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To wonder where the hell he is?

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TheHeightSupremacist · 14/04/2018 20:59

Been seeing someone for a couple of months, at least twice a week but it’s been nearly every day over the past couple of weeks. He has been really into me, cooked for me, taken me away numerous times and said the l word very early on.

We had plans to go to his friends birthday tonight, spoke to him earlier and everything was fine. Text later to let him know what time I would be over, not read and no reply, we are now 2 and a half hours after we were supposed to meet and I haven’t heard from him since 3.30pm. No messages read, no answer to my calls. Getting a bit concerned, where could he be?!

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Gemini69 · 14/04/2018 21:24

I think he might be in my tree.. does he have a parrot

hahahaaaaaaaa brilliant.. it's not him is it ? Hmm

ferntwist · 14/04/2018 21:26

He’s lost his phone surely? Have you tried ringing it?

Beeziekn33ze · 14/04/2018 21:27

Sorry but is it possible his partner has been away for the last two weeks, school holiday ...

ferntwist · 14/04/2018 21:27

Doh so sorry, you’ve said no answer to your calls. I thought you’d said no answer to texts.
Sounds like he’s lost his phone.

mummmy2017 · 14/04/2018 21:31

DD once did this to me..
Sod went to sleep 6 hours was frantic...
Had been too her house the lot..
Phone was dead....

user1487175389 · 14/04/2018 21:35

He's probably fine. But drunk.

Some men get off on messing women around like this. If you ditch him, be prepared for him harassing you until you agree to make up. Give him another fortnight and he'll be doing it all over again. And so the abusive cycle begins. Or not, if you have the good sense to ditch him and makes sure he stays ditched.

Apologies if you've already found him dead in a gutter somewhere.

LizzieDarcy1907 · 14/04/2018 21:35

Have you looked on his social media? See if he's been active on it today?

Grilledaubergines · 14/04/2018 21:37

Is it not a bit previous to start accusing him of being controlling, a cheater, an arsehole etc?

There could be a number of reasons why the silence and you know, maybe wait and see how it pans out?

sweatylemon · 14/04/2018 21:52

Do you know any of his friends? Could you them?

ladybirdsarelovely33 · 14/04/2018 21:53

My friend was with someone like this - all fawning, making all the right noises and being very kind and then just out of the blue, a few weeks in, stood her up, stopped returning calls etc.
She never did find out what actually happened.
I don't think it bodes well OP tbh.

GreenTulips · 14/04/2018 21:55

Does he own a parrot?

I actually peed a little

RoseWhiteTips · 14/04/2018 21:56

Lucky escape, OP.

Waspsarewankers · 14/04/2018 21:57

What's the "in" joke referencing the parrot?

Cupcakes12 · 14/04/2018 21:58

Hope u find him soon

stayanotherday · 14/04/2018 22:01

There was another thread about a man stuck in a tree with an Ipad looking for a parrot called Gog Gog which turned out to be a troll. It's just been deleted.

4teensandababy · 14/04/2018 22:04

Damn, was the parrot one really a troll?!

HughLauriesStubble · 14/04/2018 22:05

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LucyAutumn · 14/04/2018 22:09

I'm with the 'try to contact one of his friends' camp. Really hope you're ok OP Flowers

sonjadog · 14/04/2018 22:11

Did anyone doubt the parrot one was a troll??

I wouldn't write him off yet, OP. Wait to hear what he says.

pictish · 14/04/2018 22:11

He’s got hammered with his friend. Just a guess. Is absolutely shitfaced.

BeesAreKing · 14/04/2018 22:14

Asleep maybe?

Canwejustrelaxnow · 14/04/2018 22:14

I'd say drunk too. How shit.

TerfsUp · 14/04/2018 22:18

I hope it's all been clarified, OP. Not knowing is the worst.

ShawshanksRedemption · 14/04/2018 22:25

YANBU no, but it's either genuine and he's in A&E, or he's ignoring you as something has cropped up (i.e. friend told him an old flame was coming tonight).

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TheHeightSupremacist · 14/04/2018 22:26

I checked his friends birthday meal, he wasn’t there and they couldn’t get hold of him either. He’s left lots of very expensive stuff at my house so I don’t think he’d just ghost me. Tried all the usual places he goes for drinks and no one has seen him. No social media activity since around the last time we spoke. Very concerned now

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