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To wonder where the hell he is?

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TheHeightSupremacist · 14/04/2018 20:59

Been seeing someone for a couple of months, at least twice a week but it’s been nearly every day over the past couple of weeks. He has been really into me, cooked for me, taken me away numerous times and said the l word very early on.

We had plans to go to his friends birthday tonight, spoke to him earlier and everything was fine. Text later to let him know what time I would be over, not read and no reply, we are now 2 and a half hours after we were supposed to meet and I haven’t heard from him since 3.30pm. No messages read, no answer to my calls. Getting a bit concerned, where could he be?!

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mummyrabbitpeppapig · 14/04/2018 22:50

Any news?

SlightlyJaded · 14/04/2018 22:51

Do you know anyone who has a key. I think I'd pop back round to check his flat/house again at this point.

bumbleymummy · 14/04/2018 22:53

I would be worried too. I hope you hear from him soon.

AngelL7 · 14/04/2018 22:53

Do you know his parents or family ?

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TheHeightSupremacist · 14/04/2018 22:54

I’ve met his mum a couple of times, drove past her house to see if her car was there incase he was in hospital but her car was there and all the lights were off. Don’t feel like I can wake her up as I don’t really know her that well. Tried at his one last time but just a very disgruntled looking cat coming to the door...... tried the hospital but no one admitted with his name.

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Borderterrierpuppy · 14/04/2018 22:55

Hope he appears soon, do you have keys?

SirVixofVixHall · 14/04/2018 22:56

I suppose you don’t have much choice but to wait until the morning, and hope he gets in touch. Hopefully you will hear from him before then.

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HyenaHappy · 14/04/2018 22:56

Hope he turns up OP.

This 🧐 emoji upthread has totally tickled me though. Giggling like a plonker.

In all seriousness though, I hope he’s okay.

ALemonyPea · 14/04/2018 22:57

Have you phoned local police station? Maybe he has been arrested?

DiplomaticDecorum · 14/04/2018 22:57

Apparently this made a pp/total cunt laugh. Don’t know why because it’s fantastic advice.

Read it again, I think it was the apologising bit that was laughed at. Now it's your turn to apologise.

HyenaHappy · 14/04/2018 22:58

Annie I totally got why you found that post funny. I didn’t for a minute think you were laughing at the advice.

pontiouspilates · 14/04/2018 23:00

I'm sorry that you are going through this OP. Very strange that he didn't attend the Birthday dinnerThanks

DD43 · 14/04/2018 23:01

Yeah I saw annie's comment as harmless too. The poster owes her an apology.

OP, hope he calls you soon, but don't chase him.

SirVixofVixHall · 14/04/2018 23:02

He could have gone with his Mum to A and E perhaps ? It does sound like some sort of sudden emergency.

HyenaHappy · 14/04/2018 23:02

Is his car at his place OP?

I’ve got to say, I think I’d contact his mother. His gf doesn’t know where he is, his mates don’t know, he failed to show up for a party that he’d arranged to attend without explanation. I’d want to know if it were my son.

What’s the worst that can happen by bothering her?

DoctorWhatTheFuck · 14/04/2018 23:04

If he’s not been arrested/hospitalised then you should read baggage reclaim. There are posts about men who come on too strong then disappear .

BewareOfDragons · 14/04/2018 23:04

Sorry, OP. I have no suggestions, but the not knowing and just wondering where the hell he is and what happened must really suck.

AnnieAnoniMouser · 14/04/2018 23:05

THS

Please try not to worry. It’s far more likely he’s fallen asleep/stuck in Outer Mongolia with no phone reception/is somewhere he shouldn’t be than he’s come to any harm (yet).

The problem with phones these days is we tend to have all our contact details in them and not memorised. Years ago I could have rattled off a ton of phone numbers for friends and family, now I can only remember the landline number for any of those that haven’t moved. I haven’t memorised and new numbers at all or other contact details, so I couldn’t even use a friends phone to call a relatively new boyfriend.

bobstersmum · 14/04/2018 23:07

Hope he's ok, please do let us know!

bbcessex · 14/04/2018 23:08

Annie - very clear that your post was laughing at the sardonic comment as opposed to the sage advice.

Laughed at your post. Must therefore also be a cunt 🤪

bbcessex · 14/04/2018 23:10

Hyena - thinking about my 20 year old DS, I think you’re right - but still very likely it’s something innocent..

Hope you get it sorted soon OP X

AnnieAnoniMouser · 14/04/2018 23:12

Thanks DiplomaticDecorum, HyenaHappy & DD3. 💐

DoctorWhatTheFuck. Yeah, but not generally when they’ve left a lot of expensive stuff at their GF’s. Think he’s probably asleep somewhere or dealing with some other crisis & has a flat battery.

I’d be trying not to worry, but probably not succeeding. I’d keep trying the local hospitals & police.

I wouldn’t call him Mum if I’d only met her a couple of times, I wouldn’t want to worry her if he’s just fallen asleep or is being a twat and in his shoes I’d be very pissed off if a new b/f called my Mum because I hadn’t turned up for a night out.

Heismyopendoor · 14/04/2018 23:12

Very strange, hope you get to the bottom of it soon OP. Strange that his friends haven’t heard from him either.

SirVixofVixHall · 14/04/2018 23:14

How old is he ? Is his mum elderly ?