet and pays for them with her credit card. If you do nothing else today, cancel that card.

Reported

It's a good idea to use help to wean off of codeine tramadol fentanyl etc.
I have always been weaned off and used diazepam to help with withdrawal but it's truly awful and you feel so so so ill when you try to stop.
I didn't know I needed to be weaned off of Tramadol and I was restless for at least 6 months afterwards. I thought I was dying
At lot of comments on here are right but do sound very harsh. Unless anyone has experienced the actual addiction themselves (which is an illness in itself) I really don't think comments about leaving him are helpful.
I was addicted to so many medications all of which were prescribed and taken as prescribed :
I had a really really hard time getting diazepam for my withdrawal and in the end I had to use it which was prescribed for back pain for when I needed to come off of meds
Insane

'He says it's turned him gay and he was a red blooded male before.'

Here's a little newsflash for your ignorant comment: homosexual men are still red blooded males and there's no medication known to humankind that can alter one's sexual orientation.

It's not my ignorant comment. I said what HE said.

He's right. I took pregabalin for years and I love the cock!

Yearof and Crochet - please don't derail what has been an informative and heart wrenching thread. some of the stories on here from people who have been drug addicts or the children of drug addicts are just pitiful really and this isn't the place for light hearted homophobic comments.

all you will succeed in doing is getting this thread deleted when it actually contains information that some people really need to hear and make use of. In light of this you could ask for your comments to be hidden.

So there you go, all you epileptics, the side effect your doctor never told you about: your medication is going to turn you gay and may also alter the colour of your blood. Shocking, indeed.

If people want my comment deleted they can ask.

I thought it may have been of interest to the OP.. If not, no big deal.

Good luck meadowposy.

that should read light hearted or homophobic comments.

because homophobia is never lighthearted its horrible.

But your DH isn't using it to come off anything, because he hasn't stopped anything - just added more into the mix.

the yearofyouremember story is in the dailymail

This is in the mail?

In think what quartz is saying is that the story someone mentioned upthread regarding a gay man is in the mail.

Meadow I'm sure that you are worried about this thread identifying you but I don't think you have given any identifying facts which is a good thing.

no the story that yearofyouremember tells about pregablin is and turning gay

Oh thank you

I think it is potentially quite identifying actually, to anyone who knows you as a family. In your shoes I would get it deleted, OP. I suspect you've had the best of the advice from it now anyway.

I disagree. The thread may prove useful
to Meadow over over the coming days and weeks.

She has given few specific details.

meadow might not be willing or able to take the good advice given on this thread but I feel certain that there are other people reading this and that this may have had a positive impact on their lives.

It would be a shame to see a thread that has so much information on addiction and the current drugs of choice go. I don't think many details have been given at all.

Please people- don't start listing any details given or assumed over the course of this thread.....

No need to put the scant detail all together or add supposition.

whilst I agree OP should definitely get out of the situation with an addict to prescription drugs I do wish people wouldn't claim as fact such as SS will take her children - they won't.

My sister was addicted to opiates - she went to her GP who initiated a withdrawal programme. At no point was she treat like a heroin user.

OP's husband taking legal drugs won't be treat any different and SS certainly won't be interested. Stop dramatising it.

OP I wish you well and hope you've taken some posts from here that will help xx

Tiddie you are categorically wrong. I'm glad your sister got help and that her Dc stayed with her. However every situation is different and there is a very real possibility that SS would see this situation as one where the children should be removed.

I'm not going to enter into an argument about this. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, let's leave it at that.

I wouldn't think anyone would argue that both OP and DC deserve better than all this and need to get out of the situation.

@tiddliewinkiewoo
I do agree regarding the drug use - SS do try and keep families together and support them.

However, if they don't get support and this escalates they could end up convicted of drugs related charges including supplying and goodness knows what else with the fraud and potential for her DH to take drastic action to sustain his supply.

And it's the criminal activity causing a possible short prison term that may prevent OP seeing her children. Even a couple of weeks away is too much when there is so much support out there.